Ok so here’s the background: my babe was in 2 brief relationships a few years ago before he was with me, and both girls cheated on him. My best friend Gson (his nickname) is a guy, and all my friends are guys. I call them “the group.” My other best friend Leah was a girl, but we’re not friends anymore ‘cause she became someone I have no respect for. My babe doesn’t like her either, so she’s just out of the picture. All I have left is Gson. He’s my only real friend. Leah abandoned us whenever she got a boyfriend (which was like every month), and she was our sister. I mean the three of us were as close as could be; but she ended her friendship with us for a boy. I had never seen Gson so upset and hurt. I promised him and myself that I would NEVER do that to him.
Now the problem is that my babe is basically asking me to do what Leah did…whenever I see the group, even if their girlfriends all come along, my babe gets so mad. I can’t ever see Gson without my babe getting upset with me. I don’t get along well with girls and I don’t want any girl friends ‘cause of all the drama they always start. These guys are my brothers. Gson has been my best friend and brother longer than my babe has been with me. I talked to my mom about it last night and she agreed that he doesn’t have a right to try to keep me from seeing my friends. He’s always out with his friends. He’s always either at school, at work, or out with his friends. I hardly ever go out, maybe once a month. And when I finally do, he gets mad ‘cause they’re all guys. I get the same crap every time I go out. It’s just not fair…these guys are all I have, they’re my BROTHERS and nothing more. But he can’t seem to get that.
I mean if we were married, then things would be different. I wouldn’t be hanging out with guys and I would never be alone with one. That’s just not appropriate. But we’re not married, we don’t live together, and we’re almost 2,000 miles apart. We have separate lives and our social lives, and I just don’t feel like we have the right to tell each other who we can and can’t hang out with. I cut down on my social life a LOT for him. I was seeing my friends once a week or more, but I cut down to once every 1-2 MONTHS. I send him love letters and a card every month, I text him whenever I get the chance, I let the whole world know how much I love him, hell I even flew almost 2,000 miles to be with him and to go to his prom with him. But as soon as I go out with my friends, none of that seems to matter.
I understand that he’s paranoid ‘cause of the way his past girlfriends were, I get where he’s coming from. But I just don’t think he’s being fair…I can’t just give up all my friends and my social life just ‘cause he’s insecure. I feel like he’s punishing me for what those girls did to him…I just don’t think he’s being fair.
Now the problem is that my babe is basically asking me to do what Leah did…whenever I see the group, even if their girlfriends all come along, my babe gets so mad. I can’t ever see Gson without my babe getting upset with me. I don’t get along well with girls and I don’t want any girl friends ‘cause of all the drama they always start. These guys are my brothers. Gson has been my best friend and brother longer than my babe has been with me. I talked to my mom about it last night and she agreed that he doesn’t have a right to try to keep me from seeing my friends. He’s always out with his friends. He’s always either at school, at work, or out with his friends. I hardly ever go out, maybe once a month. And when I finally do, he gets mad ‘cause they’re all guys. I get the same crap every time I go out. It’s just not fair…these guys are all I have, they’re my BROTHERS and nothing more. But he can’t seem to get that.
I mean if we were married, then things would be different. I wouldn’t be hanging out with guys and I would never be alone with one. That’s just not appropriate. But we’re not married, we don’t live together, and we’re almost 2,000 miles apart. We have separate lives and our social lives, and I just don’t feel like we have the right to tell each other who we can and can’t hang out with. I cut down on my social life a LOT for him. I was seeing my friends once a week or more, but I cut down to once every 1-2 MONTHS. I send him love letters and a card every month, I text him whenever I get the chance, I let the whole world know how much I love him, hell I even flew almost 2,000 miles to be with him and to go to his prom with him. But as soon as I go out with my friends, none of that seems to matter.
I understand that he’s paranoid ‘cause of the way his past girlfriends were, I get where he’s coming from. But I just don’t think he’s being fair…I can’t just give up all my friends and my social life just ‘cause he’s insecure. I feel like he’s punishing me for what those girls did to him…I just don’t think he’s being fair.
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