What kind of SO do you aspire to be?

[Zephii]

I was reading an article on Essential Baby called "What kind of mum do you aspire to be?" (Here's a link to that if you're into boring parental crap like I am, or if you need further inspiration to contribute to this thread.)and I'm actually having the self control to not make a baby related thread out of it down in the Random section. It's my good deed of the day.

But! I thought it would be fun to have an offshoot. So tell us, what kind of Girlfriend/Boyfriend/Wife/Husband do you aspire to be?

I'm going to be the type of wife who still comes up with little surprises "just because" to make him smile.

I'm going to be the cool wife who can hang out with his mates like one of the boys, go to strip clubs and put a dollar in some girl's knickers and not get jealous when we pick a lap dance girl who's better looking than me.

I'm going to be the cool wife who still plays video games. And still asks about the games he plays that I don't. Even when that means watching trailers.

I'm going to be the type of wife who doesn't nag and who doesn't nitpick the small things.

I'm going to be the type of wife who doesn't play stupid games. If I have a problem, I will say it, calmly - and not in front of his mates or family unless it's unavoidable.

I'm going to be the type of wife who doesn't need to post embarrassing shit on his facebook, nor get upset that he doesn't post on mine.

I'm going to be the type of wife who is part secretary and part handy man.

I'm going to be the type of wife who doesn't expect him to clean up his own vomit (or anything else gross) when he's sick and doesn't get to the bathroom in time. Unless he's just drunk. Then I'll be the type of wife to mock him

I'm going to be the cool, patient wife, that doesn't expect it done now - rather sometime in the next 20 minutes.

I'm going to be the type of wife that drops everything to hug him when he comes home from work, gets him a drink and on special occasions maybe takes his shoes off for him too.

I'm going to be the type of wife that will still greet him at the door in lingerie twenty years after marriage.

And I'll be the type of wife who goes to the gym, so I feel confidant doing that!

I'm going to be the type of wife that writes a note on his rice crispy square for lunch as well as for the kids!

I'm going to be the type of wife that lets him take credit for the awesome Christmas and Birthday cards his family get each year that he actually knew nothing about.

I aspire to be the cool yet devoted wife! What kind of SO do you aspire to be?

[lucybelle]

Ditto to the facebook thing! Gosh that is so stupid... anyways...

I'll be the wife that encourages him to go out, get drunk, look at boobies and play pool with his gross friends.

I'll be the wife that goes with him to the bar.

I'll be the wife that goes to watch the fights.

I'll be the wife that always smiles.

I'll be the wife that tells him what I'm feeling instead of saying "I'm fine" and letting him read my mind.

I'll be the wife that doesn't spend money on useless shit.

I'll be the wife that encourages him to go exercise and to eat healthy.

I'll be the wife that forces him to go on cool vacations because I know he'll love it.

I'll be the wife that makes sure he doesn't work too much, because that's totally lame.

I'll be the wife that rubs his feet, even when they're yucky.

I'll be the wife that loves him every day of his life.

[kteire]

Love this thread I guess I'll use wife, since it didn't feel right using girlfriend for things further down the road!

I want to be a wife that will make him the foods he loves, and get him to try things he never thought to.

I want to be a wife that will be on top of everything Formula 1 so that I can discuss and debate it with him and his friends.

I want to be a wife that will not complain about him watching rugby and football, but will bring him a cold beer and find something else to do.

I want to be a wife that will play video games with him, and be able to beat him from time to time, just to keep him on his toes!

I want to be a wife that will programme new games, and get him to test them out

I want to be a wife that will not bottle up bad feelings, but will communicate with him as best I can.

I want to be a wife that will make him mashed bananas with sugar whenever he's sick, whether it's from the flu or the morning after!

I want to be a wife that will keep our home tidy and clean, and even though I know it'll mostly be him doing that, I'll put in a good effort!!

I want to be a wife that will surprise him with yummy things when he's had a hard day at work, or when he's feeling down, or when he's completely ok but I'm overcome with how happy he makes me!

