Hi, first time posting here. Just recently found the group. Wanted everyone's opinion on something.
Background: We've been dating for about a year and half. Even at the beginning it's alway been a semi-long distance relationship. But since the beginning of the year it turn into a real long distance relationship.
Problem: We've alway had about of a communication problem. Where he does not thing that we need to communicate often. Had many fights about it. Now he's better about just calling me and talking each night. But he still does not really talk about personal issues (like feeling etc.) So whenever something goes wrong he closes himself off totally. Now he's living a with a roomate who is a friend and as co-worker. So tonight he said he did not feel up to talk because something went wrong at work. He said he was feeling sad, but he was talking over the issue with his friend.
On a side note... sometimes I think he treats his friend better than he does me. Even though he has said many times that he is ready to marry me, whenever I move down to where he is.
My thoughts: Okay, so I get that he's the person he is talking to is a friend and co-worker. But if the issue was making him sad, would it not make sense to talk to me and have me cheer him up (which I offered to do). If he did not feel like talking about it why is he talking to his friend about it. I'm wondering if I'm being too sensitive about the issue... or is this communication problem between us just not solvable.
Thanks for anyone's input. Fell free to ask me any question and I'll answer the best I can.
Background: We've been dating for about a year and half. Even at the beginning it's alway been a semi-long distance relationship. But since the beginning of the year it turn into a real long distance relationship.
Problem: We've alway had about of a communication problem. Where he does not thing that we need to communicate often. Had many fights about it. Now he's better about just calling me and talking each night. But he still does not really talk about personal issues (like feeling etc.) So whenever something goes wrong he closes himself off totally. Now he's living a with a roomate who is a friend and as co-worker. So tonight he said he did not feel up to talk because something went wrong at work. He said he was feeling sad, but he was talking over the issue with his friend.
On a side note... sometimes I think he treats his friend better than he does me. Even though he has said many times that he is ready to marry me, whenever I move down to where he is.
My thoughts: Okay, so I get that he's the person he is talking to is a friend and co-worker. But if the issue was making him sad, would it not make sense to talk to me and have me cheer him up (which I offered to do). If he did not feel like talking about it why is he talking to his friend about it. I'm wondering if I'm being too sensitive about the issue... or is this communication problem between us just not solvable.
Thanks for anyone's input. Fell free to ask me any question and I'll answer the best I can.
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