Juat watched the film Going The Distance...

[Littlebirdlolita]

UGH. Massive lump in my throat! I can't believe how much they got right. How I felt they portrayed exactly how I feel. So silly, but that film is just perfect.

Now, if only mine and my baby's relationship will work out just like theres in the movie... Haha If only life were so easy huh?

Has anyone else watched it? I'd imagine so. Haha What did anyone think? Favourite bits? Bits that reminded you of your SO?

Now I can't stop bloody thinking about him =( Haha Just wish we could cuddle.

x

[Haley53]

I found that movie more accurate than Like Crazy, to be honest! But there was a lot I couldn't stand about the latter... I have seen it - I own it - and I do enjoy it. It's a movie I watch every now and again, though, not something I'd watch every day. It definitely has its moments. The one thing I didn't like about it was the fact that they gave it up. I'm not sure if you've seen Like Crazy and I don't want to spoil it, but I feel like many LDR-themed movies have a quality that undermines LDRs themselves? I get that in a movie about a long distance relationship, the distance is the conflict, but I simply don't appreciate this idea behind "we don't have a relationship. It's too hard" "Oh, we're close together now. YAY! We can have a relationship again!" I feel like LDR films could do a lot more to emphasise the strength, determination, and characteristics that go into maintaining a LDR, as opposed to using the distance as conflict. That said, I did like the movie. It's cute, and it's funny, too, even though it has its moments of being a bit on the silly side. xD I really like the portrayal of sex and how that's done. That was absolutely brilliant, haha.

[Darth_Taco]

I just thought I'd come in and say Like Crazy was based on the true struggles of the director and his ex-wife :P. So technically it was very accurate xD.

No seriously, I have nothing else to contribute since I haven't seen Going the Distance. I'm not into those types of films :P.

[Spriteling]

Like Eclaire said, I thought it was quite good, other than the fact that they gave up and said they didn't have a relationship. I thought that felt like a bit of a slap n the face to everyone who /is/ making an LDR work.

[Littlebirdlolita]

Yea, that's interesting! I hadn't thought about that side of it actually.

But, I do feel that sometimes in LDR's there is definitely a sense of "Is it worth it, or should we give up?" You know. Me personally, I know me and my SO have both had feelings like that, but then we see each other on skype and are instantly, "Nope, this will work!!!" Haha

And the sex side, haha, it just made me laugh because sometimes it's just like that! Lol You know!?

I haven't seen Like Crazy, i'll give that one a watch sometime. The problem is, I watch these films and then I get all silly. Haha

Eclaire, you're right though, it would be nice to perhaps see a bit more of the stronger side of LDR's. Looking more at how people do deal with the distance in a positive light, looking maybe more at the emotional connection? Not just the physical attraction and distance issue. Yea. Because yea, we do still have healthy relationships even without that physical side. Besides, the distance always makes seeing them in person SO MUCH more thrilling! Don't you think? I've only got a few weeks until I see my SO again face to face and there were scenes in that film that I felt just captured exactly how I know I will feel. Haha

Can anyone suggest any other films about LDR's that I should watch? Preferably with happy endings only please! Haha I like the hopefulness, =P Haha

[Tanja]

Me and my SO watched it and we thought it didn't show at all the true pain we felt everytime we had to say goodbye, the characters just hugged and smiled and said bye. And the fact that they gave up on the relationship because of the distance was just stupid. It was nothing like a real long distance relationship in our opinion.

[Jazi]

we thought it didn't show at all the true pain we felt everytime we had to say goodbye, the characters just hugged and smiled and said bye.

I felt like this when I watched Going The Distance, I understand it is suppose to be a romantic comedy but it really didn't show anything in that heart-wrenching way we feel it day to day, it was too light-hearted.. Although I did relate to it, I just felt it didn't express the true emotion.

I think Tanja was talking about Like Crazy though (correct me if I'm wrong ) and me and my SO felt such a huge emotional pull when watching it, we had to pause it for like 5 minutes after the guy left London and she was on the train/tube by herself after he had left.. My boyfriend has to go through EXACTLY the same thing every time, it really hit home. We were both crying our eyes out.

but in both of these movies I didn't really like the relationships.. Like Crazy really frustrated me and Going The Distance just didnt make me feel like they were a loving couple and they didn't seem very emotional

[Haley53]

I just thought I'd come in and say Like Crazy was based on the true struggles of the director and his ex-wife :P. So technically it was very accurate xD.

No seriously, I have nothing else to contribute since I haven't seen Going the Distance. I'm not into those types of films :P.

Accurate for one person's struggle, but I have to say it was one of the most unhealthy representations of a LDR I have seen. :P So perhaps technically, but I would not say it's a one size fits all kind of film, which is what I was really hoping to see from it, was something I could relate to. D:

ETA: OP, Like Crazy has an absolutely depressing ending if you want a heads up. xD

[efish1042]

I loved it. My SO and I are closer than a lot of people so this movie would be more of an exaggeration for us, but I know it's very true for many couples. I thought it was awesome and did a wonderful job of showing what it's like for us LDR couples.

[blankita719]

Going the Distance was cute but I didn't think it was accurate at all in the way they dealt with things. My SO watched it and he agreed it wasn't anything like what we deal with when leaving each other - or how we communicate with each other. It's funny but not real. Even when they try to be, it doesn't come close to the reality of leaving them at the airport or trying to have a serious conversation about closing the distance.

[Xanahtas]

I've seen Going the distance and Like Crazy and both movies i didnt think were any good. I felt neither of the couple actually wanted to make it work if that makes sense? There wasnt much of a connection between them. Didnt show many positives, mostly negatives and they both gave the impression that LDR's are impossible.
Im quite fussy with movies lol, i wouldnt watch either of them again. But they do have their moments!

[CanadianGirl]

I'll post again when I actually watch the movie (it's loading awfully slow).

I just wanted to say that it's strange that movies never seem to capture the true sense of an LDR when they actually are pretty dramatic at times. It's not too surprising though. They have this movie that should appeal to the masses and most people never know what an LDR should feel like. It's almost like we (people in LDRs) aren't actually the intended audience...if we were, they'd make these damned things inspiring and not depressing =/

[marbear31]

I love this movie!!!! But I hate how they associate a "real" relationship with physicality. I think it does marvelously display how not everyone is cut out for an LDR, and what strength of character and mettle it takes to thrive in one.

So, pats on the back for all of us? :P

[Tanja]

I felt like this when I watched Going The Distance, I understand it is suppose to be a romantic comedy but it really didn't show anything in that heart-wrenching way we feel it day to day, it was too light-hearted.. Although I did relate to it, I just felt it didn't express the true emotion.

I think Tanja was talking about Like Crazy though (correct me if I'm wrong ) and me and my SO felt such a huge emotional pull when watching it, we had to pause it for like 5 minutes after the guy left London and she was on the train/tube by herself after he had left.. My boyfriend has to go through EXACTLY the same thing every time, it really hit home. We were both crying our eyes out.

but in both of these movies I didn't really like the relationships.. Like Crazy really frustrated me and Going The Distance just didnt make me feel like they were a loving couple and they didn't seem very emotional

No I was talking about Going the Distance.

[Jazi]

No I was talking about Going the Distance.

oh, my bad sorry! I pretty much think you could apply what you said to either movie