how often do you talk?

[katylynnlee]

My SO and I recently broke up in January, and immediately got back together, but decided not to date officially (facebook) until I move there in the summer. However, he has been preoccupied with other things, and so have I. We use to talk ALL the time, for hours upon hours every day. Now because we're not talking so much, it's put stress on me. But he insists that this is okay, and that an hour or two every day is fine.

I was just wondering how often you talk to your SO, because I am so scared to lose the connection I have with mine, that I feel that phone has to be on my ear constantly, hahah. I might be over doing it. :P

[kiara_silver]

For me, im a bit spoiled on the day part. I like to hear from my SO everyday unless told before hand he will be away (Weather vacation, college, whatever it is) So me and my SO usually have some sort of connection daily. Usually.... But we have ups and downs with this, where sometimes we talk more or sometimes less. When he's busy, its less, or sometimes we just have dry spells. Where we can go a few days without talking. (Just messaging, or quick notes) But on the best points in our relationship we can go from 3-6 hours talking in a day. Sometimes more sometimes less. But it's been up and down for the past nearly three years lol. But on average i say we have 3, 1-4 hour days a week. The rest is up in the air depending on whats going on.

[11MikesGirl21]

Before his cell service was cut off we'd text throughout the day sporadically. And then at night on week days we'd talk online (AIM) from about 11pm-1am. Weekends was a little more up in the air, but we'd normally always talk at some point. Phone calls were rare, but usually on Saturday afternoons.

Now with his cell gone until further notice, I have a feeling except on nights where I know he's not going to be available to talk at the time we've decided on for phone calls, we'll be talking from 9-10 or 10:30 PM. If he can't make it to the phone then probably will be AIM at a pre-determined time.

Think of it this way, at least you're still getting some pretty regular communication time in. Not every LDR couple has that. I'm extremely spoiled that 1. we share the same timezone and 2. my grandmother ( he lives with my grandparents-step 1 in closing distance) lets him use the phone to call me.

[LilyChiba]

Since I'm not working, I get to talk to mine all day if I want. I of course, pull myself away from my pc to do the important things and just to get away and look for work. If I was working, we'd probably only get a couple of hours ourselves.

[Kiyama]

I think everybody is different.
Because of time difference and work, we never talk more than 30-60 mins a day. In a busy week we might only get 5-10 mins! Only on our date night do we get to talk for a few hours so don't worry too much about it Maybe this even turns out to be better for your relationship?

[alesitag]

I talk to him almost on a daily basis, whether it's online or on the phone. Some days we can chat for hours, since I have to be stuck to my computer while at work and most of the time he's at home (he works mostly night shifts), some other days we only exchange a couple of lines if we're both super busy or I'm at home and someone else needs the computer it a quick phone call to say hello and hear each other's voice and say good night.

On weekends I stay up all night and keep him company during his shift if I don't have to work the next day.

If for some reason we're not able to talk at all (like today :'()we try to leave offline messages for each other... God forbid I forget to leave offline messages!!! He immediately freaks out and his mind starts playing tricks on him.

[dglynn77]

We try not to talk more often than every other night, otherwise we run out of things to say, and then I get grumpy lol
We text a lot though!

[GrandSupreme]

We talk every day, from the moment we return from school/work until we go to bed

[morven]

we talk twice a day morning and night and normally its just a quick phone call like 10 mins if that and sometimes i get a videocall if he is at a friends house with internet but thats about once a week and only for 10 mins however we havent been apart long just under a month and i leave to join him on saturday so its not too much of a stress for us to talk all the time because we know we will be together soon ... also i dont find it an issue because my ex who i was in a ldr with was terrible he hardly called and told me to only call him when he rang me and never had much time to speak to me at all and i had to make all the effort

[lademoiselle]

We aim for contact of some sort at least once every day. On average, we'll chat at intervals (for about a quarter of an hour each time) from 9-5 during the week when he's at work, plus an hour or two in the evenings. We speak less at weekends, because he's out rather a lot and busy with other things. I suppose as time has passed we've cut down on talking time, but it doesn't feel like we're less connected or anything!

[dukes2011]

We usually talk every day for about 30-60 minutes right before we go to bed. We mix it up, sometimes talking on the phone and other nights we'll Skype. If we have more time it's definitely Skype. We're lucky to be in the same time zone.No matter what, we text throughout the day and get back to the other person whenever.

When I studied abroad a few years ago, we were lucky if we talked on thee phone/Skype 30 minutes once a week. We also communicated primarily through email because even texting was expensive for both of us and my host family didn't have internet, meaning I'd have to go a cafe or the university.

[Rugger]

We text every day, normally from 7 ish until I go to bed. We aren't phone people so we rarely speak on the phone

[katylynnlee]

If for some reason we're not able to talk at all (like today :'()we try to leave offline messages for each other... God forbid I forget to leave offline messages!!! He immediately freaks out and his mind starts playing tricks on him.

Yeah, my boyfriend is like this too. He overthinks things a lot, and so do I. He won't have a new cellphone for a couple of weeks, and that's mainly how we talked before, so if we're not on the phone, I assume we'll just stop talking. But we've been together for almost two years, so I don't think that'll happen. I'm just paranoid. :P

[lyonsgirl]

My SO & I text throughout the day while I'm at work (if he's not at work) and it's only a rare occasion that we don't talk on the phone before bed. We're in different time zones, but I'm only an hour behind him so it's really not that bad. We Skype whenever we can, usually for about an hour or sometimes 2.

[temporaryuser]

we text more than we talk, simply because we are both so busy. But when we do talk, its for hours at a time. But nthese days thats only every other week or so.