I realize that this issue could also be prevalent in normal couples but...well read on.
A bit of background - I'm 29, engaged to a wonderful man in the UK who is 30.
Our job situations are completely different. He hates his job, makes next to nothing and is very depressed because of it (all his words, not mine). In my eyes, however, he's moving to the US to be with me soon so that can ultimately turn around for him - I guess I'm trying to be positive about it. And I really don't care how much he makes anyway - I make more than enough for the two of us.
Meanwhile, I'm getting recognized in my company left and right. Last night (and this is the issue that prompted me to post a thread here), I found out I was chosen for a prestigious position to advise and consult one of my state's financial industries. We were chatting last night I told him I was one out of twelve professionals to be chosen for this task. His response? "Out of how many?"
Okay - so first I let that question slide because in retrospect, it could be taken any way. However, I chose to take it negatively. Why would that matter? But then he went on to say "well done" and changed the subject. Which, of course, didn't sit well with me. I was passive aggressive, answering questions or replying with only emotes (yes, very childish I know). And finally I told him I was just going to call my dad to tell him the news because I know he'd be excited and supportive. He got upset, we argued, he brought up his crappy job and after going back and forth "made up". But this morning I still didn't feel very satisfied with how we left it. I guess I just feel this is a preview of the kind of support I'll be getting if I get any higher in my company and he well, doesn't.
Was I wrong to make a big deal of it? Anyone in a similar situation? Do you let it affect your overall relationship (which is fantastic)?
A bit of background - I'm 29, engaged to a wonderful man in the UK who is 30.
Our job situations are completely different. He hates his job, makes next to nothing and is very depressed because of it (all his words, not mine). In my eyes, however, he's moving to the US to be with me soon so that can ultimately turn around for him - I guess I'm trying to be positive about it. And I really don't care how much he makes anyway - I make more than enough for the two of us.
Meanwhile, I'm getting recognized in my company left and right. Last night (and this is the issue that prompted me to post a thread here), I found out I was chosen for a prestigious position to advise and consult one of my state's financial industries. We were chatting last night I told him I was one out of twelve professionals to be chosen for this task. His response? "Out of how many?"
Okay - so first I let that question slide because in retrospect, it could be taken any way. However, I chose to take it negatively. Why would that matter? But then he went on to say "well done" and changed the subject. Which, of course, didn't sit well with me. I was passive aggressive, answering questions or replying with only emotes (yes, very childish I know). And finally I told him I was just going to call my dad to tell him the news because I know he'd be excited and supportive. He got upset, we argued, he brought up his crappy job and after going back and forth "made up". But this morning I still didn't feel very satisfied with how we left it. I guess I just feel this is a preview of the kind of support I'll be getting if I get any higher in my company and he well, doesn't.
Was I wrong to make a big deal of it? Anyone in a similar situation? Do you let it affect your overall relationship (which is fantastic)?
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