Obviously planning for the future is a real key part of a LDR, and it presents many challenges and fears, which I guess can largely be summed up by everything that the monumental decision of moving halfway across the world consists of. While I know there'll be parts of that that will be difficult to deal with (in particular moving away from a family im so close to), my biggest worry isn't anything to do with that... its getting a job.
To put it simply, at 21 ive never had a full-time job (ive had part-time ones, and although I've taken up a number of voluntary positions, I mostly just prioritised my studying). Im a graduate coming into today's job market, which is already a scary enough transition to make. But that's not what bothers me either, its the thought of how it might effect the relationship with the girl of my dreams.
As of right now, me and my girlfriend with almost regularity message and call for a combined 10 hours a day. Everyday is a great one and I enjoy so so much just spending so much time with her. We both schedule our time around seeing friends and such (we both lead decent social lives and everything, we make sure we talk when we're free rather than disregarding other priorities completely).
Obviously, that isn't all that tenable in the longrun. We've been doing it this way for the past 3 months because we can, but free time dwindles when she's back at college, and when I obviously have to get a job.
This worries me. Not because I feel either of us will lose dedication to the relationship or whatever, but simply because on paper it looks very difficult for us to spend almost any time together until the weekend. Working a 9-5 job for me would coincide with her time to sleep before classes. Her time at college (plus a voluntary position she is looking at at a hospital) would comfortably cover all of my evening. And of course jumping into a work environment needs me to sleep, which coincides with the time she can talk.
I've juggled a number of ideas, but it basically comes down to me sleeping early and waking up very early in the morning so that we can call for a couple of hours before work. I dont much mind that, and on occasions I dont mind sleeping through my entire evening so that I can be with her for most of the time that she is free (though I need to see family too lol, so its not an everyday plan, just once in a while when we need to just spend hours together). It already hurts a ton to say goodbye to each other at night, and if it was up to me, I would spend every minute of my day talking to her, because we just click and there doesnt seem to be a thing of 'spending too much time together' with us. Having to get work (and I know I really dont have a say in the matter, especially as I need the finances for us to work out in the longrun), just seems a really daunting prospect, and one I feel will make me pretty miserable. However im fully aware that this is a necessary sacrifice needed for us to have a chance at eventually being together.
So I just wondered how people here have dealt with juggling a LDR and working? Obviously its something practically every couple here will have had to (or will have) deal with, and I wonder how you guys all dealt with it
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To put it simply, at 21 ive never had a full-time job (ive had part-time ones, and although I've taken up a number of voluntary positions, I mostly just prioritised my studying). Im a graduate coming into today's job market, which is already a scary enough transition to make. But that's not what bothers me either, its the thought of how it might effect the relationship with the girl of my dreams.
As of right now, me and my girlfriend with almost regularity message and call for a combined 10 hours a day. Everyday is a great one and I enjoy so so much just spending so much time with her. We both schedule our time around seeing friends and such (we both lead decent social lives and everything, we make sure we talk when we're free rather than disregarding other priorities completely).
Obviously, that isn't all that tenable in the longrun. We've been doing it this way for the past 3 months because we can, but free time dwindles when she's back at college, and when I obviously have to get a job.
This worries me. Not because I feel either of us will lose dedication to the relationship or whatever, but simply because on paper it looks very difficult for us to spend almost any time together until the weekend. Working a 9-5 job for me would coincide with her time to sleep before classes. Her time at college (plus a voluntary position she is looking at at a hospital) would comfortably cover all of my evening. And of course jumping into a work environment needs me to sleep, which coincides with the time she can talk.
I've juggled a number of ideas, but it basically comes down to me sleeping early and waking up very early in the morning so that we can call for a couple of hours before work. I dont much mind that, and on occasions I dont mind sleeping through my entire evening so that I can be with her for most of the time that she is free (though I need to see family too lol, so its not an everyday plan, just once in a while when we need to just spend hours together). It already hurts a ton to say goodbye to each other at night, and if it was up to me, I would spend every minute of my day talking to her, because we just click and there doesnt seem to be a thing of 'spending too much time together' with us. Having to get work (and I know I really dont have a say in the matter, especially as I need the finances for us to work out in the longrun), just seems a really daunting prospect, and one I feel will make me pretty miserable. However im fully aware that this is a necessary sacrifice needed for us to have a chance at eventually being together.
So I just wondered how people here have dealt with juggling a LDR and working? Obviously its something practically every couple here will have had to (or will have) deal with, and I wonder how you guys all dealt with it
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. She'll have a busier schedule than me though, so hopefully that'll stop her worrying about the less time we spend together.
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