So I visit my boyfriend on Wednesday and I'll be there for about a week... I'm super excited to see him and spend time with him! But, at the same time, I am really, really, REALLY nervous.
A couple of months ago, he brought up being unhappy with our relationship as it is right now, mainly because he was lonely/depressed without me there, he's had problems moving past previous issues that rose up between us, all on top of financial and job stress. He had some doubts about our relationship, wanting to say we were just going through a rough patch and maybe it was just because we had been apart too long, but he wasn't sure. We talked about everything, expressed that we wanted to get things back on track, and talked about what we thought we could improve in our relationship and have gone from there.
I took responsibility for my mistake, acknowledged I hurt him, and apologized. I backed off significantly, letting him "make the first move" so to speak because I didn't want to put any unnecessary pressure on him when he was already so stressed and miserable because of his job. I kept myself busy to stay positive and worked on myself since my anxiety/low self-esteem has been a sore spot between us at times, and I can definitely see an improvement. I've been as open as possible about everything with him, since we both said communication was something we needed to work on. Throughout the whole time, he never stopped communicating, always calling on his way to or from work as usual and texting when he couldn't, telling me he loved me, etc. He's still significantly stressed and unhappy with his job, but at least he's been talking with me about it. So far, it seems like things are slowly starting to improve, though we're still far from where we used to be, and I know it'll take more time to get back to that place. It's hard to be patient, but he's worth it.
I'm sure there really isn't anything to worry about and my nerves are just getting the best of me since I haven't seen him since April and we've been going through all this while apart. I guess I'm just scared I'll get down there and find his feelings completely gone, even though I know that's not true since he made sure to take the time off to spend with me (which wasn't easy), tells me he loves me, and is still in the relationship in the first place.
I mainly just wanted to vent, get it out since I'm sure a LOT of you have felt this way/gone through something like this before. Any tips/advice anyone can offer would be greatly appreciated.
A couple of months ago, he brought up being unhappy with our relationship as it is right now, mainly because he was lonely/depressed without me there, he's had problems moving past previous issues that rose up between us, all on top of financial and job stress. He had some doubts about our relationship, wanting to say we were just going through a rough patch and maybe it was just because we had been apart too long, but he wasn't sure. We talked about everything, expressed that we wanted to get things back on track, and talked about what we thought we could improve in our relationship and have gone from there.
I took responsibility for my mistake, acknowledged I hurt him, and apologized. I backed off significantly, letting him "make the first move" so to speak because I didn't want to put any unnecessary pressure on him when he was already so stressed and miserable because of his job. I kept myself busy to stay positive and worked on myself since my anxiety/low self-esteem has been a sore spot between us at times, and I can definitely see an improvement. I've been as open as possible about everything with him, since we both said communication was something we needed to work on. Throughout the whole time, he never stopped communicating, always calling on his way to or from work as usual and texting when he couldn't, telling me he loved me, etc. He's still significantly stressed and unhappy with his job, but at least he's been talking with me about it. So far, it seems like things are slowly starting to improve, though we're still far from where we used to be, and I know it'll take more time to get back to that place. It's hard to be patient, but he's worth it.
I'm sure there really isn't anything to worry about and my nerves are just getting the best of me since I haven't seen him since April and we've been going through all this while apart. I guess I'm just scared I'll get down there and find his feelings completely gone, even though I know that's not true since he made sure to take the time off to spend with me (which wasn't easy), tells me he loves me, and is still in the relationship in the first place.
I mainly just wanted to vent, get it out since I'm sure a LOT of you have felt this way/gone through something like this before. Any tips/advice anyone can offer would be greatly appreciated.
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