Accepting the End

[James'Girl]

We're not actually official, never have been in the 10 months that whatever this is has been going on. And now he's gone on this "I have to find myself" and "I don't want to feel an obligation to someone I can't be with" kick. And that's fine, I suppose I kind of get it, and I know things haven't been going well lately. But I'm finding it really hard to just accept it and let go because we never had a chance from the outset. We had one day together. The very first day, when all of this began. So we never had a chance to live out any of the things we talked about. Never got to just walk down the street holding hands or fall asleep listening to eachother breathing. And it is hard to turn my back on so many things that never happened. So how do I let go of what could have been. How do I accept that he has changed his mind, doesn't want that anymore? It's not like we've tried and it didn't work. It's not like he's tired of it. He's tired of waiting and distance, and that I get, but if we were together tomorrow he wouldn't want any of what we have spent so long talking about and hoping and waiting for. To give up before it's started feel's like it has all been a waste of time. So how do I begin to get closure on all of what never was?

[notyourexgirlfriend]

Sometimes you just don't get closure. It's hard when that happens. Sometimes a person just gives up and walks away. You're left hurt, confused and lost. Time will help heal but you've got to allow yourself to grieve. Hang in there (hugs).

[Haley53]

Sometimes you just don't get closure. It's hard when that happens. Sometimes a person just gives up and walks away. You're left hurt, confused and lost. Time will help heal but you've got to allow yourself to grieve. Hang in there (hugs).

I agree with this. Sometimes closure is something you come to terms with within yourself; it's not always provided to us from outside sources or the other person involved. It can take longer that way certainly, I have been there and it's probably the most painful thing, but time really does heal all wounds and this one is no exception. Honestly, the best thing you can do here is take care of yourself, vent where you need, grieve where you need, and find joy in other things as best as you possibly can, while still allowing yourself that time to cry and hate the world for what happened. *hugs* You have the support of LFAD when you need it.