Im overthinking type of person I do think of everything a lot even the smallest things, which I really hate that I overthink anything.
My SO and I have been together for 2 years and we still haven't seen each other yet, we do love each other,too. Hes from the US and he currently works in another country which is near to my country. On December last year He had a chance to come visit me, and then he told me about it after that he wasnt happy of my respond because I wasnt sure if i can see him when he comes (some of personal circumstances), after few days or weeks we talked about why did I respond that way and I explained it to him but in anyway he lost that chance to come visit me becuz in my country he needs a visa to go in, all that happen between Dec and Jan.
He sometimes talk about our relationship about what we will do if we meet and also about sexual plans we even talked about marriage, he was very optimistic about seeing me and meeting my family, I do want to see him but I wasnt sure how. After months of that subject I kept thinking of what I want to do and what I want to be, so I became sure about seeing him and What I want to be with him, my feelings has developed and now I love him more than before, I even typed a letter about how I feel and what I want to be with him I was planning to send it but still didnt.
Couple months ago I wanted to open that subject about our relationship and what I wanna be with him but he didnt really talked about it that much, I wanted to talk about it for some hours becuz I kept delaying that subject for so long, he didnt wanna talk a lot about it becuz he has some work problems and it really stresses him out I understand his situation but This subject is really important to me. Few hours ago we were on skype and I told him im thinking to go to the US to study there he said: "that would be nice I will have the chance to see u in there and I dont think I can see you in your country it is almost impossible", I asked why impossible? He said: "there might not be chances if I can see u there even if I come(also the visas thing) he also said lets be realistic its all dreaming", after that conversation he got a message then he had to go to sleep, after we hung up I was thinking why did he change like that he was very optimistic about visiting me before, what if I cant go to the US then how we will meet , even if we see each other in the US he should meet my family too and they are in my country. After all this I got really disappointed, I almost cried I couldnt stop thinking about it, I was thinking is it becuz of his work problems that made him react like this, recently hes changed becuz of it he became angry person and geting upset and his behavior changed.
So what do you think guys? Any advice?
Im sorry if it is too long I just wanted it to be all clear
Thanks
My SO and I have been together for 2 years and we still haven't seen each other yet, we do love each other,too. Hes from the US and he currently works in another country which is near to my country. On December last year He had a chance to come visit me, and then he told me about it after that he wasnt happy of my respond because I wasnt sure if i can see him when he comes (some of personal circumstances), after few days or weeks we talked about why did I respond that way and I explained it to him but in anyway he lost that chance to come visit me becuz in my country he needs a visa to go in, all that happen between Dec and Jan.
He sometimes talk about our relationship about what we will do if we meet and also about sexual plans we even talked about marriage, he was very optimistic about seeing me and meeting my family, I do want to see him but I wasnt sure how. After months of that subject I kept thinking of what I want to do and what I want to be, so I became sure about seeing him and What I want to be with him, my feelings has developed and now I love him more than before, I even typed a letter about how I feel and what I want to be with him I was planning to send it but still didnt.
Couple months ago I wanted to open that subject about our relationship and what I wanna be with him but he didnt really talked about it that much, I wanted to talk about it for some hours becuz I kept delaying that subject for so long, he didnt wanna talk a lot about it becuz he has some work problems and it really stresses him out I understand his situation but This subject is really important to me. Few hours ago we were on skype and I told him im thinking to go to the US to study there he said: "that would be nice I will have the chance to see u in there and I dont think I can see you in your country it is almost impossible", I asked why impossible? He said: "there might not be chances if I can see u there even if I come(also the visas thing) he also said lets be realistic its all dreaming", after that conversation he got a message then he had to go to sleep, after we hung up I was thinking why did he change like that he was very optimistic about visiting me before, what if I cant go to the US then how we will meet , even if we see each other in the US he should meet my family too and they are in my country. After all this I got really disappointed, I almost cried I couldnt stop thinking about it, I was thinking is it becuz of his work problems that made him react like this, recently hes changed becuz of it he became angry person and geting upset and his behavior changed.
So what do you think guys? Any advice?
Im sorry if it is too long I just wanted it to be all clear
Thanks
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