How much do you share on LFAD?

[lucybelle]

I know I share a lot of stuff here. I like it because I feel like I have anonymity and if people judge me then I don't care because I don't know them

But at the same time, there's lots of things I don't mention. Like our silly nicknames for each other, our little rituals, our secret words and phrases... things like that. Those things I like to keep for myself. For some reason I feel like if I share them, it'll be less special.

Like I even refer to common things by other names. Like cuddling-- my SO and I never refer to it by that word. But I use it on here, because if I use our word, it won't be ours anymore. It's a little weird, but does anyone else do this?

[snow_girl]

If my SO was to come and read what I write he'd probably think I share too much sometimes, but like you said I like to think I am anon and know one really know who I am when I say things. I don't share lots of things but when it comes to the adult section and giving advice I don't usually hold back.

[Caitlin2009]

i dont share everything, 90% of things i keep to myself

[LeilaniJoi]

I don't share a lot unless it's related to a post I'm replying to with similar circumstances. I probably share more about the relationship itself than I do about "us". I don't have anyone here on Facebook either I don't think, but my Facebook is pretty drama free. Being anonymous allows you to talk about things you wouldn't normally and get fresh perspectives which helps tons.

[tanaquil]

I share situtations that upset me. I don't think I'd ever disclose a photo of us or his name because I'd feel as if I'd be disrespecting his privacy.

I'm also uber paranoid someone will find out about this site, figure out who I am and how much I've shared :P

[Moon]

Both me and my guy are pretty private people, so I'm always really careful about over sharing. I'll talk about my own experiences if I think it'll help somebody, but anything that involves him and I feel he'd find too personal, I never mention. I've only shared a couple of pics in the Vets section, because I know he'd hate his picture plastered publicly on the internet. I never go into details about our sex life over in the adult section, there's enough people doing that, mine's not needed

A few long time members have pm'd me here and there, asking for a bit of advice, and I'm much more open with that, because it's generally people I "know" pretty well, and it's not out in the open. I always keep in the back of my head that anything you share digitally is shared forever, and I consider how my boyfriend would feel about what I've written before I hit "post", even if he'll never see it, I have too much respect for him not to.

[Jayburr]

I don't think I've shared anything too extreme, but I do tend to make lengthy posts so, I assume that occasionally I may share more details than are necessary. Whenever I have a problem with something though and am needing advice, I write long posts to try and provide as much info as possible to whoever may read it, and help them understand the situation as best as they can. In doing that, my hope is that less time will be spent in the topic asking/answering questions, and more time getting feedback on the OP At the same time though, long posts can turn people away hehe.

[GrandSupreme]

I don't think I share too much, simply because I know my SO would hate it! but I do also think that if I were here long enough, know people a bit better etc, then I'll be more open to the idea of sharing that bit more

[Katrina]

My SO and I sort of have a deal about not typing anything anywhere that we wouldn't show to each other. This was at the beginning when we were kind of agreeing rules about talking with other people online but its relevant here. When I post I imagine how I would feel if I found the site, recognised him and he had typed that I was distant or about our sex life or whatever. I also imagine my kids or colleagues reading my posts because as Moon says once its out there its there forever. I think the site is fantastic and I'm really glad not everyone feels like me because I get lots and lots of info and advice from other peoples posts then I answer the mundane stuff.

[LittleBox]

I'm pretty guarded about what I say and I lurked here for several months before I said anything. I probably wouldn't reaveal much but I'm comfortable with chipping in my two cents from time to time. This site is wonderful for support and advice. Like Katrina says, it gives you a bit of a boost knowing you're not along and others are on the same uphill trek you are (:

[Sora1101]

I think I'm somewhere in the middle. I share a lot about my relationship and things pertaining to it but I hardly ever share anything specifically about my SO or myself. I have mentioned a few things in my blog but I usually only post here when I have experiences or insights that I think would help, or fun little threads like this.

[Zephii]

I share an awful lot. Probably too much. I don't really feel anonymous here any more, seeming a bunch of people here are on my facebook, know my home address, or have met me in real life.

There are some things I don't share. Cute private things mostly. Or graphic sexual things. I try to think to myself "if someone else posted this, would I cringe?".

[Sanney4709]

I'm kind of reserved and I keep a lot of things to myself. It is nice to have a place to vent and get advice when needed though.

[Adora]

I share most things to be honest this is one of the only places I feel people understand and can empathise as well are all in very similar sitautions. I do however keep personal things to myslef about me and my SO, as previous posters have said that "OUR" stuff and I feel it wont be personal to us if I share it

[Haley53]

I'm with Zephii. I share a lot, both about me and my SO, but he's also aware of what types of things are shared and I know he wouldn't mind to read what I've posted. We also both appreciate the forum's advice, and specific members, too, even if he's not a part of the forum.

At the same time, I suppose there's a lot I don't share. Not that I think LFAD is a place to stew in misery, but I typically only tend to post for advice or a random discussion thread about relationships in general, so a lot doesn't end up getting shared here.