Hey everyone, I'm knew to this site. Glad stuff like this is here! Definitely helpful! If you didn't get it from my name, I'm a guy enlisted in the Coast Guard. I left for bootcamp last November, and me and my girlfriend have been doing the long distance thing ever since. Really hasnt seemed like 10 months at all, times gone by fast. Me and her have been dating for about two years now. She's a senior in highschool and on varsity dance. That's the background of us. Now what I'm looking for advice on. We get to see each other about every month, but that's goingto change to a lot longer soon.
I'll try to word this the best I can. We've had our arguments, like every relationship, and our differences as well. In the past alot of those went like this: me feeling she wasn't putting in the effort, me telling her that and then nothing changing. After awhile I realized that I needed to love her for who she is, and that I was overlooking a lot of what she was doing. The way I look at a lot of things is I see how they can work better with a plan, so if you put in this and do that, you get this result. And I've tried to do that in our long distance relationship a couple times but she doesn't really seem to want to do anything like that. It used to be how all relationships start out, we couldn't stop talking and doing things for each other. And naturally that faded, which makes sense because we're way past that now. But I mean the talking and texting thing just annoys me. Shell text me later in the day, when she would be texting her friends the whole day. It may sound dumb, but I'm just not seeing the effort that much. She says it's hard for her to open up because it makes her miss me. She seems content with how it is. It's hard for me to really word how this is, but that's the best way I can put it. And i am reluctant to bring this up to her because I feel like she'll just think I don't appreciate her, and that I'm not loving her for what she's putting in. I know it's long, but thanks!
I'll try to word this the best I can. We've had our arguments, like every relationship, and our differences as well. In the past alot of those went like this: me feeling she wasn't putting in the effort, me telling her that and then nothing changing. After awhile I realized that I needed to love her for who she is, and that I was overlooking a lot of what she was doing. The way I look at a lot of things is I see how they can work better with a plan, so if you put in this and do that, you get this result. And I've tried to do that in our long distance relationship a couple times but she doesn't really seem to want to do anything like that. It used to be how all relationships start out, we couldn't stop talking and doing things for each other. And naturally that faded, which makes sense because we're way past that now. But I mean the talking and texting thing just annoys me. Shell text me later in the day, when she would be texting her friends the whole day. It may sound dumb, but I'm just not seeing the effort that much. She says it's hard for her to open up because it makes her miss me. She seems content with how it is. It's hard for me to really word how this is, but that's the best way I can put it. And i am reluctant to bring this up to her because I feel like she'll just think I don't appreciate her, and that I'm not loving her for what she's putting in. I know it's long, but thanks!
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