our relationship has been 1month .but during the time, im very sad and try to be tolerant and understand him. so, here the story.
im 21 y.o ,moslem from south east asia. i met my SO when i visited his university in student exchange program. he is 19 y.o and christian.actually, i never wanted to have younger boyfriend bcz i need wise man and leader figure to be a better girl. but he looks mature for me, maybe bcz he is european.
we never had problem about our religion bcz we never talk about it a lot and we tolerate each other so much.
Communication is our BIG problem. First, about language. my english is so bad and so he does. so difficult to share something deep inside from my heart and very difficult to make a joke, or other else. then i try to learn german language. i hope it will help.
Second, internet connection. it really makes me crazy! my internet connection really bad so he cant hear my voice when skyping. so i should go to internet cafe to get the nice one.
Third, he told me that he dislike texting. he said, better do skyping 1000times than texting. it makes me sad .really .his time to skyping is 2times a week. we could skyping depend on his time. and he said, he dislike texting? he knew that the main poin of LDR is communication .so it menas , this is germany habbit? european habbit? dislike texting? he texted me everyday but he texted me if i had asked some questions for him. and he texted me just to say, hola, morning, how r you, hows ur day. he didnt want share what he did if i not ask him first. soo german guy is like this?
in first and second week, he was veryvery sooo sweet, soooo romantic. he often texted me. after that, he different. he said, its bcz he is not in a gud mood bcz his parents not allowed him to visit me, bcz dangerous if travel alone. it makes me sad also and even i still sad now.but it doesnt mean he diminished his text. could u imagine, we cant meet, skype 2times only in a week with bad connection, and a bit texting????
24th is our 1st monthsary. he asked me what time i could skype with him. i said, 10pm or 12am .and he said oke .and i was waiting for him untill 1.30am but he didnt come. i texted him, but he not replied. i knew he was with his big family but he promised me .and he let me waiting for him for hours and he didnt care that i need much sleep as well. if he wanted to cancel it, he should be text me ,so i didnt need to wait him for hours.
so could i say, he did this because of he is still 19 y.o? it turns out he not grow up yet?
do u think, its good or not to have younger boyfriend?
or this is it, germany/european do in having relationship? u guys no need to texting much to ur SO?
well, i dont expect much things from this relationship, only 1% possibilities that this relationship will work bcz of distance, language, religion, culture.
but am i wrong to maintain this relationship?
im 21 y.o ,moslem from south east asia. i met my SO when i visited his university in student exchange program. he is 19 y.o and christian.actually, i never wanted to have younger boyfriend bcz i need wise man and leader figure to be a better girl. but he looks mature for me, maybe bcz he is european.
we never had problem about our religion bcz we never talk about it a lot and we tolerate each other so much.
Communication is our BIG problem. First, about language. my english is so bad and so he does. so difficult to share something deep inside from my heart and very difficult to make a joke, or other else. then i try to learn german language. i hope it will help.
Second, internet connection. it really makes me crazy! my internet connection really bad so he cant hear my voice when skyping. so i should go to internet cafe to get the nice one.
Third, he told me that he dislike texting. he said, better do skyping 1000times than texting. it makes me sad .really .his time to skyping is 2times a week. we could skyping depend on his time. and he said, he dislike texting? he knew that the main poin of LDR is communication .so it menas , this is germany habbit? european habbit? dislike texting? he texted me everyday but he texted me if i had asked some questions for him. and he texted me just to say, hola, morning, how r you, hows ur day. he didnt want share what he did if i not ask him first. soo german guy is like this?
in first and second week, he was veryvery sooo sweet, soooo romantic. he often texted me. after that, he different. he said, its bcz he is not in a gud mood bcz his parents not allowed him to visit me, bcz dangerous if travel alone. it makes me sad also and even i still sad now.but it doesnt mean he diminished his text. could u imagine, we cant meet, skype 2times only in a week with bad connection, and a bit texting????
24th is our 1st monthsary. he asked me what time i could skype with him. i said, 10pm or 12am .and he said oke .and i was waiting for him untill 1.30am but he didnt come. i texted him, but he not replied. i knew he was with his big family but he promised me .and he let me waiting for him for hours and he didnt care that i need much sleep as well. if he wanted to cancel it, he should be text me ,so i didnt need to wait him for hours.
so could i say, he did this because of he is still 19 y.o? it turns out he not grow up yet?
do u think, its good or not to have younger boyfriend?
or this is it, germany/european do in having relationship? u guys no need to texting much to ur SO?
well, i dont expect much things from this relationship, only 1% possibilities that this relationship will work bcz of distance, language, religion, culture.
but am i wrong to maintain this relationship?
so have a talk, let him know your concerns and come to a conclusion. best of luck 
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