Hi LFAD. New to the site and liking a lot of things I've seen.
Unfortunately, I'm not liking what I'm noticing in my LDR.
A little bit about my LDR. My LDR GF and I met on an online game. We've known each other for about 7 months, but made it "official" about 2 months ago. She started hanging out with me a lot about one month before we went "official." Things were going very well up until about 2 weeks ago.
Now here's the problem. Just randomly (can't say for sure if it was random or not...to me it was out of the blue) one day, she decides to hang out with an old (online) buddy of hers and now no longer really does anything with me. We used to play games online together every day and skype everyday. She seems to hang out with this buddy of hers every day now and they play games together a lot as well. There's also some fishy stuff going on, and I think she's been calling him on skype instead of me (I'm supposed to be her BF...???). Worst thing is that this is happening very often.
Before all that, she would initiate almost every call every day, and also start the day off by IMing me with stuff like "hi! <3" Or things like hugs. We would do some fun stuff together and while she would get mad at stuff sometimes, she was pretty understanding. We would talk about our future together a lot, and she would talk wishing I could be there so we could do stuff together IRL. We even did "naughty" things together sometimes. Problem is, she no longer does any of these things.
I've been trying to piece things together (this dude that came out of nowhere and her sudden waning interest in me) and I think I've found out some disturbing things...if my theory/hypothesis is correct or whatever. Anyway, enough of that...
But one of the things that worry me is that I think she's been lying to me recently. She doesn't say a thing about talking to this guy on skype, but I'm like...99% sure she's talking to him fairly often. She's probably spent more time talking with him than me in the past two weeks. Although I guess we don't really have much to talk about sometimes. Anyway, there was this one incident which really confused me, and I think I sort of caught her red-handed, but I didn't push the subject because I don't want to lose her and piss her off. She's been very irritable lately as well; the littlest thing I say pisses her off even though before she would just laugh at it. It seems like there's a lot of tension between us now.
What I think might be happening is that she's putting me on the side and is going to go for this guy. She has a trip somewhere soon and I think she's possibly masking it as something else so it doesn't seem suspicious. I did a little snooping and apparently the guy has a holiday on the friday she's leaving for whatever she's going to. I don't know what is really happening so I don't wanna confront her about it and ask what's going on. I mean -- maybe she's just going to try and get laid by this guy or something...or maybe not. But my gut is telling me she is. Or maybe its just me and I'm just like my username?
Anyway, this has been eating at me for the last two weeks and I don't know how much more I can take before I snap. I don't know what I should do. Should I ask her what's up with her and this guy? Should I just back off and see what happens? Should I confront her and just end it (really don't wanna do this)? Should I have "talk" with her about the relationship? I'm afraid of asking about the relationship because I did last time and she flipped out on me thinking I was going to break up with her, which was definitely not the case since I love her and I haven't thought of anyone else since she's come into my life.
Sort of TL;DR - She's acting different and distant while hanging out with an old friend of hers. What should I do?
Thanks for reading (or not reading) and I hope to hear what some of you have to say. There are some more details I may have left out, so if more info is needed, I'll see what I can do.
I've been extremely frustrated and stressed out the last two weeks, so I most likely missed something and this is probably a cluster-ef of a post. I apologize for that.
Unfortunately, I'm not liking what I'm noticing in my LDR.
A little bit about my LDR. My LDR GF and I met on an online game. We've known each other for about 7 months, but made it "official" about 2 months ago. She started hanging out with me a lot about one month before we went "official." Things were going very well up until about 2 weeks ago.
Now here's the problem. Just randomly (can't say for sure if it was random or not...to me it was out of the blue) one day, she decides to hang out with an old (online) buddy of hers and now no longer really does anything with me. We used to play games online together every day and skype everyday. She seems to hang out with this buddy of hers every day now and they play games together a lot as well. There's also some fishy stuff going on, and I think she's been calling him on skype instead of me (I'm supposed to be her BF...???). Worst thing is that this is happening very often.
Before all that, she would initiate almost every call every day, and also start the day off by IMing me with stuff like "hi! <3" Or things like hugs. We would do some fun stuff together and while she would get mad at stuff sometimes, she was pretty understanding. We would talk about our future together a lot, and she would talk wishing I could be there so we could do stuff together IRL. We even did "naughty" things together sometimes. Problem is, she no longer does any of these things.
I've been trying to piece things together (this dude that came out of nowhere and her sudden waning interest in me) and I think I've found out some disturbing things...if my theory/hypothesis is correct or whatever. Anyway, enough of that...
But one of the things that worry me is that I think she's been lying to me recently. She doesn't say a thing about talking to this guy on skype, but I'm like...99% sure she's talking to him fairly often. She's probably spent more time talking with him than me in the past two weeks. Although I guess we don't really have much to talk about sometimes. Anyway, there was this one incident which really confused me, and I think I sort of caught her red-handed, but I didn't push the subject because I don't want to lose her and piss her off. She's been very irritable lately as well; the littlest thing I say pisses her off even though before she would just laugh at it. It seems like there's a lot of tension between us now.
What I think might be happening is that she's putting me on the side and is going to go for this guy. She has a trip somewhere soon and I think she's possibly masking it as something else so it doesn't seem suspicious. I did a little snooping and apparently the guy has a holiday on the friday she's leaving for whatever she's going to. I don't know what is really happening so I don't wanna confront her about it and ask what's going on. I mean -- maybe she's just going to try and get laid by this guy or something...or maybe not. But my gut is telling me she is. Or maybe its just me and I'm just like my username?
Anyway, this has been eating at me for the last two weeks and I don't know how much more I can take before I snap. I don't know what I should do. Should I ask her what's up with her and this guy? Should I just back off and see what happens? Should I confront her and just end it (really don't wanna do this)? Should I have "talk" with her about the relationship? I'm afraid of asking about the relationship because I did last time and she flipped out on me thinking I was going to break up with her, which was definitely not the case since I love her and I haven't thought of anyone else since she's come into my life.
Sort of TL;DR - She's acting different and distant while hanging out with an old friend of hers. What should I do?
Thanks for reading (or not reading) and I hope to hear what some of you have to say. There are some more details I may have left out, so if more info is needed, I'll see what I can do.
I've been extremely frustrated and stressed out the last two weeks, so I most likely missed something and this is probably a cluster-ef of a post. I apologize for that.
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