(Sorry that this post is long, I can be quite wordy.)
Hello LFAD,
I am a first time poster here. I have had an account for a few weeks now and all of your posts have helped me so much during this journey, I am already thankful for all of you.
I have scoured the forum for advice on this specific topic, but I have not seen it come up before and I am at my wits end trying to make a decision and think rationally about this situation.
I used to be a frequent player of an online Pictionary site called xSketch, and another one of the regular plays asked me out of the blue if I had AIM, I thought it was strange but I gave him my information. That night we spoke for hours and ever since then we have been inseparable. Despite our age difference we have a lot in common, are compatible, and we feel as though we are ‘soul mates.’ We text each other first thing in the morning when we wake up, text/IM each other all throughout the day, and text/phone until we fall asleep. We tell each other everything. This has been going strong for four months now. I really like him and I feel like we have the potential to be something very special. Both of us expressed our feelings for one another early on in the relationship so we both know that we like one another a great deal as more than friends.
I am 100% emotionally attached to him and I am waiting in baited breath until the day that we meet each other. He has expressed since the beginning that we cannot be bf/gf until we meet and that we are not exclusive, which does make sense. I have a lot of difficulty some days and I can’t help but feel heart-broken and consistently jealous because I know that he does look at girls although he has told me countless times that he is not searching for a gf and he is not concerned with other people. He has given me the label “potential girlfriend” to appease me but some days I spend in tears because I am worried that he will find a beautiful woman and all this will be for nothing. What should I do about this? Should I just hang tight until we visit and enjoy the fact that he spend all of his time sharing his life with me, wanting to meet?
Other than when this comes up when I’m feeling sad, lonely, or insecure- we have good trust for one another and we communicate a lot about everything.
Summary: We have been talking all day every day for four solid months. He has expressed that he does not want to be in an LDR until we meet each other. So we are not committed, not exclusive. He says that he is not looking for a girlfriend or looking for another person but he never stopped looking at other girls. I have become emotionally committed to him, but I don’t know what to do.
--Michelle
Hello LFAD,
I am a first time poster here. I have had an account for a few weeks now and all of your posts have helped me so much during this journey, I am already thankful for all of you.
I have scoured the forum for advice on this specific topic, but I have not seen it come up before and I am at my wits end trying to make a decision and think rationally about this situation.
I used to be a frequent player of an online Pictionary site called xSketch, and another one of the regular plays asked me out of the blue if I had AIM, I thought it was strange but I gave him my information. That night we spoke for hours and ever since then we have been inseparable. Despite our age difference we have a lot in common, are compatible, and we feel as though we are ‘soul mates.’ We text each other first thing in the morning when we wake up, text/IM each other all throughout the day, and text/phone until we fall asleep. We tell each other everything. This has been going strong for four months now. I really like him and I feel like we have the potential to be something very special. Both of us expressed our feelings for one another early on in the relationship so we both know that we like one another a great deal as more than friends.
I am 100% emotionally attached to him and I am waiting in baited breath until the day that we meet each other. He has expressed since the beginning that we cannot be bf/gf until we meet and that we are not exclusive, which does make sense. I have a lot of difficulty some days and I can’t help but feel heart-broken and consistently jealous because I know that he does look at girls although he has told me countless times that he is not searching for a gf and he is not concerned with other people. He has given me the label “potential girlfriend” to appease me but some days I spend in tears because I am worried that he will find a beautiful woman and all this will be for nothing. What should I do about this? Should I just hang tight until we visit and enjoy the fact that he spend all of his time sharing his life with me, wanting to meet?
Other than when this comes up when I’m feeling sad, lonely, or insecure- we have good trust for one another and we communicate a lot about everything.
Summary: We have been talking all day every day for four solid months. He has expressed that he does not want to be in an LDR until we meet each other. So we are not committed, not exclusive. He says that he is not looking for a girlfriend or looking for another person but he never stopped looking at other girls. I have become emotionally committed to him, but I don’t know what to do.
--Michelle
Chances are he's feeling just like you. I remember when I met my SO; the poor guy must've wondered if I was the same girl he'd been chatting to online, haha. I was so painfully shy... after all, it's easy to let your bubbly side show when you aren't face to face with the other person. Honestly, you'll be fine. Just employ the usual safety precautions (leaving contact details with someone back home etc.) and get ready for a wonderful time.
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