Coping with your SOs sleeping habits

[Sanney4709]

And yes but I feel bad about pushing him away to get my space especially when all I want is really to be closer to him I don't know it just seems weird that I'd push him away rather than have him close

Don't feel bad about wanting your space for sleeping. I know exactly what you mean. I can't sleep while being all cuddled up next to him. I end either really uncomfortable or hot and then I can't sleep. We usually just cuddle and chat for like 10 minutes to half an hour before we roll over and go to sleep. As for the blanket stealing, good luck with proving him wrong. :P We have never had that issue. Our main issue is that he snores really loud when he sleeps on his back. I usually wake him up and tell him he's snoring and he doesn't even remember it the next morning. I also like to talk in my sleep but he doesn't seem to mind it. He's a heavy sleeper.

[Alemap]

Look, I know it's not romantic, but have you considered a sleeping bag?

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[megfashion]

ok, well he is definately an angry sleeper... dont want to get on the wrong side of him when he sleeps!!

firstly, if you move slightly, he stops the cute lil snore he has, sighs, then starts snoring again...

but its ok. i wake up when he moves, so we move at the same time :P sorted :P (i cant stay in one position for a long time, hurts my back jst being in one position)


at one point, he was uncomfortable.. so uncomfortable he was sighing and huffing and puffing, moving around... he moved so much he fell off the bed :O :O
he just kind of got up and went back to bed... i stayed up for abit to make sure he was ok though :/



also, we dont cuddle. at all. so dont worry about that i find it too uncomfy. we tried having a lil doze in the morning before fully waking up, with him holding me close. we both hated it -.- its just too uncomfy, i cant move, and his arm is trapped... i dont see how couples *can* hug together whilst going to sleep! my space is my space, his space is his. haha. fair enoughwe do kiss just before and say goodnight, but thats it. :P

[Amelia]

Look, I know it's not romantic, but have you considered a sleeping bag?

P.

Haha yes it would end all problems but then I'd be like a worm

Megfashion: I know what you mean about the trapped arm it's so awkward where is that arm supposed to go how come it looks so easy in the movies?

[Honeypie]

I don't care about waking him up, he woke me up!
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That's how I feel too

[Trepis]

Thank for this thread,
this topic has been on my mind quite a bit lately so it's good to hear other folks ways of coping. I haven't shared a bed long term with anyone in over a decade and I am a VERY active sleeper. I toss and turn all night most nights. I worry about how Snowlilly will manage, hehe. I also like the idea of cuddling as we sleep but we will have to explore the practicality of that once we close the distance, I don't want to be waking her all night as I move around,.
-Trepis

[loveknowsnodistance27]

My SO tosses and turns like nobody's business lol. He is always warm and I am always cold, so he generally lets me steal the blankets. We usually start out cuddling and then as we're about to fall asleep, we take our respective sides of the bed. I need to have some room and some space too when I sleep, but I love cuddling with him so that is the best of both worlds.

[AABRCL05]

I sometimes feel that me and my SO should not be sharing a bed. He is a complete blaknet and bed hog- even though he denies it every morning we wake up together. I think that part of it is that we are both so used to sleeping by ourselves that when we do sleep together it takes a night or 2 to adjust. I do notice that I toss and turn alot more when we are sleeping in the same bed- againg I think it is just me adjusting to having someone in bed with me. I am a huge cuddler and he is extremely warm blooded, so it makes it hard to cuddle with him bc he is always complaining that he is hot. Solved that problem by sleeping with a fan pointed directly on him, so he no longer gets hot when i wanna cuddle. When we arent cuddling I always have to be touching him- whether it be my leg is touching his or my hand is touching his arm- it drives him crazy; but he accepts it. I don't know why I always feel the need to always be touching him in some way when we are sleeping. Does anyone else do that?

[TwoThree]

My SO has a tendency to steal the blanket, so he got another one just for me. Problem solved. The thing is, we can't really sleep too close to one another because he... shakes in his sleep. I'm not sure what it's due to, but it sometimes wakes me up.

He doesn't snore, which is a blessing because I simply can't sleep in a room where someone snores. In fact, I can't be around people who snore, even if I'm not sleeping. I honestly feel like killing them :S The funny thing is, according to my sisters, I do snore. But my SO says he never heard me, so I guess I'm blessed there, too

[Amelia]

i love how im not the only one who goes to war in the bed every night with the SO. When i originally asked my friends about it they all said thats not normal, that doesnt happen, how wrong they are! On thursday night i will be with my SO so that is the night for the video to prove i am not the one giving him blankets and pillows, i'll have to remember to post back with the findings. Also thankyou so much with all the posts on cuddling while sleeping it has been extremely reassuring that there are others who like their space but also like to cuddle.

[MaggieS]

-peeks in- Hi

So, for the most part, sleeping with my SO is a dream. Neither of us steals the blankets/pillows(he's actually very considerate with making sure I'm covered) and we both like to be in contact with each other throughout the night, whether via spooning or just having an arm thrown over him.

But his beard is destroying my hair When we spoon, I'm curled up right next to him, and he kind of tilts his head up a bit so as not to get sucked into my hair I think xD But his scruff(I know I said beard, but he has to shave for the military, so it's mostly just the scruff that's there at the end of the day) tangles the crap out of my hair to the point that we were both worried I wouldn't be able to untangle it and we'd have to shave my head.

Has anyone else had this happen before? o.O It's never been a problem before, I really don't want to be bald xD

[Amelia]

sorry im a bit confused on how his beard tangles your hair, is your hair really long??? maybe you could try putting it in a loose bun or pony tail. Normally when i go to sleep with my SO i always lightly tie my hair up so it doesnt get in the way or he doesnt yank my hair accidently when he moves

[heathergro]

This topic has made me laugh so much... and it's been a really crappy day, so thanks for that! My SO always bundles himself up in the blankets before we go to bed... it's so freaking cute. He's very precise about tucking his feet in, lol. Sometimes we both steal blankets from each other though, we don't wake each other up and steal them back, we just get on each other about it in the morning! He also takes up a ton of space sometimes, which doesn't really matter to me since I don't move at all once I get comfortable, but it's funny to bend myself around him when I come back from the bathroom in the middle of the night. We cuddle right when we go to sleep, but my baby is a big time snorer, so it doesn't really work to have that in my ear when my head is on his chest and I also like to have my space. He's fine with it, I just kiss him and tell him goodnight before rolling over and going back to sleep. It's funny, when we first started dating, he would keep a box of earplugs on my side of the bed for me. Now, his snoring doesn't even bother me!

[Jayburr]

It's funny, when we first started dating, he would keep a box of earplugs on my side of the bed for me. Now, his snoring doesn't even bother me!

that's cute hehe.

My SO snores too, and she isn't exactly quiet... One of these days we'll have to do something about it like get her one of those things to put in her mouth or something... Anyway, I spent a week with her the first time we met and I was surprised to be pretty used to her snoring by the 2nd night! Your ears I guess just get used to the noise and gradually tune it out when you're trying to sleep. She always falls asleep before me though and as soon as she's out, the snoring begins, haha

[megfashion]

haha to the snoring :P

see my dad snores like nobody's business. he snores so much that we literally have to shout in his ear for him to wake up. if mum and dad are sleeping in the bed together (ON HOLIDAY! :P ) she says she gives him a hard kick so he can stop (a little one doesnt work!)

so when the SO snores, its the cutest lil thing. ive been hearing these gigantic, loud, violent snores for almost 18 years of my life, so when the SO does these cute lil quiet snores it is the cutest thing and most adorable thing in the world :3