My best friend is in a LDR with this girl that one of my personal "real life" friends introduced him to.
and since about a month in, his girlfriend has thought he was an internet fake, because he is cute.
Well, my friend had two of our real life personal friends meet her and hangout with her a few times to make her feel better, since being introduced by someone who knows me in person was not enough proof for her. That worked for all of two seconds. Until she started adding people from his highschool and calling his cell phone company to see who his phone name was under, trying to look up his dad and him in her dads cop car, tracking his IP address via his iPod (he uses that for internet since he does not have a computer due to a bad living situation), looking up his photographs online to see if anyone else has them, etc...
when he has never given her a reason to think he was an internet fake. He made her proofs multiple times when he could and she questioned them and said they could be photoshoped. Like, she was just always questioning everything, and while that's good when meeting someone on the internet, I feel the extent that she questioned him was a bit extreme, to say the least.
My friend Danny has moreorless, ruined a lot of long term things for himself trying to make this relationship work. We live in different states at the moment otherwise I would be there to help him out, but he is homeless and selling artwork to try to get to this girl, even though they are as of now, broken up.
He has done so much for this girl, proofs, he writes her a letter every single day even though they're split he still writes to her, he stands up to his family about her, he does so much for her... and in the time that I have known her she has never once told him thank you or not to work so hard or cared about his wellbeing at all. It has always been me, me, me with her.
Well, she found a fake of him online, which isn't really a surprise because he gets faked a lot online, but he has proof against those fakes, but anyways, she found this fake and was automatically like "you're fake, he's real. end this fantasy world that you live in" and I quote. The fake refuses to make proof, while Danny has proof that he made against that fake. But, I told him it was a waste of time to send that to her because she would never believe him anyways.
It's difficult for me to comprehend because in my long distance relationship, we've never had these problems. We both mutually care for one another, we both respect one another, we both know each other are real and we were introduced by a mutual real life friend via myspace a few years ago, we have love, trust, understanding, and communication down. So, I'm honestly not sure as to what to tell him about this. To me, it all sounds really crazy.
Can anyone offer some advice as to what I can tell him? He's destroying his life, quite literally, over this relationship. He has done everything in this relationship and all she seems to do is sit back and complain about what he cannot do. he is turning 20 and she is 23.
Thank you to anyone who reads this >.< Tried to shorten it down as much as I could.
and since about a month in, his girlfriend has thought he was an internet fake, because he is cute.
Well, my friend had two of our real life personal friends meet her and hangout with her a few times to make her feel better, since being introduced by someone who knows me in person was not enough proof for her. That worked for all of two seconds. Until she started adding people from his highschool and calling his cell phone company to see who his phone name was under, trying to look up his dad and him in her dads cop car, tracking his IP address via his iPod (he uses that for internet since he does not have a computer due to a bad living situation), looking up his photographs online to see if anyone else has them, etc...
when he has never given her a reason to think he was an internet fake. He made her proofs multiple times when he could and she questioned them and said they could be photoshoped. Like, she was just always questioning everything, and while that's good when meeting someone on the internet, I feel the extent that she questioned him was a bit extreme, to say the least.
My friend Danny has moreorless, ruined a lot of long term things for himself trying to make this relationship work. We live in different states at the moment otherwise I would be there to help him out, but he is homeless and selling artwork to try to get to this girl, even though they are as of now, broken up.
He has done so much for this girl, proofs, he writes her a letter every single day even though they're split he still writes to her, he stands up to his family about her, he does so much for her... and in the time that I have known her she has never once told him thank you or not to work so hard or cared about his wellbeing at all. It has always been me, me, me with her.
Well, she found a fake of him online, which isn't really a surprise because he gets faked a lot online, but he has proof against those fakes, but anyways, she found this fake and was automatically like "you're fake, he's real. end this fantasy world that you live in" and I quote. The fake refuses to make proof, while Danny has proof that he made against that fake. But, I told him it was a waste of time to send that to her because she would never believe him anyways.
It's difficult for me to comprehend because in my long distance relationship, we've never had these problems. We both mutually care for one another, we both respect one another, we both know each other are real and we were introduced by a mutual real life friend via myspace a few years ago, we have love, trust, understanding, and communication down. So, I'm honestly not sure as to what to tell him about this. To me, it all sounds really crazy.
Can anyone offer some advice as to what I can tell him? He's destroying his life, quite literally, over this relationship. He has done everything in this relationship and all she seems to do is sit back and complain about what he cannot do. he is turning 20 and she is 23.
Thank you to anyone who reads this >.< Tried to shorten it down as much as I could.
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