For the first few months, things were going great. We had lots of conversations, lots of interesting, fun time together and for the first time in a long time, I felt very secure in a relationship. She seemed to be perfect for me, and I was so happy to have finally found someone who I considered might be "the one" for me.
Fast forward to now. She's blowing hot and cold. Some weeks, she can't seem to get enough of me. But at other times, like now, I feel like I'm having to practically beg her to even respond to emails, let alone spend time sitting at the computer with me. She always seems to have other people to spend time with, other things to do, or that old standby that I'm sure we've all heard from time to time, "I'm tired."
I feel abandoned. I feel like she's losing interest in me, and yet she's unable to actually tell me this, preferring to stick to other reasons.
I'm tired, too. I work through it, because I want to be with her. But when she's got other things to do, or she's tired, she's off like a flash, as if she can't get away from me quickly enough. Spending time sitting at the computer talking to me is a chore for her, it seems. I don't have any contact with her when she doesn't want me to. Her phone number doesn't work, so if she's offline on Skype and chooses not to bother replying to emails, that's it, she may as well be on the planet Mars.
I want things to work with her, but I feel far too attached to someone who appears to be becoming quite avoidant of me. I wait around for her, every single night, on the off-chance that she might come online after work and talk to me. Sometimes she does, sometimes she doesn't. Sometimes she's great at communicating where she'll be, and whether she'll be available - other times, I'm left to just guess, and worry.
Things should work between us, we're so compatible. I like her a lot, otherwise I wouldn't be sitting here writing this. But I just don't know how much more of this stress I can take, this will-she-won't-she be around, this feeling that she's losing interest in me and can't tell me. I feel stupid for having become so reliant on her for emotional support. I always make myself available to her emotionally and otherwise - but I feel like that is not being reciprocated.
It's affecting me significantly. I feel emotionally exhausted, it's negatively impacting on my productivity at work, because I'm constantly worrying about the relationship. Of most concern is the fact that it seems to be affecting my health - I feel weak, and tired, and generally out-of-sorts, because of the stress of this relationship.
How can I get her to open up and communicate with me about what she wants out of this relationship?
Fast forward to now. She's blowing hot and cold. Some weeks, she can't seem to get enough of me. But at other times, like now, I feel like I'm having to practically beg her to even respond to emails, let alone spend time sitting at the computer with me. She always seems to have other people to spend time with, other things to do, or that old standby that I'm sure we've all heard from time to time, "I'm tired."
I feel abandoned. I feel like she's losing interest in me, and yet she's unable to actually tell me this, preferring to stick to other reasons.
I'm tired, too. I work through it, because I want to be with her. But when she's got other things to do, or she's tired, she's off like a flash, as if she can't get away from me quickly enough. Spending time sitting at the computer talking to me is a chore for her, it seems. I don't have any contact with her when she doesn't want me to. Her phone number doesn't work, so if she's offline on Skype and chooses not to bother replying to emails, that's it, she may as well be on the planet Mars.
I want things to work with her, but I feel far too attached to someone who appears to be becoming quite avoidant of me. I wait around for her, every single night, on the off-chance that she might come online after work and talk to me. Sometimes she does, sometimes she doesn't. Sometimes she's great at communicating where she'll be, and whether she'll be available - other times, I'm left to just guess, and worry.
Things should work between us, we're so compatible. I like her a lot, otherwise I wouldn't be sitting here writing this. But I just don't know how much more of this stress I can take, this will-she-won't-she be around, this feeling that she's losing interest in me and can't tell me. I feel stupid for having become so reliant on her for emotional support. I always make myself available to her emotionally and otherwise - but I feel like that is not being reciprocated.
It's affecting me significantly. I feel emotionally exhausted, it's negatively impacting on my productivity at work, because I'm constantly worrying about the relationship. Of most concern is the fact that it seems to be affecting my health - I feel weak, and tired, and generally out-of-sorts, because of the stress of this relationship.
How can I get her to open up and communicate with me about what she wants out of this relationship?
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