I thought I'd give my take on how being LDR has affected our relationship. This is the second time we have been LD. (Our story: CD Jan-sept 09, LD Sept 09 - march10, Kind of closed the distance march 10 (complicated story) and now LD again as of july 11) The first period of being LD we managed to see each other once every 2 weeks, now, after moving to another freaking country its once every 3-6 months, BUT its not forever, as of july/august 12 we will be CD again (sort of... we'll atleast be in the same country!!!)
So back to the original point of this thread. I honestly believe I was too young to close the distance when we did first time around (I was 18) it was his decision and of course I supported it, but I was so apprehensive about the commitment he was making (Basically, I felt like, if things turned sour then I was going to resented). During the time we were CD again, we had a complete communication breakdown, which both of us awknowledge. We would see each other maybe once a week, twice a week max! (We were both busy with work and other things that college/uni brings). During this visits, we would arrive late at night to each others place, watch TV, maybe have sex and then just go to sleep, wake up in the morning and leave early for whatever class we had. We didnt talk much, and if we did, we didnt talk about important relationship things. We got stuck in a huge rut.
I WHOLE HEARTEDLY BELIEVE being LDR again SAVED our relationship. We were forced to talk, because there really wasnt a whole lot more we could do. During his 2week visit here, we were the most open with each other we have EVER been in our whole 3 year relationship, and it means so much to me. We have both promised things will be different when we close the distance again. He's never been one for talking much about the future, but we actually started to make plans. We're not moving in together yet, but hes going to give me a key to his apartment (I would do the same but I'm going to be living in crappy student accomodation). I feel ready to close the distance this time around. We both feel more like adults now, and we now have an adult relationship.
Thats all I wanted to share really, a different take on an LDR.
So back to the original point of this thread. I honestly believe I was too young to close the distance when we did first time around (I was 18) it was his decision and of course I supported it, but I was so apprehensive about the commitment he was making (Basically, I felt like, if things turned sour then I was going to resented). During the time we were CD again, we had a complete communication breakdown, which both of us awknowledge. We would see each other maybe once a week, twice a week max! (We were both busy with work and other things that college/uni brings). During this visits, we would arrive late at night to each others place, watch TV, maybe have sex and then just go to sleep, wake up in the morning and leave early for whatever class we had. We didnt talk much, and if we did, we didnt talk about important relationship things. We got stuck in a huge rut.
I WHOLE HEARTEDLY BELIEVE being LDR again SAVED our relationship. We were forced to talk, because there really wasnt a whole lot more we could do. During his 2week visit here, we were the most open with each other we have EVER been in our whole 3 year relationship, and it means so much to me. We have both promised things will be different when we close the distance again. He's never been one for talking much about the future, but we actually started to make plans. We're not moving in together yet, but hes going to give me a key to his apartment (I would do the same but I'm going to be living in crappy student accomodation). I feel ready to close the distance this time around. We both feel more like adults now, and we now have an adult relationship.
Thats all I wanted to share really, a different take on an LDR.
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