Is there anything you don't feel comfortable talking about with SO?

[Verojoon]

Are there any topics of conversation you are not comfortable talking about with SO?

I try not to talk too much about my dreams for the future... especially not marriage stuff. It's my own block... He wouldn't react badly... just it used to stress him out.. we've done a lot of talking since then, and I know we can communicate this stuff without it being taken as pressure or anything... but I still just can't get past the block... I think after he gets his passport and can come visit me here, I'll be able to open up better, because, even though we are both sure he would fit nicely in my life here with my children and responsibilities etc, we both agreed that we wouldn't make any further plans until after we've actually tested it out... But I know I could talk about things now...

For example today my daughter said she would love me to take her to Texas, and I started thinking how she would come to the wedding in San Antonio, and I started googling San Antonio weddings and it was all in fun... just dreaming type of stuff... but I couldn't bring myself to tell SO about it, so he wouldn't think I'm pressuring him to get married now! Which, I really don't think he would think that... I don't know if I even make sense... I'm rambling! :P

Anyone else have topics that they don't bring up?

[londongirl]

My sexuality, and boy does it come up quite often....I think it's just a 'new' thing to him and some of my so called/our mutual uni friends didn't exactly make the situation easier =/

[kittyo9]

Sometimes I'm hesitant to talk about things that I think might put my SO off, like weight problems and weird things that I'm into, but he is always-- every single time-- open and willing to listen, and he consistently surprises me with how understanding and okay he is with things that I think will change the way he thinks about me. We have a sort of unspoken rule where if something is bothering us, we have to say it, and we have to be 100% honest about it, so it gets pretty much everything talked about.

[Xanahtas]

To be honest, i dont think there is anything we cant talk about. He finds is awkward to talk about his family because of recent events and wants nothing to do with them. Though, some things we had to talk about involved talking, in details, about the past with them etc - but its not like we cant, he just rather we didnt unless we have to :P

[garnet]

I don't feel suuuuuper comfortable talking about family with him. He has a huge, old fashioned sit come type (who are all wonderful people), and I have my mother. It's very different, and it can be awkward.

[londongirl]

To be honest, i dont think there is anything we cant talk about. He finds is awkward to talk about his family because of recent events and wants nothing to do with them. Though, some things we had to talk about involved talking, in details, about the past with them etc - but its not like we cant, he just rather we didnt unless we have to :P

We have this too- I don't know if I'll ever know...there's a big something he doesn't think he can tell me, quite possibly to do with family and said he loves me too much to let me 'see that horrible side of his life' because he's given in on it himself, I don't know how I feel about this. But I respect him too much to push, if it comes to it it comes to it and I'll be supportive either way, it makes me sad sometimes as he is SO insistent I spill everything (when sometimes it's hard, like explaining my depression or what comes with it- no I can't always answer "whats wrong, why are you sad?") ...but maybe we'll get there.

[Sora1101]

I haven't come across anything that I can't talk to my SO about and I haven't noticed him trying to avoid any topics with me either. I guess we feel pretty comfortable with each other.

[dglynn77]

Nope

[Puppy's.Kitty]

I dont think so we try to be open with each other as much as possible, and I have a bad habit of just saying what comes to mind without thinking until I have already said it...>,<

[Haley53]

Despite his encouragements, I get a little bit anxious sharing my "new age" spirituality with him, but I am with anyone who's not into it, openly open to it, or engaged in an alternative lifestyle themselves. He likes hearing about it and will even take part in it, but because I have experienced negative reactions in the past by being open to expressing it or excited about it, I've learned to keep quiet about it. Other than that, not really (though sometimes, my internal dialogue is better left to a diary or as my internal dialogue), and we're working towards breaking down that barrier as well.

[marbear31]

Despite his encouragements, I get a little bit anxious sharing my "new age" spirituality with him, but I am with anyone who's not into it, openly open to it, or engaged in an alternative lifestyle themselves. He likes hearing about it and will even take part in it, but because I have experienced negative reactions in the past by being open to expressing it or excited about it, I've learned to keep quiet about it. Other than that, not really (though sometimes, my internal dialogue is better left to a diary or as my internal dialogue), and we're working towards breaking down that barrier as well.

You should read Yeats, Eclaire. He has some amazing essays along those lines [mainly going back to the ancient patterns of Nature].

I can talk to Stephen about anything, but sometimes (mostly because I'm embarrassed as to how to express myself) I hold things in, and always wonder why, afterwards, I waited so long to tell him things. :P He's one of the most nonjudgmental people I know, and if we ever have a disagreement, we always solve it humorously. We're a pair of goofballs. :P

Sometimes, though, I'm hesitant to talk about my Catholic faith with him, because he's pretty staunchly athiest. It's not that he judges me (if anything, he encourages me to think more deeply about it, so I know precisely why I believe something), but he's not a big fan of organized religion or God in general. I respect his beliefs, but, at the same time, I feel like we're on different wavelengths sometimes when it comes to eschatology. Don't get me wrong, it makes for THE most fascinating discussions, but I have to learn to be more assertive about my beliefs. He's fully supportive of my religious beliefs, but I've become quite lackadaisical in my faith life, so I'm not really sure where I stand right now.

Otherwise? He's my best friend--I can talk to him about anything.

[Shepard-Fowkes]

I've only had times where it's been "I'm not comfortable talking about this right now." Usually if I'm too emotionally raw to talk about something or if talking about it would stress me out, or if I haven't had enough time to think about what I want to say yet. Everything eventually gets talked about with us, though.

[lademoiselle]

I can't say I'm thrilled when his ex comes up in conversation. That's about it though.

[kteire]

#2. Haha. I have coeliacs and ulcerative colitis and sometimes I just want to talk about poop things. I don't think that he'd be uncomfortable talking about it but I feel weird bringing any of that stuff up!!

[Tooki]

I can't say I'm thrilled when his ex comes up in conversation. That's about it though.

On the flipside, she is an ex for a reason