Am I the only One? :(

[KarinaFreeman]

I'm new to "loving at a distance" so ive been reading people's posts that say "a few more days till I get to see my SO.."
and im so jealous....
I dont get to see "him" for a year and 6 months! Does anyone else have to wait that long too?
or is it just me?
I live in California and my SO lives in North Carolina...
which is 2,000+ miles away...

[Caity]

Me and my guy thought we wouldn't be able to meet till we'd finished school. We still haven't met in person yet. Fortunately we've managed to cut off a year of our wait because i can visit him in the summer holidays this year =D We've known each other for 7 years now, and we had a one year break of that because we were worried about never being able to meet cause we still had 3 years to go. We weren't happy that way though and got back together =) and now we've shortened the time a bit. A year and 6 months may seem long but the time will fly. Just think of each day as one day closer to being together.

[dynomitegurl]

First welcome to LFAD. I hope it will give a lot of advice and support when you need it! I think a lot of people have been waiting to meet their SO, I waited around 4 months to visit my boyfriend in Ireland. But it all comes with time. Waiting can be very difficult but stay strong it will come! And it will all be worth it when it does

How long have you been with your SO?

[Zephii]

I know a couple of people here who have waited a very long time to meet or in between visits, some have epically long waits that make the 5 years I waited for Obi seem trivial. Thats one thing I've learned being here - no matter how much my life sucks, someone around here is doing it tougher. That helps me keep it real
Will it be your first visit in a year and a half? Or a long wait since you saw each other last?
Hang in there, you can do it!

[Erika]

Welcome to LFAD! Glad to have you here!

No, you're definitely not the only one in your situation. I just recently saw my SO after being apart for nearly 3 years! :O It was the first time I had seen him since we were first together. The wait was very, very difficult, but it paid off in the end. If you can survive an LDR, you can survive anything.

[KarinaFreeman]

This will be the first time we will ever meet!
which makes it harder!

[ChrisIsCallisto]

unless im able to convince my nan to let me go over there in a few months, ive still got a year and 6 weeks to wait ):

[PurpleDreamer]

Welcome to LFAD!

It's been over 3 years so far and I'm still yet to meet my guy in person and there is still at least another few months before it will be able to happen. I know that it is hard but just think how amazing it will be when the two of you are finally able to meet in person!

[lpuckett]

WOW! Why do all of you guys have to wait so long to see the other person.. the world is so small now days! Karina, why do you know its going to be a year and 6 months? I guess I just don't understand what is stopping all of you guys from visiting if your SO really means that much to you, they should be a priority right?

[Zephii]

Well, for me, we waited so long because 1) we were young 2) +7000 miles is ALOT 3) travel is expensive 4) people have responsibilities and commitments that they can't just drop whenever they feel like it.
Personally I feel the world is only small for the financially secure. Those of us with little funds feel the world is a much bigger place but that's just my opinion.

But that first meeting is well worth the wait! Use the time between now and then to deepen your connection, and try not to worry too much in the mean time.

[garnet]

Travel is very expensive. Especially for international couples. I am certain that seeing the SO is a priority to everyone. But that doesn't mean we can skip rent payments.
It isn't as easy as just picking a weekend and hopping on a plane for most of us. I am certain every last person on this site is doing all they can to see their SO as soon as they possibly can. If it takes a while, then it takes a while.

[Erika]

For me cost was a major factor why I couldn't go sooner. I'm a university student on a very tight budget. I spent nearly $900 on plane tickets just to travel half way across Canada. And then there were hotels, food, etc. I had to save up for a long time to be able to go on that trip.

Also, my boyfriend is in the army doing training. So I wasn't able to go visit him while he was doing that.

If I had the time and money I would love to visit him every few weeks or even months. But right now I can't.

[dynomitegurl]

It definitely puts a big stopper to flying to see one another or spending that money when you want to visit one another. I feel very lucky that my boyfriends mom paid for me to visit for his graduation gift and he has paid for me to come for a month this time. I am very grateful for him and his mom because I know I couldn't afford going back so often to visit.

[KarinaFreeman]

Exactly what Zephii said. I can't afford it. So we are both trying to save money up so that by the time we are out of school(a year and 6months left) then we will have enough money and no other priorities besides started our life together!!

[Riyko]

I wish you luck and welcome =)

Starting next year (after I move in with my guy) I probably won't be able to see him for a year or so as i'm planning on going to Chile for a year to get to know his family and he won't be able to go with me as he will be working to pay on our apartment. I understand a bit where you are coming from.