I want to be a wife that is always loving and supportive, and who keeps him as happy as he could be

[lyonsgirl]

Ditto to a lot of the ones already posted!

I'll be the kind of wife that asks about his day, and actually listens to his answer.

I'll be the kind of wife that brings him dinner if he's stuck at work late and isn't able to get home soon.

I'll be the kind of wife that surprises him with a new video game just because - and then sits down to play it with him.

I'll be the kind of wife that convinces him to come with me to marching band competitions and football games.

I'll be the kind of wife that goes to the Christmas Show that he was involved with in college, even 30 years from now.

I'll be the kind of wife that encourages him to follow his dream.

I'll be the kind of wife that tells him on a regular basis how proud I am of him.

[Verojoon]

I'm going to use "girlfriend" because if it weren't for the fact that it might be needed to close the distance, I would be just as happy being his girlfriend as his wife...

I want to be the kind of girlfriend he can go to when he needs a safe or peaceful place.
I want to be the kind of girlfriend he can share anything with and who will understand him.
I want to be the kind of girlfriend who will support his dreams and help him achieve them.
I want to be the kind of girlfriend who makes him aspire to be a better person.
I want to be the kind of girlfriend who will tell him what she wants instead of leaving him guessing or figuring it out on his own.
I want to be the kind of girlfriend who will tease him mercilessly.
I want to be the kind of girlfriend who will cook him his favorite meals.
I want to be the kind of girlfriend who will do nice things for him "just because".
I want to be the kind of girlfriend who will never be "too tired" or "have a headache" when it's time to get intimate.
Actually, I want to be the kind of girlfriend who initiates it as much as he does.
I want to be the kind of girlfriend who will wake him up doing naughty things...
I want to be the kind of girlfriend who will continue to make an effort to be sexy and attractive to him.
I want to be the kind of girlfriend he can be proud of.
I want to be the kind of girlfriend he can bring home to his family.
I want to be the kind of girlfriend he can have fun with.
I want to be the kind of girlfriend who satisfies or even wakes up his sense of adventure...

I really could go on all day....

[kiara_silver]

aww this is a fun thread, I hope to one day be a good wife and be a patient partner, i'll use wife too for what I hope to see in the future.

I want to be the wife that always takes time to rub his legs and massage his back when he's sore.
I want to be the wife that can get scared but then goes and squeezes his head and can laugh about it, I dont want to take everything so seriously
I want to be the wife that he can vent to who will sit and listen and not judge
I want to be the wife that after kids he's still a priority
I want to be the wife that can still surprise him, and do things to try to turn him on and keep up the spice in the relationship
I want to be the wife that takes interests in his, and get involved in something because he is
I want to be the wife that supports him and tells him to go for his dreams
I want to be the wife who is confident in herself, so when he comes home I know im all he wants
I want to be the wife who 10-20 years later can still wrestle around with each other and have silly moments
I want to be the wife that when he's stuck in a problem or needs help i drop what im doing to be there for him
I could keep going but i'll stop here lol

[Sora1101]

Can I just say ditto to everything Zephii said? She pretty much typed my entire list out :P

[ThePiedPiper]

I'm going to approach this with a different spin.

I'm still learning what type of life partner I will aspire to be, but mostly, I want to aspire to be the type of girl who recognises that she, too, is important in her relationship. I want to be the type of girlfriend that can not only communicate her needs, but assert them. I want to be the type of girl who rarely sacrifices her own happiness for my partner's, except in cases where that becomes necessary. I want to be the type of girlfriend who recognises that she and her interests are important. I want to be the type of girlfriend who's confident and independent, and who can bring that side to her relational side and marry them happily. I want to be the girlfriend who's aware that there are two people in the relationship, and she's one of them.

