Now vs. Doing Long Distance 25 years ago, Temptation and Who's Moving with Who

[xopookie]

Hey instead of having separate forums an bothering you guys with a lot of threads I decided to type in 3 questions for yall

#1 Before the use of skype, aim and the internet with e-mails would you of been able to do a long distance relationship in the 1980's or earlier than that?! (Personally, I wouldn't be able to because long distance is bad enough but to not be able to talk to the person or hear their voice without having a huge phone bill is impossible for me to do. )

#2 Even though you're long distance, do you feel you get hit on a lot more compared to when you were single?! For some reason, I'm even attracting more men but where were all the guys when I was single! But I am honest about my situation, and I still remain faithful

#3 Who's moving with who?! Name your city, state or country. My S/O is moving to Japan to live with me

[kittyo9]

1) Nopeeeeeee. I wouldn't have even met my SO.
2) No... lol. No one hit on me before and no one does now.
3) Uhh, I guess he's moving here (to the US) or we're both moving to Germany.

[rixue]

1) No since I would not have met my SO. (As a side note, my parents dated long distance for 7 years in the 70's!)

2) Nope no difference here! Was never really hit on, still not hit on.

3) My SO is either moving here to Kansas or I will be moving to West Virginia. After I graduate I might move to WV while applying for jobs online in other states (there is nothing in WV job wise for me). After I find a job we will move wherever together.

[temporaryuser]

25 years ago you relied on phone calls and snail mail. would I have been able to do it? For the right person - yes. people in the millitary and those that went to different colleges had to do it all the time. hand written letters meant so much more back then.

I dont get hit on anymore, but thatm ay be just because I dont notice. Twice now I have been hit on when me and SO went to the grocery. he was putting up the cart and I was walking ahead and some random guy tried to hit on me. SO stepped up his game real quick!

MY SO will be moving here. Just easier given our situations.

[dukes2011]

1. I think I would be able to it. It definitely would be tough, but when I studied abroad we almost never used technology since Spain has the worst Internet connection. We mostly relied on phone calls and snail mail.

2. I'm hit on very often, so I'd say it's about the same? Not sure what to say. Haha!

3. We want to live Maryland (where I grew up), but I said I'd be open to Virginia temporarily since that's where my SO's currently works.

[Haley53]

1. I agree with those saying they would be able to do it simply because they would have had to, for the right person. If I managed to meet my SO in a time where that would have been the way we'd have to communicate, I would have done it simply because there was no other option. It'd help that I wouldn't have today's technology to compare it to too.

2. Not "hit on" per se, but I will say that I tend to be very guarded around men for that reason.

3. Currently, the plan is he comes to the U.S. while I establish my career, and then from there, we either make the decision to stay, or we move. Where or when hasn't seriously been discussed, as neither one of us are yet in the position to have the discussion.

[brazil]

1) I wouldn't have met my SO and I don't think I could've done it without all the technology nowadays.
2) Not really. I've not been hit on and this remains. The only slight difference was due to my weight loss, not the relationship per se.
3) The plan was for her to move in here first, then we'd go over there, but we'll have a house in each country some time in the future.

[Dezface]

1. Nope. We met on the Internet and being able to stay in touch all day is how we've kept our sanity.

2. I haven't really been single since I was a teenager. But I think I've always gotten hit on the same amount between my last relationship and this one.

3. I'm moving to Australia to be with him

[Katelyn313]

1-We've sort of talked about it as in "Look at how good we have it now" and yeah, we know we could do it. If we hadn't needed the internet to meet
2-I've gotten more, "Well... if the distance gets too much, I don't mind that you have a boyfriend" which turns my stomach, so, I'm glad they think that'll work...haha
3-He's moving here for a bunch of reasons. Job opportunities, my family is all here, my job would do better up here...etc.

[xoPinkMargarita]

1. No, I wouldn't have met my SO because we met online first. I don't think we could have done it back then though.

2. Yeah, I still get hit on.. and I notice that I do.. but I basically say,"Look, I have a boyfriend and I wish that you would stop hitting on me." And if that doesn't work.. then I just stop talking to them till they stop.

3. We've talked about CD but with him having 2 years of school left it's impossible for us to close the gap between us right now.

[Sanney4709]

1) I would not have met my SO without the internet but I do imagine people did it. Like people who's SO's were in the military. The just communicated through letters.
2) Actually I have noticed I get hit on a lot more since I have been in a ldr. But it obviosly doesn't change anything. I love my SO very much and can't imagine being with anyone else.
3)We haven't quite figured out who is moving in with at first we had it planned that he would move to Florida with me but lately I have been having doubts and I am starting to think we may be better off in Missouri.

[megfashion]

#1 Before the use of skype, aim and the internet with e-mails would you of been able to do a long distance relationship in the 1980's or earlier than that?!

itd make it hard. but i guess we would call each other on the just-released mobile phones (heh.)... plus letters. would be cute.

#2 Even though you're long distance, do you feel you get hit on a lot more compared to when you were single?!

no. but that is because i am in a group of guys, and only guys, so being around guys is normal to me and we are all cool :P

#3 Who's moving with who?! Name your city, state or country.

we are both moving to wherever is most conveinient for jobs, university and family

[Trethsparr]

1) I think so -- we would have just written a lot more letters. If we both wanted it bad enough, we would have made due with what we had to work with.

2) Nope. I'm pretty sure I set off a super strong "taken" vibe.

3) I moved to him where he was living in southern California.

[lademoiselle]

1. I met my SO online, but taking that out of the equation I think we could've survived long distance with the phone and snail mail alone.

2. I'd say it happens less these days - either I just don't notice anymore or, as my mum once said, "you've got committed written all over you!"

3. We aren't sure yet.

[Moon]

1. I wouldn't want to, of course, but if that's what the situation called for, then I guess you gotta do whatcha gotta do! Besides, before the technology we have today, you simply didn't know any different...snail mail and expensive, long-distance calls using a phone that was actually stuck to the wall by a cord were the tools you were given, you didn't miss something you never had, and you didn't know there was going to be a better way coming I lived in "the World Before the Internet", and when I was 14, my first boyfriend moved to Florida, far away from our home state of Pennsylvania. We were so *In Love* and gonna be together forever, naturally We (mostly I) wrote letters for a few months, had a couple of short calls, but it faded rather quickly and I ended up with his best friend (ooops!). For another few weeks. Would having technology made a difference? Eh...maybe for a little while longer, but that's it. He came back two years later for a summer visit with relatives, tried to get back together, but I was a totally different person by then.

2. No difference really.

3. Who knows, I'll probably end up with him in Finland someday, most likely.