Coping with your SOs sleeping habits

[Amelia]

So I have noticed that when my SO sleeps he does some frustrating things. Firstly he is a huge blanket stealer, he manages to completely take away the whole blanket, but it doesn't stop there he even takes the sheet. Secondly he also takes pillows I've noticed that I end up having no pillows and he has at least 4. I've tried to stop this by having two blankets but no he needs to take them, has anyone managed to solve this issue??

Also in regards to sleeping together yes i like cuddling and being close to him but is it wrong that I just want to have a little space to sleep?

[tanaquil]

Hahaha, I know this is anoying but I find this rather endearing :P

I know what you mean, though, about needing some space. What I do is usually just push him away for a bit and fall asleep -- you're still close but you have at least half the bed to yourself. Have you brought up his sleep theft habits? What does he have to say (I know he can't really control what he does in his sleep, but it'll be interesting to see what he has to say :P).

[Amelia]

I asked him about his thieving habits and he says it takes two and that it is partially me pushing the blankets onto him as well as the pillows but I have never heard of someone pushing blankets and pillows away my SO is extremely stubborn and will never admit to doing anything wrong so annoying?..

And yes but I feel bad about pushing him away to get my space especially when all I want is really to be closer to him I don't know it just seems weird that I'd push him away rather than have him close

[snow_girl]

I enjoy cuddling with him when we first get in to bed but other then that I'd rather have my own bed. He also grabs the covers and rolls over so its near impossible to pull them back and he hogs the bed. I am such a light sleeper, I wake up so much sleeping with him and his alarm goes off at 6 am which I also hate cause I don't usually work till noon.

Just cause you've never heard of anyone pushing blankets away doesn't mean it doesn't happen. If you get warm at night while you sleep you probably do it. I know my SO and I both do sometimes. Unfortunately if he steals covers while he is sleeping there isn't much he can do to not do it, as he already isn't doing it consciously.

[Jayburr]

So I have noticed that when my SO sleeps he does some frustrating things. Firstly he is a huge blanket stealer, he manages to completely take away the whole blanket, but it doesn't stop there he even takes the sheet. Secondly he also takes pillows I've noticed that I end up having no pillows and he has at least 4. I've tried to stop this by having two blankets but no he needs to take them, has anyone managed to solve this issue??

Also in regards to sleeping together yes i like cuddling and being close to him but is it wrong that I just want to have a little space to sleep?

Hehe this made me laugh, especially about how he steals, not just the blankets, NOT JUST the sheets but ALSO the pillows! lol, sounds like you're left with only the mattress! haha

I don't really have a solution for you other than to try falling asleep with your side of the blankets and sheets wrapped around your arm or something.

As for wanting space, I think it's totally fine. Honestly, my SO is very warm, so I definitely cannot cuddle her the entire night, even though I'd love to... If I tried, I'd end up sweating all over her or something and yeah, it's uncomfortable for me and difficult to sleep feeling so hot anyway hehe. I start out cuddling her, my arms wrapped around her, but usually about the time she's fallen asleep is when I start to get a little hot, so, it's at that point that I gently move away from her just a little bit. I still stay close to her, but I just can't embrace her all night, hehe. I always wake up before her in the morning so, when I do, I scoot myself in close to her, wrapping my arms around her again so that she can wake up with me holding her

Now, I stayed with her in July, which was (I think) the hottest month on record for Chicago so, even though our hotel room was very nice and air conditioned, I'm sure the weather played a slight role. I'd be curious to see what it's like staying with her during the winter hehe

[sewbama]

My SO and I use two blankets, and three pillows each. It gets crowded, but at least we aren't fighting in our sleep. Most of the time. I would suggest always having a couple extra blankets beside the bed. Even if you are kicking them off, eventually he'll get hot and start doing the same. So just make sure you have more than he needs. Two blankets seems so unromantic, but we're grad students and need sleep. So I don't worry about it.

I like cuddling as much as anyone, but I can't fall asleep like that, most of the time. I'm not really a light sleeper, but falling asleep takes perfect conditions. And cuddling just doesn't work. And apparently (I'm told) I'm mean in my sleep. I'll push him and make noises if he gets too cuddly while I'm sleeping. I've heard I do the same to the cats. I throw them if they step on me while I'm sleeping. I've also been told (this one I don't believe a bit) that I migrate to the center of the bed and force him to sleep on the edge of the bed. I've never woken up in the middle of the bed (unless he wasn't there) and I have woken up many times with the exact opposite situation happening.

So I wouldn't worry about wanting to sleep with a little space.

[Darth_Taco]

Just kick him when he starts stealing. It always works :'D. It's what I do when Enrique starts stealing, snoring, moving fucking everywhere, ect.

[Haley53]

Mine claims that I give up the blankets, also. I still stand by the fact he steals them. Though I apparently can also get pretty mean/violent in my sleep, so the boy is learning to either wake me up completely or give me my respectable amount of space. xD

I agree with sewbama though. Keep extra pillows and blankets etc. beside the bed. What Darth_Taco suggests might work also!

[Amelia]

I told my SO about this and he is still adamant that I'm giving him the pillows and blankets and sheets he thinks the next we are sleeping together he will video it so he has proof talk about stubborn, I'll have to try wrapping myself in blankets before getting into bed

[notyourexgirlfriend]

My SO is a very quiet sleeper. He doesn't toss or turn much. Once he's asleep he pretty much stays where he lies. Makes it nice for me as I can snuggle up behind him and hold him close to me and he doesn't move. Me on the other hand, I toss, turn, sleep talk and steal blankets but sleeping with my SO I'm not so much like that. I guess because we see so little of each other we make the most of time sleeping with each other. I'm not sure if that makes sense or not.

[enemey96]

I guess I'm the same as your SO, I am apparently a duvet thief, so whenever I'm staying at his we use separate duvets. Even though I still find ways of stealing his And when we're at mine (we have to share a single bed) it gets quite hot so we don't use a duvet - even in winter. So maybe try making it so hot in your room that you don't need a duvet?

[Caitlin2009]

Well Denise is fine when she sleeps she just mumbles in her sleep which i think is cute, but according to her i snore really loud to the point of scaring the shit out of her so i gotta wear those breath right strips when i move lol, and according to her im a bed hog and she'll end up on the edge of the bed heh *shrugs* i can cuddle for a minute before we go to sleep but then it gets too warm and we seperate to our positions in bed

[lucybelle]

My SO steals blankets, hits me, pets me, throws things at me, etc. He's gotten better as time has gone on, but whenever he steals blankets I always just pull them back. If he holds them too tight, I push him and shove him until he wakes up and I take my blankets back. I don't care about waking him up, he woke me up!

Also most times we sleep with separate blankets. That way, he doesn't steal as often.

[Pixel]

My SO and I don't really have any issues with blanket or pillow stealing. We cuddle a lot during the night but it's usually only for a short time and then we shift back to our own sides of the bed.
He snores sometimes so I just shove him until he stops. I wake up frequently during the night and accidentally wake him up a lot though. Oops.

[Jayburr]

My SO steals blankets, hits me, pets me, throws things at me, etc. He's gotten better as time has gone on, but whenever he steals blankets I always just pull them back. If he holds them too tight, I push him and shove him until he wakes up and I take my blankets back. I don't care about waking him up, he woke me up!

LOL!! It's like a war for blankets!