Closing distance much sooner + resignation worries.

[sarahrosestevey]

For a bit of background information, my mother passed away suddenly in October of last year. I met my SO in November, who was an amazing help during this time, and has continued to be so during our seven months together. I was offered an amazing job opportunity in January, so I moved for this - meaning we have been LDR for most of the duration of our relationship.

This weekend, I have discovered however my family is pretty much falling apart in respect to the grief and trying to move on from the passing of my mother. I am also, so I have decided to move back home in the middle of July. My SO and I are absolutely ecstatic about this, because our original plan was to be together in December.

I have a meeting with my boss before work tomorrow regarding this, and my anxiety levels are absolutely through the roof.. I cannot stop crying because I am actually terrified to tell them that I am leaving. I know this sounds silly, but I am actually terrified to quit. The company is extremely small and I know me leaving will have a huge impact. I am giving 5 weeks notice however.

Does anyone have any advice on how I can approach my boss about my leaving? I am just a wee bit of a wreck today.

[MadMolly]

I have been in the situation of leaving a job where I was a major part of a very small, close company. I gave about 5 weeks notice as far as I remember. Of course they don't want you leaving, but people leave jobs all the time and turnover must be expected no matter how big or small a company is. 5 weeks is also plenty of time to find a replacement. Take some deep breaths! Explain that although you love your job there, you need to be back home with your family to support them and you're very sorry you have to leave. It will be okay. Your boss will understand and you will walk out of the meeting with a weight off your shoulders. Good luck. <3

[sarahrosestevey]

Thanks - I'm such a nervous wreck right now. I see you are from NZ - I'm from Wellington! Didn't know there were many Kiwis on here. Hopefully I will sleep okay tonight, and just go in tomorrow confident and not so anxious..

[MadMolly]

Oh cool! I live in Auckland! Are you living in Welly now or planning to move back there? Good luck!!

[Romeo s Juliet]

I know it isa very hard situation for you there :/ and yes it is hard to talk to a boss about this kind of things. I would suggest that you talk to him at a time he is less busy, as you sure would be in tune with his/her busy times, non busy times. i was doing a job ina very small company and i had to quit because i just dindnt think my time and efforts were taken seriously by the management. I waited for the time of the day when the boss was less busy, preferably just after her lunch time, and went in and let her know about my concerns. i genuinely said what was wrong, and said i have decided to quit. yes she was worried, but i know it was for the best. just be yourself,even if you are nervous just dnt show it. and you are already giving 5 weeks s, notice. that is great dont stress over it. have a good sleep, and do not worry ok all the best.

[TwoThree]

The first time I resigned in my life was from a very small family business (the owner was my uncle's friend), and they took it very badly, treated me like crap and in the end cheated me out of some money that was owed me. It was as if I had broken a sacred trust I had with them, and it taught me a valuable lesson of never again treating a work relationship like anything more than that.

The point is, you don't owe them anymore than what's written on your contract, and they should be professional enough to understand that workers come and go. I think you are giving them enough notice for them to be able to find a replacement in time, so really, you can't do more than that. Good luck.

And sorry for your mother's passing. I hope things get better with your family.

[sarahrosestevey]

I handed my resignation in two days ago, but they wouldn't accept it - saying I have to think about it for a week before I leave. Can they even do this? Sorry I know this isn't LDR really now but I feel stuck. I need to tell them my decision next week and they have put my resignation on hold... just wanted to be done!

---------- Post added at 11:30 PM ---------- Previous post was at 11:29 PM ----------

Think about it for a week before they resign I mean :-/

[Off2Spain]

I don't think they can! It is a right to resign right? Does this have any affect on your leaving date? If so, just try and hand in your resignation again telling them they cant not accept it! Good luck!

[Romeo s Juliet]

NOO, they cant do that, i m sure they just want to make you feel forced to not leave, specially because they are a small company. I think you should be strong, and just stick to your decsion, because what you wanted was to resign and you were anyways giving them 5 weeks notice, and its unfair of them to keep your resignation on hold like that. be strong and and let them know no matter what you need to leave on the date you originally wanted. hand in the letter next week again, and tell them its your decision and dont worry be strong. they cant tell you to not resign its your right to hand in a resignation letter and quit when you want to. be strong

[13000km]

When I left the preschool not only did I know they were short staffed but I felt AWFUL for leaving my students in the middle of the school year. The management was terrible, which was why there were so many teachers leaving within a short period of time. I gave them two months notice but they were only able to find a replacement teacher about 2 months after I had left. /: It was soo hard for me to leave.

They can tell you to consider not resigning, but it is ultimately your decision and your right. You have to make it known to them that you are aware of this fact.

[rsvpnj]

I had an employer do that to me before when I moved to California temporarily. She wouldn't accept my resignation and when I finally did leave, HR said that I had not given proper notice.

Just be careful!

[Gemma]

They can ask you to reconsider, but they cannot stop you. The important thing is that you stay firm in your decision, if you want to leave, then stick to that, don't let their pressure change your mind. I really hope that things get better for you, try to look towards your happy future, with your SO, and use that to get you through.