I don't know what to do =( I need Guys and Girls opinions pleaseeee!

[Engel]

Can you still go to Cuba? that is an once in a lifetime opportunity for YOU! he is focusing on bettering himself and his studies, you are leaving yours aside because of him. go to Cuba if you still can. if your relationship ends (and i hope it doesn't) this is something you could regreat for the rest of your life, for not having gone there and done your medical studies. if you two are meant to be together, it isn't a bad internet connection that will break you 2 up. good luck!

[Biddlybiddlybombop]

Have him prove to you how much he loves you, he sounds like he really does, just provide him with an 'ultimatum' for say.

I think that is really bad advice. In this situation, providing an ultimatum is more likely to get her the opposite of what she wants. Her SO is probably frustrated right now, and an ultimatum is more likely to piush him over the edge than win him back.

[Biddlybiddlybombop]

Biddlybiddlybombop thank you... your post def made me think... I had mates, but they're not supportive, they don't get the idea of LDR, they're so negative about it ... that's one of the reasons why I'm just... friendly. and other mates, the guys all they do is flirt in spite of me being in an awesome relationship, that sucks, so there is no way I'm hanging out with them. I actually do get support from my parents, and yes you're right... I shouldn't make him my entire world [as much as I want to]

I'm glad my post made you think. It was a bit tough going... :S
In terms of making friends, I'm sure not EVERYONE you meet is like this. Is there anyway you can meet some new people? I agree, support from your parents is great, but sometimes just the one source isn't enough. And I don't necessarily mean that you need support for your LDR. Friendship can be a source of support for other things - generally if you're just having a bad day, maybe someone said something mean to you, maybe you're having issues with a teacher or parent. Have you also thought that maybe these girls are skeptical because they don't know you well enough to trust your judgment?
When it comes to guys, if you don't like the attention they're giving you, you can say to them "Hey, I like your company, but I'm in a relationship and you flirting with me is making me uncomfortable, I'd appreciate it if you'd stop". If they refuse or get angry about it, they weren't your friend in the first place anyway. Guys tend to flirt with their girl mates anyway - and on the whole it can be pretty harmless. They don't necessarily mean what they're doing/saying to go any further than that. But like I said. If it makes you uncomfortable, tell them.
I'm only labouring this point because I think some good, solid, close friends will help keep you sane, in your LDR and other parts of your life. We humans are a species of sociability. Although you might enjoy alone time, and time with your family... well, I think you're underestimating what good friendships can do for you.

[VRose]

thank you Kiyama. I've been planning a date night since our anniversary and still no luck 'cause he's always busy But I'll try again when he has time to talk to me. thank you for your inspiration

[VRose]

hello Engel, I can still go to Cuba, but I'm not interested in that field anymore. I don't regret not going either... but thank you for your thoughts on it! I'm actually am going abroad next year for 2 years (to the same country as my bf, it is a choice I made independent of him) I'm satisfied with what I'm doing now, and will do abroad next year and I hope it all works out! and btw, congrats on your wedding!

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Biddlybiddlybombop yes thank you . I was thinking the same thing

[VRose]

Biddlybiddlybombop yes I know not everyone is like this, the last 10 friends were the "same" but I guess friend #11 is not the same. I do meet new people online all the time (like this forum) but I think I should make a good friend around here, it's time... my guy friends are so irritating, I already told them about my situation and that they should stop, but they're so stubborn so I just left them hanging :|

[Jovan]

After reading your post, I dare to say that what you re facing now is same as mine. We re in the same boat VR. What you feel right is what i am know. and I know exactly cos it's really hurt. The only different is, ,my girlfriend easily get mad and yelling whenever we had a chance to speak on the phone. Anyway, i think we should take the advice from all our dear friend. I bet it's so difficult to start but i'm sure at the end of the day.. it's worth for us. Best of luck to us,,,,

[VRose]

@Jovan thank you for your comment. It is worth it, just hold on and take care! goodluck

[keminlove]

I know this may sound bad, but having a boyfriend whether it's CD or LD should not stop you from living. You should have guy and girl friends that you can count on and just because you got hurt once doesn't mean it'll happen again. Also for you have given up med school for him while he's in Europe pursuing his dreams should tell you something, he's living his life and you should do the same. Stop isolating yourself and please do something because you can't blame him for having fun. Being in love does not mean you sacrifice everything for that person, you need to keep some part of you to keep you sane. Give him some space and try to look at things from a different perspective before the work break up comes to mind. I you guys work it out, good luck.

[VRose]

Thanks Keminlove... I'm learning from things I've done wrong (: