how did you know?

[charly]

It's just that feeling, those butterflies buzzing around, his name constantly on the tip of my tongue (I think I start to annoy my friends haha), that look he gives me right before we start dancing randomly when we are cooking together, all those hours we spend discussing subjects I never knew anyone could be interested in... He just fits me so well, I feel completely at easy around him, and that feeling just makes me feel on top of the world

(big fan of meatloaf right here marbear31!)

[Katelyn313]

I knew I loved him before we met... we'd exchanged 10,000 (yes, that's correct) texts the month we started talking more than casually...But I KNEW when I stepped into his arms and felt safe. I feel utterly safe with him. There's a million other things, like that he listens to me and understands me and even gets me to see how silly I'm being, but the safety is what makes me ABSOLUTELY sure. Not to mention, how absolutely awful I feel when he's not here... as I told a friend, I feel like Dorothy when she gets dropped into Oz, each time I see him. What colors there are when he's near, and how drab things are without him. And how my very soul seems to ache without it's twin...

Some times, you just know.

Thanks for this thread... it's a good one

[rixue]

This thread reminded me of this scene from Enchanted:

I will add how I know later when I am less busy XD

[Darth_Taco]

How do I know he's the one? Simple, he isn't :P. That's because I don't believe in the concepts like soulmates or "the one" though XP. The better question for me would be to ask me would be how I know he's the person I want to continue being with for good. The answer to this question is also very simple, but not everyone will get it. It's one of those things you have to experience to understand it, like addiction, an orgasm, or the 3 rings of death. Cry with me if the third has happened to you ;_;.

Anyway, the way I knew I wanted him for good was his smell. When he sweats, the man can stink up a continent. Well, that's what people tell me. I've never been able to tell because I love the way he smells no matter how much he smells. Every time I sniff him, I think to myself how this is a smell I can spend the rest of my life with. Then I sniff harder to creep him out :'D. By the way, he totally smells like rainbows.

[notyourexgirlfriend]

I honestly don't believe in 'the one'. I guess I'm a little bit jaded about it all given that I've been married twice and I honestly thought both times that they were for keeps. It's hard to believe in 'the one' when you've kinda failed at that twice. I guess it has hardened my heart a little. My SO tried to capture me for months before I caved. Even when I was halfheartedly dating some local guy who ended up cheating on me (just like my ex husband - do we see a theme here?) he was persistent. I guess that's what makes him different. I've always been the one to do the chasing. Never having been chased. For as long as I can remember I've been the one to pursue. It still feels weird to me. Partially because my SO is so much younger and that I'm just not used to it.

I've never been been one for long distance. I'd tried it a few times and failed miserably, let alone starting a relationship as nevermets. My SO has been there emotionally for me through so much heartache. Through my diagnosis and treatment of Bipolar Disorder, through the bitter and oftentimes heartbreaking custody battle for my daughter. Giving me support and encouragement to keep going when I thought all had been lost. He has never wavered, never faltered and always been there, no matter what. His love for me surpasses anything that I've ever felt before. It has opened my eyes and healed my heart. Sure, I'm still very wary but he has broken down my walls and given me hope. I was so scared that when we finally met that he'd not want to be with me. That he'd change. All of that worry was for nothing.

We've been together just over 20 months now. It seems so surreal but I cannot imagine my life without him in it. I now know that what we have is worth the distance, worth the waiting, worth it all. The only thing I've ever wanted more than him was custody of my child. That I've achieved. He is my next goal. It took me almost 2 years to close the distance with my daughter and it'll probably take me another 2 or more years before I can close the distance with him. I don't even bat an eyelid at the time. I know he's there for me, as I am for him. I know I have helped him grow as a person as he has helped me. Our ages might be mismatched but our hearts aren't. That is what matters most.

[Daumina]

I knew we had both made the right choice when we first awkwardly hugged. You truly mean the world to me sweetheart, I know you will always be there for me as I am always there for you. You truly bring happiness and joy into my life and I'm beyond lucky to have you in my life. I know that at times the distance gets to us both but we know that it's worth it, the many months of waiting for a few days of contact. You mean so very much to me and I love you with everything that I am.

You're my squishy <3 <3

Lovingly Yours,

ADM

[TwoThree]

explaining how we have the same philosophies, values and ethics, like the same things, share a twisted sense of humor, truly get each other, blah, blah, blah, sounds so typical and trite for something so all encompassing and wonderful that I can't find the right words about how I know

I don't know if it's because I'm hormonal (and very emotional) today but those words kinda make me want to cry. Because that's how I feel about my own relationship.

[floridaellen]

Because we rarely fight and when we do, I know it's a matter of "when" we make up, not "if".

Because after I broke up with him last summer, he still tried to make me see that he's the one for me. He succeeded and now we're more in love than ever.

Because when we were living together over the summer, even when he would leave his clothes around the house for me to find on laundry day and would eat the food that I wanted to eat before I had the chance and wouldn't ever make the bed and I just wanted to kill him, I still wanted to live with him forever.

[leonsfangirl]

Tough question...

It jumped out and smacked me upside the head during one of our random conversations. He knew pretty much every shitty thing I'd ever done in my life and loved me anyway. I knew pretty much every shitty thing he'd ever done and yet i loved him anyway. He loves me with such passion when I'm at my worst, how could he not be the one for me?

[sewbama]

I knew he was special and going to be important to me the moment I met him. But I knew he was the one for me when, on our first date, I was explaining how I view the world and how I believe things work and people act. The way I understand it myself and the way I explain it is applying certain scientific principles to general life (not the things they were intended to be applied to). Most people don't get what I mean or what I'm talking about. He said "that's hot." I knew.... If someone could not only understand how I think but appreciate it, they must be for me. And, in the (almost) two years since that day, he has consistently proven that he understands and appreciates how I think. He incorporates it into everything we do and how we talk to each other.

He always says that for him, it was love at first sight. Of course, we knew a lot about each other at first sight, even though we'd only been writing emails for a few weeks and talking on the phone for a few days.

[Moon]

I don't know if it's because I'm hormonal (and very emotional) today but those words kinda make me want to cry. Because that's how I feel about my own relationship.

Those damn Finns will have that affect on ya!

[efish1042]

I knew because when my SO asked why I loved him, I didn't have an answer. There was just so much and it was more than just "your looks", "your personality", "your compassion"... it was all that and more and I couldn't give him a coherent answer.
It has only increased over time. He's been there for me throughout everything, and I for him.

[tanaquil]

I hope he's the one. I don't want to say anything too concrete, because that's scary.

But I just look at him and there's a beautiful pain my chest. I can look at a horrible picture of him and still find every single detail in it to be perfect. I hear him singing in my head in his silly mumbly, Russian-y voice.

[mawlz2012]

I knew he was the one when I wept in his arms the day before I had to move away, and he held me and reassured me that he would wait for me. He said I was his role model; he looks up to me because I'm more experienced in love than he. But, I had to tell him, that I look up to him because of his purity, honesty, and earnestness at our age (early twenties).

I still know that he's the one because when I look at other people and even fathom being with them romantically, they just don't compare. I can only think of him.