He has anxiety and i dont know what to do

[anutamar]

Hi,

Ive been in an LDR with a guy ive known for 5 years now, but its only been in the past 3 months we have been somewhat committed to each other. One fine day he just came out and told me he really liked me a lot and i guess the rest is history.

Yesterday on Skype he told me that he was seriously worried about us and he gets really anxious about his feelings. He loves me , he says, but he wants to understand his feelings for he is not sure about a lot of things, mainly how come he does not seem to be in this 100%. We have agreed that he needed some sort of counselling, to help him through this. And as much as im crazy about him, i suggested that we take some time off of each other, so he can think and reflect.

Thing is ,as much as he says he loves me, this scares me quite a bit. I respect that he wanted to be honest about his issues so that we can be better as a couple, and i support that. I also know that its best we dont communicate for a bit so that he is able to have some "breathing space" to figure himself out. BUt im still so scared. I am now the one getting anxious about "us". I dont know if after all this thinking is done, he would still want me. I mean he could suddenly wakeup and think that im not what he wants..... I know im just paranoid.... but im honestly scared. Im getting a little depressed now due to this.

Anyone gone through anything similar, who can offer me advice?

[Angelieke~]

I'm sorry for you .

I can definately understand how you feel. My boyfriend and I had a 'break' once, for about a week. First he throught he wanted to break up with me, even though he still loved me the distance was to hard for him. I went to see him as soon as I could and we talked about it. After that he needed one week to sort out his feelings.

That week I kept my distance, I think I've sent him 3 texts in total, asking him how he was doing.

The thing is, there's nothing you can do about it anymore. Just like you already said, just give him space. In the mean time try to do something else that keeps your mind of things. Walking outside or whatever you like to do =]. I know you're anxious but yeah, just try to believe =].

Hope it works out (and sorry for my long rant xD)

[Swederica]

Aww. I hate that fear. Even tho i get it really without any reason.

Especially the last couple of weeks i've suddenly felt, when we hadn't talked for a day or two, that maybe she jus suddenly realize she doesn't want me.
Even tho she tells me she'll love me forever and ever i still get that fear and anxiety time after time.

I will have to side with Angelieke. There's nothing you unforunately can do about it
But it'll prolly work out, it mostly do

[anutamar]

Hi Angelieke and Swederica,


Thank you for you kind words. I suppose, yes, i can do nothing but wait. He did say he loved me...i can only hope. I have so many things i want to say, like i want to tell him how this whole exercise scares me, or that im now having to deal with a bit of depression, but in the larger scheme of things, i suppose it shouldnt matter. I just have to be stronger. Thank you again.