While I suppose these might seem selfish, I am fairly happy with where I'm at as far as how I handle conflict most of the time, with how I communicate in my relationships, and with my capacity to deal with unpleasant emotions such as irrational feelings of rejection or jealousy. I think where I need to start learning how to be a better girlfriend is by recognising that I'm worth something too. A relationship is about me too. I spend so much time doting on the other person and trying to make up for their shortcomings that I end up losing a large part of myself and who I was when I entered the relationship. I realise that by doing this, I allow resentment to foster in myself, even if I don't let it seep through the cracks, and I end up fostering and coddling unacceptable and inappropriate behaviour in my partner. By learning to become more confident and independent, and by achieving the knowledge that I am a worthy, deserving part of my relationships, I feel that I will ultimately create more fulfilling relationships for both myself and my partner, and I will eliminate some risk of co-dependency.

Other than that, I am still learning what type of girlfriend and wife I want to be. I'm only 21. I have time to figure it out.

[ST25]

Err, I aspire...to just stay as I am, through and through - just as a wife this time. XD

[Zephii]

I want to be the kind of wife Lucybelle is going to be, except for the feet thing. He can wash his feet first

And this:

I want to be the wife that after kids he's still a priority

Thanks kiara_silver

And this too:

I want to aspire to be the type of girl who recognises that she, too, is important in her relationship.

Thanks Piper

[blankita719]

I want to be like all of these things

I want to be a wife who still feels as much love in 40 years as I do right now.

I want to be a wife who nags him just a little, but only to encourage him to take better care of himself

I want to be a wife who always remembers that we approach things differently, and I can't always get upset that he has another way of doing them.

I want to be a wife who finally learns how to use a coffee pot so I can surprise him with a cup in bed every so often.

[Carenza LaRue]

I want to be a kind of wife who makes him happy.....

cause when he is happy..... I am happy.... our children are happy...

and when we are happy..... we have it all..... rain or shine

good thread!

[eveningsky]

While I suppose these might seem selfish, I am fairly happy with where I'm at as far as how I handle conflict most of the time, with how I communicate in my relationships, and with my capacity to deal with unpleasant emotions such as irrational feelings of rejection or jealousy. I think where I need to start learning how to be a better girlfriend is by recognising that I'm worth something too. A relationship is about me too.

They are not selfish at all. No one can have a happy relationship if they don't take care of themselves first. I'm glad that you are recognizing this.

I definitely want to try and be as self-reliant as I can, seeing as I'm moving to his country.
I want to show him all my favorite TV shows and watch all his.
I want us to watch movies together.
I want us to play video games together.
I want us to go out together.
I want us to travel the world together.
I basically want to be a fun SO.
I also want to his shoulder to lean on (he can talk to me about anything, and always have me to cuddle)
I also want to (depressing real world spin here) be on top of financial issues so we don't argue about them.

[Mura]

She keeps calling me "Mr.Perfect" (when I'm clearly not! lol) and says that I have everything she's ever desired in a guy...but I'm more like huh??? How is that possible?! (dont get me wrong I like that she feels this way about me...but I'm worried, can I truly live up to her expectations, wants/needs?) I feel like I'm under a lot of pressure...

but yea I want to be the man she can always depend on, trust, and go to for almost everything and anything.

I want to make her happy as much as I possibly can, because when shes happy, I'm happy(I'm not saying to the point of being spineless and doormat who does her every command) but you get my drift :P

I want to share so many things with her, my life, really introduce her to my world

I want to share things she like/loves and enjoy them together

I want us to discover new things together, whatever they may be

I just want this affection for each other to go on...

[lademoiselle]

This is such a beautiful thread

A lot of my aspirations have already been mentioned, so I'll add just a handful more:

I want to be the wife who loves her husband unconditonally - in the truest sense of the word.

I want to be the wife who never forgets that she and her husband are on the same side, and work as a team.

I want to be the wife to whom the home and the family are always a priority, even if she's pursuing a career out in the world.

I want to be the wife who doesn't allow petty disagreements to drive a wedge, over time, between her husband and herself.

I want to be the wife who can turn a house into a home!