All Because of One Text Message

[Puppy's.Kitty]

Awww loved the story that is so awesome how that works right? Sucks your plane is late gotta love how transportation just wants to torture you just a bit more when you are super excited about something right? lol Anyway hope that your visit goes well and you land safely soon and get to kiss your SO for the first time. Cant wait to see your pics and hear about how great the trip went, btw totally lucky you get to see him for 3 weeks!

[nycgirl525600]

Hey guys,
I landed back in Florida this morning. I don't really understand how this could happen. I mean, he was telling me for so long before I got there that he was in love with me...that the wanted to be my boyfriend....that I should consider moving in with him. He told me how bad he just wanted to hold me....how he didnt care if we ever did anything sexual. He told me he was in love with me....that I was the person he had been waiting for his whole life....that all of his pain, all of the things he had gone through in life were to bring himself to me. To find me. I didnt say it first. I didnt say any of it first. HE did.
Him picking me up at the airport was great. We drove through the country with the top down, smiling and happy. I would look over, and he would be smiling and just staring at me. Once he noticed I saw, he would turn away and blush with a crooked smile on his face. I miss that smile. The first day I was there was great. We cuddled on the couch and watched a movie. We kissed. A lot. We held hands. We tickled eachother. Then he started acting funny.
That night, we were getting ready to go into bed. You could feel the silent tension. He turned the light off, and just laid on his back. I remember thinking "One of the things he wanted to do the most, he said, was hold me in bed while we slept. He said he wanted to wake up next to me with me in his arms."
But he didnt try to touch me at all.
I quietly said "So when do you think you will want me to go home? SO i can tell my mom mahead of time."
Even i the dark, I could feel his face heat up.
"Do you want to go home?"
And as soon as he said that, I knew. I knew he didnt want me there, but was too shy to say it.
I looked over at where his face was, but couldnt see anything. Only dark.
"I want to go home if you want me to go home. I mean, I want to stay, cause I really do love you. But if you dont want me here, I dont want to be here."
He exhaled.
"I really really do like you as much as I thought I would. More actually. I'm just....not ready for a girlfriend. I dont WANT a girlfriend right now. My life is shit, I havent gotten any of my shit together. But we can still stay and be friends and have fun."

The tears welled up in my eyes faster than anything Ive experienced before.

"Look," I said, "If you dont like me like you thought you would, please just tell me."
"I told you I do." He said.

At that point, I knew there was nothing I could do. I started to cry, and he tried to hold me. I didnt know how to react. Here I was, getting in trouble with my family for going to see this guy. Everyone told me it would end like this, but I refused. I had so much evidence to prove that he in fact DID love me and DID want to start a relationship with me...and be with me. I'm still not sure what happened.

I went to the airport the next morning. The rest of the day and night was awkward. He pretty much acted like I didnt exist. I spent the whole night in his room crying...he stayed out in the living room and watched movies, laughing. Like he wasnt hurt by any of it. It made my stomach sick.

I spent 11 hrs in the airport during my layover. All I did was cry. Actually, I cried the moment he said goodbye to me at the security checkpoint at the first airport. I cried the whole first flight. I cried the whole 11 hour layover. I cried so hard I missed my flight cause I couldnt see where I was going. I cried the whole second flight to Florida. I cried until I passed out of exhaustion in my room last night. I dont know what to do.
Then this morning, I got a random text from an Indiana area code asking "Are you alright?"
"Who is this?"
"This is Dexter, Im friends with Rob. I'm not trying to get in your pants, dont worry. I just....he told me what happened and I just wanted to make sure you were ok. You took a really big chance coming here for some guy who ended up just wanting a booty call."

Long story short, I asked him what Rob had said about me once I left. He told me all he really said was that he didnt like the fact that I wanted a relationship with him, and that I was too nice of a person for him. Oh, and apparently he ranted a lot about my looks and how good they were. So, as hard as it was, I made the decision not to talk to Rob anymore. And I have never been more miserable. I still support all you guys, but I need your help. I really dont know what to do.

[Black_Halloween]

Oh sweetie i'm SO sorry! You did the only thing you can do, stop contact with this loser. You are worth much more than a booty call. <3 xxxx

[Puppy's.Kitty]

Damn that sucks...you didn't diserve that and you did the right thing in not talking with him. You don't need a creep like that around anyways. Try to keep your head up girl, if you need someone to talk to we are all here for you. *hugs*

[ushiwakafox]

AW! I'm so sorry to hear what happened :[ We're all here for you

[nycgirl525600]

Thank you all so much. I feel really used and taken advantage of. If he would put a girl through that much just for a booty call, then he is a disgusting person. I have since found out that he is telling everyone he got turned off by the fact that I said I loved him. When HE was the one who said it first. Like I said earlier, he is the one who initiated everything, the saying of I love you...and he was the one who told me all those sweet things, I let him come to me so idk wtf his issue is. :'(

[Benni]

Hey guys,

"I really really do like you as much as I thought I would. More actually. I'm just....not ready for a girlfriend. I dont WANT a girlfriend right now. My life is shit, I havent gotten any of my shit together. But we can still stay and be friends and have fun."

I don't understand this! He liked you even more than he thought he would? But didn't want a girlfriend?
Then what was his point on having you fly to meet him?

Be glad you found out before things went any further!

[rixue]

Sorry to hear the trip did not go as planned! You did do the right thing by dropping all contact with that dick. You deserve way better than him.

[LittleBox]

I'm sorry things turned out awfully Its sickening that he would put you through that for a booty call but it looks like whatever shred of conscious he had kicked in at the last miniute and he didn't take sexual advantage of you before turning cold on you. Keep your chin up and be careful if tries to sweet talk you again. If you need to vent, feel free.

[marbear31]

I'm so sorry hon! Hugs and love, and I think you should eat some chocolate.

Seriously, though, what an ass. You sound so sweet, too. :/

[Romeo s Juliet]

omg i m so sorry please be strong :/ i m glad that he showed his true colours before things went on much further. he is seriously a stupid ass, you are so much more worth than a booty call. be strong and concentrate on yourself.
hugs <3

[nycgirl525600]

thank you, i guess me being sweet was one of the major problems he had with me. i guess he likes mean girls. chocolate and sleep and my cat and 27 dresses have been my life since i got home haha.

[nycgirl525600]

the sad thing is it DIDNT kick in until he was done if you know what i mean.....he hasnt tried to talk to me since thank god. if he does though i wont reply and if i do, it isnt gonna be very nice. so i think its best for me to just not reply at all.

[Romeo s Juliet]

the sad thing is it DIDNT kick in until he was done if you know what i mean.....he hasnt tried to talk to me since thank god. if he does though i wont reply and if i do, it isnt gonna be very nice. so i think its best for me to just not reply at all.

not replying and cutting all contact with him will help you move on far more easily you deserve to be loved and cared by someone who values you for you
be strong and good luck

[dianacakes]

I read the beginning of this thread and was so happy to hear that you would be visiting him! And then I get to the last couple pages........and can I say, complete DOUCHEBAG?! All of the courting and sweet-talk and then he just ends it cause all he wanted was a booty-call? He definitely went far out of his way for that. And I am so sorry that this happened to you. But keep your head up high and know that he's the one that lost the chance at something good.