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I just needed people to talk to about the.situation. I just broke it off, and.. Ill just move on in time.
Thanks for your.help guys
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I'm so sorry that your relationship turned out to be not what you thought it was. It sucks when someone isn't completely honest with you. I hope everything works out for you.
lots of red flags!!! 2 years and you have never seen him live on skype?? or any other way??? cut all ties with this person because he's only stringing you along and your going to get hurt even more so if you continue
Just out of interest...... can you contact this guy whenever you want ? I had a similar thing happen to a friend of mine and it turned out the guy was real enough (in that he was approximately the age and gender he had said) he was just already married with kids. Does he pick up his phone at random times or late at night? Just a thought.
Oh and another thought. The friend who introduced me to social networking told me "until you know for sure who someone is you stay safe by imagining everyone as a dirty, spotty, pubescent boy in his mother's basement with one hand up his nose and the other....... " Now I'm not for one minute saying that about your SO I'm sure its not the case, please don't think me harsh. Just please be careful.
I just needed people to talk to about the.situation. I just broke it off, and.. Ill just move on in time.
Thanks for your.help guys
Everyone here pretty much said what I was going to say. Glad you broke it off, there were a lot of red flags :/ Sorry this relationship did not turn out well. Hope everything works out for you! You will find the right guy one day, a friend once told me "sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince."
So sorry... it hurts just as much to break it off with a fantasy as with a real person and it is possible to fall in love with a fantasy.
You deserve better sweetheart.
Three words. Fill my racing mind. Leave me breathless. Lost in time.
Three words. Fill my endless dreams. Repair my heart. Mend the seams.
Three words. Fill your heart too. Three words pronounced. I love you.
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You look in the mirror, you don't like what you see, don't believe it.
Look in my eyes, I am the only mirror you're ever gonna need.
Met online: 12/24/10 Met In Person: 2/24/11 Distance Closed: 4/24/11
Not one regret, not one backwards look, only towards the future and beyond!
I'd stay away at all cost.. Sometimes when things seems too good to be true, it's probably really too good to be true. If he hasn't showed you a picture or Skype with you and it's been 2 years, something doesn't seem right...
it's good you broke it off okay, I dated this guy named Patrick or so called "patrick" one time, from kentucky, it was basically the same situation but I could never find anything on him and then he said he was on his way to visited me, he was supposed to be here in 6 days. He never showed up, didn't text me for 3 months and then said he got in a car accident. never believe an idiot like that if he's not willing to prove himself to you, or he could just be a creep. Make sure your careful.
"I love the stars and the moon because I know that I'm always sitting under the exact same ones as you"
I just want to add my voice to those saying you did the right thing. As I read your first post I was trying to think of gentle ways to suggest you do exactly what you did. I wish you didn't have to hurt right now, all I can offer is the platitude 'This to shall pass' and I know that's no help. The pain will fade with time and you will be better for it,
Hi there. I dated someone for a year and 11 months who thought I was an internet fake. She was terribly paranoid about it because she found me "too attractive to be into her" and just decided that no one like me could ever love and care for her the way that I said I did, and that I must be lying to her. She compared me to the film Catfish on numerous occasions and found bizarre ways to discredit any and all proof I gave her validating my existence or that my friends gave her. Video proofs, proof signs, hanging out with real life personal friends in person, knowing someone mutually in person, webcam proofs; nothing I ever did for her worked. I even traveled to her state to meet her in person, thinking, you know, if she sees me in person then maybe she'll realize this is all silly and in her head, and she ultimately refused to meet me.
I think the best solution for you is to sit down with him on the phone and in a non-accusatory tone just ask him, hey, I find this kind of weird, can you explain this to me, and go from there.
I dealt with being called a fake for over two years and having my privacy invaded on numerous occasions as well as put myself into a bad situation that I am still trying to climb my way out of.
It's natural to feel skeptical in these situations. It's so easy to lie to someone over the internet. But, I feel you should ask him about things and try to come up with a solution.
Ask him why he doesn't want to show his face. Ask him since he doesn't want a facebook why not get a "Path" (look it up in the app store) or use the "Pair" app. If he has an iPhone there honestly is no reason why he cannot snap you a picture and send it to you or make you a proof video, I wish I had an iPhone during my relationship. I think the biggest and best thing you can do is communicate your concerns, and if he loves you the way he says he does, he will be open minded and work with you to come up with a solution.
but that mindset of "he's too good to be true" is what started the issues in my relationship and my SO and I didn't make it because of it. Instead of thinking "he's too good to be true." why not just enjoy what you have for now? Talk to him, that's the best thing you can do, and just go from there.
If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to PM me. Quite experienced with this hah... :/
Hi there. I dated someone for a year and 11 months who thought I was an internet fake. She was terribly paranoid about it because she found me "too attractive to be into her" and just decided that no one like me could ever love and care for her the way that I said I did, and that I must be lying to her. She compared me to the film Catfish on numerous occasions and found bizarre ways to discredit any and all proof I gave her validating my existence or that my friends gave her. Video proofs, proof signs, hanging out with real life personal friends in person, knowing someone mutually in person, webcam proofs; nothing I ever did for her worked. I even traveled to her state to meet her in person, thinking, you know, if she sees me in person then maybe she'll realize this is all silly and in her head, and she ultimately refused to meet me.
I think the best solution for you is to sit down with him on the phone and in a non-accusatory tone just ask him, hey, I find this kind of weird, can you explain this to me, and go from there.
I dealt with being called a fake for over two years and having my privacy invaded on numerous occasions as well as put myself into a bad situation that I am still trying to climb my way out of.
It's natural to feel skeptical in these situations. It's so easy to lie to someone over the internet. But, I feel you should ask him about things and try to come up with a solution.
Ask him why he doesn't want to show his face. Ask him since he doesn't want a facebook why not get a "Path" (look it up in the app store) or use the "Pair" app. If he has an iPhone there honestly is no reason why he cannot snap you a picture and send it to you or make you a proof video, I wish I had an iPhone during my relationship. I think the biggest and best thing you can do is communicate your concerns, and if he loves you the way he says he does, he will be open minded and work with you to come up with a solution.
but that mindset of "he's too good to be true" is what started the issues in my relationship and my SO and I didn't make it because of it. Instead of thinking "he's too good to be true." why not just enjoy what you have for now? Talk to him, that's the best thing you can do, and just go from there.
If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to PM me. Quite experienced with this hah... :/
That sounds like a suckey situation, I can imagine it would be very hard having someone not believe you even after providing so much proof. I do think your situation is slightly different to the OPs From the sounds of it, her SO didn't really go to many lengths to provide proof that he was who he said he was and maybe things would have been different if he had. You made the effort to go se your SO, send her video and photos and had mutual friends, the OPs SO seems to be avoiding showing his face or meeting her in person. The OP states that she has discussed this numerous times with her SO and he dismisses her concerns rather than addressing them like you did. I do think that thinking someone is "too good" or "too attractive" to like you is wrong but the OP did provide other concerns that she had.
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