Hey, I'm a bit new here uvu I've been with Tobi for about a month and a half now, though we've been good friends for quite a bit longer. Our relationship is anything but typical. At 16 and with him at 19, things have been interesting considering he's never had a healthy relationship and I've never had one at all, especially since I live in Ontario and he in Michigan. He has a past with depression and anxiety as well as being pre-T transgender. We make it work, though and generally, we're happy. He's my best friend above all and since I met him I've really grown as a person. He's wonderfully patient, kind, creative, romantic, silly and intelligent. We work well together.
Lately though, things have been a bit weird, for lack of a better word. Since about the beginning of October I've just felt a bit alienated from him, as if we weren't quite as close as before or that talking to him was a bit of an annoyance. Everything just feels off. I've distanced myself as well, although not purposely. Last night we talked it over and decided to just step back and give each other some space to sort through this. For me, it would be to figure out all these intense and new things, being my first relationship, including the woes and joys of an LDR. Today was good to me, but as I found out earlier, things haven't been so good to him. Where as I've been enjoying some space to think, it looks like he's afraid of abandonment which is perfectly normal and understandable coming from him and what he's been through. Hearing about this and the nightmares he's had, though, is making me worry and think.
The core of the matter is, what's going on here? Is this normal? I'm not really sure what to do next and I'm just plain conflicted.
Lately though, things have been a bit weird, for lack of a better word. Since about the beginning of October I've just felt a bit alienated from him, as if we weren't quite as close as before or that talking to him was a bit of an annoyance. Everything just feels off. I've distanced myself as well, although not purposely. Last night we talked it over and decided to just step back and give each other some space to sort through this. For me, it would be to figure out all these intense and new things, being my first relationship, including the woes and joys of an LDR. Today was good to me, but as I found out earlier, things haven't been so good to him. Where as I've been enjoying some space to think, it looks like he's afraid of abandonment which is perfectly normal and understandable coming from him and what he's been through. Hearing about this and the nightmares he's had, though, is making me worry and think.
The core of the matter is, what's going on here? Is this normal? I'm not really sure what to do next and I'm just plain conflicted.
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