Hello guys,
I feel really depressed about my SO he said: our relationship has become formal i guess we are drifting appart.
The story is: Couple days ago I talked to my SO on voice. We talked a little and then I asked him: "why do you think it became formal?", He said: "we dont talk very much as before we talk like every 2-4 days and our conversations are like we dont know what we talk about, Also our relationship is distance". I told him: "I was trying to give you a space because you didnt seem you wanted to talk before( about 2 weeks ago he mentioned that hes stressed and busy and that he doesnt wanna talk). He asked me long time ago that if I knew someone who was in a distance relationship I dont remember what my asnwer was but in this voice call I told him that there is a community for this kind of relationships and some of them now live together, he didnt say something about it what I told him. Somehow I think he is right about it when our relationship has become formal.
We've been together for 2 years and 5 months and we haven't met yet because of circumstances: At first it was because of me that I wasn't sure to meet him and some personal things. Later he had some chances to come visit me but he couldnt come. Now hes in finincial problems in his work. I mentioned in another thread hes from the US and wroks in a different country. I also have a plan to go to study in the US for a year and to see him too and I told him about it but still dunno.
He has been in a series of problems non-stop, they become harder and bigger everytime. Most of them are about work and the other part is personal. His personality changed, the way he talk to me changed too he becAme dry and we haven't had our sexy time for 3-2 months, even when I talk about sexual things he doesnt seem interested. Recently hes been going under a lot of stress and issues and those one has changed him the most. So I think thats why he is becoming distant and fromal with me.
The thing is the more I think his problems will finish the more problems come up, the more I think he will get better the more it doesnt. I dunno how long do I have to wait for his situation to get better, I dunno what to do, I feel sad when I think about it. It seems helpless. It makes me feel nothing more than this will happen in our relationship, but in the same time I feel we are meant to be. I love him so much and he does too but There is a part of me tells to leave him and another part tells me to stay with him and be by his side he needs me. Its just feels so helpless
So what you think about all of this?
Do you think its because we havent met yet in person?
What would you if you were in the same situation?
I just need another prespective from you guys.
Thank you
I feel really depressed about my SO he said: our relationship has become formal i guess we are drifting appart.
The story is: Couple days ago I talked to my SO on voice. We talked a little and then I asked him: "why do you think it became formal?", He said: "we dont talk very much as before we talk like every 2-4 days and our conversations are like we dont know what we talk about, Also our relationship is distance". I told him: "I was trying to give you a space because you didnt seem you wanted to talk before( about 2 weeks ago he mentioned that hes stressed and busy and that he doesnt wanna talk). He asked me long time ago that if I knew someone who was in a distance relationship I dont remember what my asnwer was but in this voice call I told him that there is a community for this kind of relationships and some of them now live together, he didnt say something about it what I told him. Somehow I think he is right about it when our relationship has become formal.
We've been together for 2 years and 5 months and we haven't met yet because of circumstances: At first it was because of me that I wasn't sure to meet him and some personal things. Later he had some chances to come visit me but he couldnt come. Now hes in finincial problems in his work. I mentioned in another thread hes from the US and wroks in a different country. I also have a plan to go to study in the US for a year and to see him too and I told him about it but still dunno.
He has been in a series of problems non-stop, they become harder and bigger everytime. Most of them are about work and the other part is personal. His personality changed, the way he talk to me changed too he becAme dry and we haven't had our sexy time for 3-2 months, even when I talk about sexual things he doesnt seem interested. Recently hes been going under a lot of stress and issues and those one has changed him the most. So I think thats why he is becoming distant and fromal with me.
The thing is the more I think his problems will finish the more problems come up, the more I think he will get better the more it doesnt. I dunno how long do I have to wait for his situation to get better, I dunno what to do, I feel sad when I think about it. It seems helpless. It makes me feel nothing more than this will happen in our relationship, but in the same time I feel we are meant to be. I love him so much and he does too but There is a part of me tells to leave him and another part tells me to stay with him and be by his side he needs me. Its just feels so helpless
So what you think about all of this?
Do you think its because we havent met yet in person?
What would you if you were in the same situation?
I just need another prespective from you guys.
Thank you
Of course there are always safety issues and things to consider... ah it's so difficult to be in an LDR.
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