I have 31yr.-old 'online' female friend in Canada(I am a 45yr.-old American male), that I have known for ten years. Presently, I have been in an LDR with another woman for five years, and my 'online' friend has been dating her boyfriend for close to two years. In those ten years, not including our present relationships, we have emotionally supported each other through six different relationships. She is presently in the midst of a divorce from her husband of six years(separated in 2009).
Her boyfriend(of one year) is very insecure about my 'online' friend talking with other men. His feelings are somewhat justified, in that, while he does have trust issues originating from an abusive childhood, that were compounded by his wife abandoning him n' their kids, because she couldn't cope with the demands of their disabled son's healthcare.
For a period of seven months starting in Oct.' 2011, I didn't speak to her for seven months because of needing to take an emotional break from Yahoo Messenger. I was getting inundated with IM's, to the point I couldn't take it anymore, took it off my computer and didn't think about it for seven months. When I was given a new computer for my birthday in May 2012, I decided to re-install Yahoo Messenger on the new computer.
When my 'online' friend saw me online, she went ballistic, wondering where I had been for so long, because I didn't tell her about the Yahoo problems I was having.
In July of this year, she nearly died. It greatly affected me to the point I had an emotional breakdown at a medical conference, for a health condition we both now(I was born with it) have.
Since July, she has told me three times, that we need to cut off contact in order not to jeopardize her relationship with her boyfriend. All three times, she has done it, the silence lasted four days at most. When she would contact me again, she accused me of ignoring her and not caring about her.(I called the first hospital she was taken too. Even though it was considered an international call, to find out how she was mending
Lately, She has been stressed with her divorce and, work. At times when we have communicated by Yahoo IM, she would figuratively bite my head off for the slightest thing. So much so, that other night I was afraid to say anything to her. Then she would ask me if I was still there and I would tell her that I was. She also accused me of thinking she was weak.
At times, she will call me dumb(not exactly that word) or stupid. Even telling me to F-off, or telling me f-u. I put up with it because, no one is perfect, not me, not her.
Her flip-flop behavior, along with her now sending me the YouTube link to the Faith Hill video 'It Matters To Me' which has lots of romantic undertones, I am even more confused. She said the video was just an apology. But with the romantic undertones of the video, coupled with her prior flip-flop behavior, has left me more confused than ever. If she has feelings for me, this is a very left-handed way to tell me. At one point about two months ago, she mentioned a citizenship status in Canada called PRS(Primary Residency Status) that is prior to becoming a full-fledged Canadian citizen. Why did she even bother mentioning that residency status, when she mentally has flip-flopped several times. Even if she does, I can't move to Canada even if I were to be able to get PRS, for health and financial reasons.
Her boyfriend(of one year) is very insecure about my 'online' friend talking with other men. His feelings are somewhat justified, in that, while he does have trust issues originating from an abusive childhood, that were compounded by his wife abandoning him n' their kids, because she couldn't cope with the demands of their disabled son's healthcare.
For a period of seven months starting in Oct.' 2011, I didn't speak to her for seven months because of needing to take an emotional break from Yahoo Messenger. I was getting inundated with IM's, to the point I couldn't take it anymore, took it off my computer and didn't think about it for seven months. When I was given a new computer for my birthday in May 2012, I decided to re-install Yahoo Messenger on the new computer.
When my 'online' friend saw me online, she went ballistic, wondering where I had been for so long, because I didn't tell her about the Yahoo problems I was having.
In July of this year, she nearly died. It greatly affected me to the point I had an emotional breakdown at a medical conference, for a health condition we both now(I was born with it) have.
Since July, she has told me three times, that we need to cut off contact in order not to jeopardize her relationship with her boyfriend. All three times, she has done it, the silence lasted four days at most. When she would contact me again, she accused me of ignoring her and not caring about her.(I called the first hospital she was taken too. Even though it was considered an international call, to find out how she was mending
Lately, She has been stressed with her divorce and, work. At times when we have communicated by Yahoo IM, she would figuratively bite my head off for the slightest thing. So much so, that other night I was afraid to say anything to her. Then she would ask me if I was still there and I would tell her that I was. She also accused me of thinking she was weak.
At times, she will call me dumb(not exactly that word) or stupid. Even telling me to F-off, or telling me f-u. I put up with it because, no one is perfect, not me, not her.
Her flip-flop behavior, along with her now sending me the YouTube link to the Faith Hill video 'It Matters To Me' which has lots of romantic undertones, I am even more confused. She said the video was just an apology. But with the romantic undertones of the video, coupled with her prior flip-flop behavior, has left me more confused than ever. If she has feelings for me, this is a very left-handed way to tell me. At one point about two months ago, she mentioned a citizenship status in Canada called PRS(Primary Residency Status) that is prior to becoming a full-fledged Canadian citizen. Why did she even bother mentioning that residency status, when she mentally has flip-flopped several times. Even if she does, I can't move to Canada even if I were to be able to get PRS, for health and financial reasons.
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