My SO and I are kind of in different phases of our lives. I am in grad school and he is working full time. As a result, he is looking more toward settling down and I'm not there yet. He talks about getting engaged once I get a fellowship. Hopefully I'll get one in a year when I graduate. We are currently 22 and 23 and have been together 4 years in August so I realize that many would say it's not too soon to be planning for the future like this, but it's still scary. I don't want to be engaged without making some of my own money first. I will have some student loans and I also won't be done paying off my car. I like taking life one day at a time, probably because school is crazy and that's all I can do to not go crazy!
Whenever we talk about it lately, he tells me I'm being overly logical and that I shouldn't be afraid but that doesn't stop me. He tells me we will work it out and everything will be ok since he has a lot saved up. I do love him more than anything and want to get married in the next few years, however I always wanted to more financially stable as an individual first. He is great with money and I am too, but for some reason it still makes me nervous. I know money isn't everything, but I grew up in a household where my parents lived paycheck to paycheck. It caused a lot of stress in my parent's marriage, so I think that might be where my fears come from. Am I being too cautious or am I being realistic? Just wanted someone from a third party to weigh in.
Whenever we talk about it lately, he tells me I'm being overly logical and that I shouldn't be afraid but that doesn't stop me. He tells me we will work it out and everything will be ok since he has a lot saved up. I do love him more than anything and want to get married in the next few years, however I always wanted to more financially stable as an individual first. He is great with money and I am too, but for some reason it still makes me nervous. I know money isn't everything, but I grew up in a household where my parents lived paycheck to paycheck. It caused a lot of stress in my parent's marriage, so I think that might be where my fears come from. Am I being too cautious or am I being realistic? Just wanted someone from a third party to weigh in.
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