It really pains me to have to write a post like this.
2 and a half weeks ago I went to visit my SO for 9 days and the visit went really bad. This was my 3rd visit to him since we went LD and the first time I really questioned the strength of our relationship. He seemed different from the moment he picked me up at the airport...not excited to see me, less affectionate. We stayed at his aunt's house like we always do, but the thing is this time- he left me. As in he went out to run some errand or visit a friend or take a walk (after we had been fighting). I spent hours at a time sitting in a room, alone. This just left me and his family to believe that he was up to something (which he angrily denied). I spent the majority of my time there fighting with him or crying and in between we had some moments where I thought we could possibly salvage our relationship.
When I brought up breaking up he said that's not what he wanted. Up until the morning I left, he told me we would be in communication and work things out. I feel like we lost the trust we previously had. It also became clear to me he is fine with me having to do all the work as far as closing the distance goes. It's like with this visit I saw a different side of him and feel completely blindsided.
I am confused and heartbroken right now. I came home over a week ago and have not heard anything from him. Our communication is very limited to begin with, but he has not even made an effort to contact me. I called his aunt yesterday and she said to just leave him be and give him time to figure out what he wants. While I was there, his family (parents & aunt & uncle) openly told me how they didn't like how he was treating me. I felt embarrassed by the whole thing being that I sacrificed a lot to make this visit happen. Last night I deleted him from my facebook hoping it would give me some kind of closure.
My friends and family are telling me it's a good thing I saw this side of him now. I feel like complete shit though, so it's hard to see the bright side of all of this.
2 and a half weeks ago I went to visit my SO for 9 days and the visit went really bad. This was my 3rd visit to him since we went LD and the first time I really questioned the strength of our relationship. He seemed different from the moment he picked me up at the airport...not excited to see me, less affectionate. We stayed at his aunt's house like we always do, but the thing is this time- he left me. As in he went out to run some errand or visit a friend or take a walk (after we had been fighting). I spent hours at a time sitting in a room, alone. This just left me and his family to believe that he was up to something (which he angrily denied). I spent the majority of my time there fighting with him or crying and in between we had some moments where I thought we could possibly salvage our relationship.
When I brought up breaking up he said that's not what he wanted. Up until the morning I left, he told me we would be in communication and work things out. I feel like we lost the trust we previously had. It also became clear to me he is fine with me having to do all the work as far as closing the distance goes. It's like with this visit I saw a different side of him and feel completely blindsided.
I am confused and heartbroken right now. I came home over a week ago and have not heard anything from him. Our communication is very limited to begin with, but he has not even made an effort to contact me. I called his aunt yesterday and she said to just leave him be and give him time to figure out what he wants. While I was there, his family (parents & aunt & uncle) openly told me how they didn't like how he was treating me. I felt embarrassed by the whole thing being that I sacrificed a lot to make this visit happen. Last night I deleted him from my facebook hoping it would give me some kind of closure.
My friends and family are telling me it's a good thing I saw this side of him now. I feel like complete shit though, so it's hard to see the bright side of all of this.
I'm here if you need to chat, and don't ever forget you are beautiful and strong. 
maybe he has just a phase.. or he has some issues and he can't talk about it.. he has to be honest with you or it's better for you to break up with him, I agree! I just hope you can talk things out and find the best solution!
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