Friends having 'issues' with your relationship?

[ZuluXD]

Just wondering if anyone has had similar trouble, although hopefully not as dramaic as my story.

Basically, my best friend of 20 years was having lets just say 'psyciatric problems', so when I went off to university I choose hers, really far away from all my family and friends (That wasn't the only reason but one of the main ones) So we moved into a student house to live on the top floor in rooms next door to each other, my room also happened to be the room next to my future SO♥.
Your probably thinking perfect! BF on one side SO on the other...so did I at the time.
I had been single my entire life before this, having not found the right guy, but I could tell right then and there this was it, it was as if I had been waiting for him and it was fate etc. (insert gushy romantic music here). But I resisted for months not wanting to upset my friend whos condition was getting gradually worse and had started distancing herself from me which in turn was starting to hurt my SO as he thought it was all his fault.
I can't remember exactly how this next bit went has I'm sure I've mentally blocked most of it but here goes. At some point me and my friend had a heart to heart where she told me that she had slept with him before I arrived, this I could believe but then she talked about how he was riddled 'down there' from sleeping around, that he jumps on women and treats them badly etc. which at the time I had a hard time believing and looking back I think that is the biggest load of BS I have ever heard. My SO is the complete opposite and I have never met more of a gentleman than he is.
So this continued for a while but got drastically worse when she started with the death threats. She told me about how after her last break up see carried knives and acid guns around with her incase she ran into him again, and started threatening to do the same to my SO. Having Uni mon-fri and a weekend job, the stress was too much and I started missing work and breaking down, so I had to quit my job. I was constantly scared of coming home and finding the worst, even walking downstairs with him to the kitchen was nerve wracking as she was totally capable of carrying out those threats, then to top it all off I had a pregnancy scare.
Then she gave me the question you never give your friends.
"It's him or me"
I had to choose between the love of my life and my BF of 20 years.
It was very difficult but I couldn't give up on here just yet for everything we've been through together, so I explained it to my SO and he was so understanding and supportive, he said he would wait until everything had calmed down.
I chose her but nothing changed, eventually she stopped talking to me completely and then blanked me as apparently I had lost her trust...then she decided to up and move to scotland because she couldn't be near me anymore.

This was over a year ago now so, and my SO and I are stronger than ever. I havnt seen or heard from her since and I constantly ask friends to feedback how she is but shes cut off ties with most of them as well. Before all my trust was in my friends but now I seem to have lost that...which is really upsetting but I trust my SO completely. Sorry I let the storyteller in me write too much.

Has anyone else had problems with friends and relationships?

[efish1042]

Wow. Um, yeah... not as crazy as that, but I did have issues with friends and my SO at first.

Before my SO and I got together, we were friends and via my SO (M), I become friends with one of his gal friends (K) who happened to be infatuated with him for years. M moved here in high school and started dating L after a while and she introduced him to all her friends. They dated for over a year with a bit of a break in the middle. K was one of the friends L introduced M to. K was infatuated with M from the beginning, but tried to ignore it for her friend. There was some drama there, but it passed. Then L and M broke up in a very ugly, random fit of... wtf. M called to vent to K and she got the wrong idea that he wanted to date her. Drama ensued. They eventually did end up dating for less than a month before M finally said 'you're too much like a sister'.
She remained infatuated and I, being 3 years younger, watched from the sidelines. She had a habit of latching onto the nearest person and spouting her problems so of course, being the person I am, I listened and offered advice. I liked M, but I had never seriously entertained the thought of dating him because he's older than my big brother. Things went on like this until M and I went to Disney during Spring Break. Separately, but we ended up hanging out and... chemistry ensued.
We kind of sort of started dating... then we were officially dating... but he wanted to keep it quiet because his parents would freak out over the age difference (they eventually did find out and acted as expected). This meant keeping it from most people, including K, because his dad is a social butterfly. I waited for M to find the right time to tell his parents and for 6 months, I was forced to listen to K spout about my SO. I got sick of it, as you can imagine, but only offered "well maybe he's just not that into you" advice and waited for my SO to tell her. Finally, I basically told him "tell her or else - I'm going crazy". Of course, he was a coward and was leaving for college at that point so he didn't.
Then... at my birthday party... K put 2+2 together after 6 months of getting mixed signals and... it was ugly. She didn't talk to us for a while and talked smack about us a bit. Most of our other friends were like "yeah... we knew... sorry, we thought you did, too". This is also the point where my dad, in a dick move that has seriously damaged our relationship, basically tattled on us to M's parents. So, as you can imagine... drama.
However, approaching 3 years after that incident, K is one of my best friends and M's parents love me. It all worked out in the end. Though, my relationship with my dad is irreparably damaged due to that and other equally or worse dick moves. And he has an irrational grudge against my SO. But hey.. you can't have it all, I guess.

And that's a summary of my drama with friends in my relationship.

ETA: I felt bad that I didn't ignore my SO and tell K anyway, but ironically, she ended up in the same position a few months later with a girl I didn't really know who was her SO's "ex". Despite having been in the "ex"s position, and my advice of 'hey, this didn't work out for me at all, obviously!', she did exactly what I did and trusted her SO to deal with it.
Turned out, her SO was actually sort of two timing them, though. So it was bad. But I found it ironic.

[mofet]

Holy shit acid guns?
I hate it when guys use the whole "my ex is crazy" phrase, but I now maybe I shouldn't blame them.
I never had any drama with my friends loving my SO or anything else.
In fact, maybe it's a bad sign, but most of the drama stems from my friends not liking my bfs.
Any of them, actually.

[Filly]

Hmm... my bestfriend 12 years ago when I just had just met my SO told me he was a womanizer and that I should stay away from him. In retrospect I had never heard about him and any women and even to this day the only woman I had ever seen him with was his son's mother.