My SO is currently employed with a company where he makes decent money but is still living out of a hotel so technically homeless. He left the army last February after 10 years of service. After leaving he went and stayed with his mother for a month to sort of unwind and get the army out of his head before moving back to Georgia where he's lived for most of the past 10 years. He moved in with his sister and was still sort of unwinding from the army stuff and eventually started getting unemployment while he was meant to be looking for a job that fit the trade that he had learned in the army. So, he stays with his sister for about 6 months spending the whole time sort of half-assing the job search thing. Something sudden came up and his sister and her husband who is also in the military, have to move to New York. This pretty much leaves my SO homeless and living in a hotel now. Around this time my SO and I started talking and getting to know each other and we started meeting up to hang out. He starts really looking for a job now and I'm supporting him 100% through this whole thing.
He finds a job after about a month (October). I personally think the pay is amazing and he starts talking about getting an apartment by December and things are looking up.
December comes around and he tells me he's hearing rumors that they're going to start laying people off in February or March. I encourage him to apply directly there so he wont get laid off and to also start looking for other jobs as well just in case he doesn't get hired directly. He says this is what he plans on doing after the new year but he's going to have to hold off on finding an apartment until January because he doesn't want to get stuck in a lease if he's just going to lose his job. I agree that that seems like a good idea.
Things go on as usual over the next month and January comes around. He tells me today that when they had their monthly meeting that they were told that their whole department was going to get cut in April. He tells me he still plans on applying directly within the next week and because of all this now he doesn't want to get an apartment at all unless he gets directly hired or can find another job so this means he's going to be living in a hotel for the next 3-4 months...I'm asking questions about finding a job and the apartment stuff and ask him if he thinks living in a hotel for the next few months is a good idea since its so expensive and finding an apartment will save him a lot of money. This whole time he's getting short with me and snappy with his answers and giving me smartass responses. All I'm doing is trying to figure out what he plans on doing and stuff. And this is how he reacts to me. I guess my questions seemed stupid or should've been obvious but I didn't think they were. And now we aren't even talking really. I know this job is stressing him out and with the hours he's doing it tiring but I've stood by him for 3 months and supported him and done nothing but encourage him and this is how he reacts.
I'm not sure what I should do now. Should I just give him some space and let him be alone for a bit or what. I hate the fact that all of this is going on and that he's going to continue living out of a hotel but there's really nothing I can do. I don't know what else I could do. I need some advice.
He finds a job after about a month (October). I personally think the pay is amazing and he starts talking about getting an apartment by December and things are looking up.
December comes around and he tells me he's hearing rumors that they're going to start laying people off in February or March. I encourage him to apply directly there so he wont get laid off and to also start looking for other jobs as well just in case he doesn't get hired directly. He says this is what he plans on doing after the new year but he's going to have to hold off on finding an apartment until January because he doesn't want to get stuck in a lease if he's just going to lose his job. I agree that that seems like a good idea.
Things go on as usual over the next month and January comes around. He tells me today that when they had their monthly meeting that they were told that their whole department was going to get cut in April. He tells me he still plans on applying directly within the next week and because of all this now he doesn't want to get an apartment at all unless he gets directly hired or can find another job so this means he's going to be living in a hotel for the next 3-4 months...I'm asking questions about finding a job and the apartment stuff and ask him if he thinks living in a hotel for the next few months is a good idea since its so expensive and finding an apartment will save him a lot of money. This whole time he's getting short with me and snappy with his answers and giving me smartass responses. All I'm doing is trying to figure out what he plans on doing and stuff. And this is how he reacts to me. I guess my questions seemed stupid or should've been obvious but I didn't think they were. And now we aren't even talking really. I know this job is stressing him out and with the hours he's doing it tiring but I've stood by him for 3 months and supported him and done nothing but encourage him and this is how he reacts.
I'm not sure what I should do now. Should I just give him some space and let him be alone for a bit or what. I hate the fact that all of this is going on and that he's going to continue living out of a hotel but there's really nothing I can do. I don't know what else I could do. I need some advice.
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