Aside from all the other situations my SO and I are dealing with right now, I think the biggest one would be the challenge of visiting each other this summer. I just finished university and need to go out and find an amazing and lucritive job, but I have been dragging my heels for just over a month now. After finishing school, I am super broke (not to mention the evil student debt) and it sucks, so I am back home for awhile....which also puts a damper on things, but that is for another post. I realize that I need money to go see him (he came to see me the first time and met my friends at school and now he wants me to come and see him and meet his friends and family), but I have this sick feeling like if I find a job, I won't be able to take off enough time to go see him (paying for a $500-700+ airline ticket and other necessities seems kind of pointless if I fly down one day and back the next). So, I think I have become rather isolated and depressed, on top of my worries (logically, what I am doing is probably silly, but I keep waiting for this miracle solution to land in my lap).
He has a fall term of university left to go, but is already busy at work this summer. Originally, his dad had promised him an airline ticket for a birthday present (I'm not sure that his dad knew about me at the time or not, but his mom did), which he told me he wanted to use for me...but he doesn't talk about that anymore and I don't want to press him. After talking about my worries about the situation to him, he said that he did feel we could make it through the summer without seeing each other, though it would be very difficult, but that was a last resort. He said he was concerned about me not looking for work, because I am worrying and he doesn't want to be the cause of me not finding a career. He then took to saying that he would be putting more hours in at work, so that he could pay for my ticket. Which was sweet, but I feel like he already resents the idea. I think the most realistic scenario, even if I do get work, may still be that he assists me on part of the flight cost.
Do you think there is a way for me to get a cool job and be able to visit him this summer for a decent amount of time? Any other advice for this situation?
He has a fall term of university left to go, but is already busy at work this summer. Originally, his dad had promised him an airline ticket for a birthday present (I'm not sure that his dad knew about me at the time or not, but his mom did), which he told me he wanted to use for me...but he doesn't talk about that anymore and I don't want to press him. After talking about my worries about the situation to him, he said that he did feel we could make it through the summer without seeing each other, though it would be very difficult, but that was a last resort. He said he was concerned about me not looking for work, because I am worrying and he doesn't want to be the cause of me not finding a career. He then took to saying that he would be putting more hours in at work, so that he could pay for my ticket. Which was sweet, but I feel like he already resents the idea. I think the most realistic scenario, even if I do get work, may still be that he assists me on part of the flight cost.
Do you think there is a way for me to get a cool job and be able to visit him this summer for a decent amount of time? Any other advice for this situation?
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