Hi everyone,
I thought I'd make a topic for the gamers of the forum (or, those whose SOs are gamers) to discuss your LDR and how gaming affects it, in both positive or negative ways...
I met my SO in an online mmorpg. For those that don't know "mmorpg" stands for "massive multiplayer online role-playing game." One of the most well known out there that everyone likely knows about, even if you're not a gamer, is World of Warcraft (WoW). We met in a different game though. Playing in-game lead to private messages in-game, private messages lead to voice chat on Ventrilo (voice chat program commonly used by gamers), voice chat lead to Facebook, Facebook lead to phone texting, texting lead to phone calls...and then eventually we met!
After we met in person for the first time and had to go back to our regular lives, I was feeling very depressed and lonely. She seemed to get back into her routine just fine, but I was feeling miserable. I really needed reassurance from her that I was on her mind as much as she was on mine, but I wasn't getting it. She gets home much earlier than I do, and it bothered me then, and still bothers me now, that she logs into the game and plays for hours (before I'm even home) and doesn't send me any texts or call or anything. I try not to assume things, so I told myself that SHE is probably assuming I'm busy at work and doesn't want to interrupt me. Okay, that's fine, but then when the weekend comes and neither of us are working, the same thing happens again. I'm up before her, so I send her a good morning text. I log into the game website to check if she's on, and she isn't, so she's probably still asleep. I check again a short amount of time later and now she IS online. Hours later, I finally get a response to that morning text I sent. I mean, it just makes me feel like the game is a higher priority to her, or that the game is the first thing she thinks about when she wakes up. She logs into the game FIRST, plays for whatever amount of time, and THEN thinks to text me. It makes me feel like I must not be on her mind.
Can anyone else relate?
I thought I'd make a topic for the gamers of the forum (or, those whose SOs are gamers) to discuss your LDR and how gaming affects it, in both positive or negative ways...
I met my SO in an online mmorpg. For those that don't know "mmorpg" stands for "massive multiplayer online role-playing game." One of the most well known out there that everyone likely knows about, even if you're not a gamer, is World of Warcraft (WoW). We met in a different game though. Playing in-game lead to private messages in-game, private messages lead to voice chat on Ventrilo (voice chat program commonly used by gamers), voice chat lead to Facebook, Facebook lead to phone texting, texting lead to phone calls...and then eventually we met!
After we met in person for the first time and had to go back to our regular lives, I was feeling very depressed and lonely. She seemed to get back into her routine just fine, but I was feeling miserable. I really needed reassurance from her that I was on her mind as much as she was on mine, but I wasn't getting it. She gets home much earlier than I do, and it bothered me then, and still bothers me now, that she logs into the game and plays for hours (before I'm even home) and doesn't send me any texts or call or anything. I try not to assume things, so I told myself that SHE is probably assuming I'm busy at work and doesn't want to interrupt me. Okay, that's fine, but then when the weekend comes and neither of us are working, the same thing happens again. I'm up before her, so I send her a good morning text. I log into the game website to check if she's on, and she isn't, so she's probably still asleep. I check again a short amount of time later and now she IS online. Hours later, I finally get a response to that morning text I sent. I mean, it just makes me feel like the game is a higher priority to her, or that the game is the first thing she thinks about when she wakes up. She logs into the game FIRST, plays for whatever amount of time, and THEN thinks to text me. It makes me feel like I must not be on her mind.
Can anyone else relate?
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