He broke up bcause of the distance, now he's comming to town and wants to see me.

[carbonell2910]

Hello there!

I told you in my last post He broke up with me 2 months ago because he wanted me to move to Atlanta with 8 months LDR, and I said I wouldnt move without the ring.. He said It was too soon for commitment but that's my culture, So he said he couldnt wait no more time in LDR and broke up with me. I was dying inside... Last week I called him to tell him I would move to atlanta to live by myself. He was very happy to hear that but told me it has been two months after the break up and he has to think and that he thinks is better to talk about it when he comes to miami to visit his family. He hasn't called or text me, so... here is my question:

If he doesn't contact me during this month... should I meet him when he comes?? I think that after telling him I have taken such a tough decision like that, if he really cares about me he would have texted me at least to say Hi... Do you think im right? I really dont know if i should meet him when he comes....... Advice>??

[Haley53]

He told you he needed time to think, yes? My opinion is that if he honestly wants to meet up with you and talk, then he'll get in touch with you. As far as I'm aware, he has your contact details, and so that's enough of the ball in his court. I'm not going to say if he really cares he'd have contacted you to say hi or not. It could as much mean he has other things on his plate as it does he's not at all interested in patching things up with you. If he gets in touch with you when he arrives in a month, and wants to meet up, then I say go for it, but don't thrust yourself upon him. My guess would be if he's asking for space, and then doesn't end up contacting you with the want to talk, he's trying to politely tell you to back off and he's over it. :/ I know that you hate playing this waiting game, but you really need to try and distract yourself, find things that help keep your mind off it, or you're going to drive yourself mental waiting for something that might not even happen; if it does, you also don't want to build it up in your head.

If he wants to still meet you when he arrives, you can choose to meet him or not, but I would go without expectations. It could be wanting to pave the way for rebuilding your relationship or it could be simply a want for closure. It's up to you to decide whether or not it's worth it to wait, even if his answer ultimately ends up being "no." However, I'm not going to blame him for having a lot to think about. He's taking the time to think about his decision, he respectfully asked for space, and in my opinion, it has nothing to do with how much someone cares about you. Sometimes people need time to re-evaluate where they're at and where the relationship is at and there's nothing at all wrong with it. It needs to be separated from the idea of caring, because it probably has nothing to do with you and everything to do with where he's at and what he wants.