Advice, or Words of Wisdom Please?
A boy and a girl, one-thousand miles apart, who love each other so much. The boy is seventeen (17), and the girl is fourteen (14). Both their parents are unaware of the fact that they are in a relationship together. From reading the prior three statements, you could extract a single major problem from each statement, forming three problematic milestones. Distance, age, and parents, respectively.
Distance
Distance hurts, especially when you're at a young age because then it is most damaging. At an age where self-sufficiency is significantly harder. Where it is difficult to travel far distances. Distance excludes three senses from existence with your SO. When in an LDR you are able to see and hear, with the use of microphone and webcam, but you cannot touch, taste or smell, no matter how weird that may sound though, but touch is a major role in a relationship. To be able to make them feel special and important just by holding your partner's hand or by hugging them. To be able to kiss your partner, to make them know that you love them so much. Distance disables the enjoyment of taking part in outdoor or indoor things together, face to face in person. Whether it's running around in a park or cuddling together, distance is the only fault.
Parents
Parents are a big problem in the relationship. If they don't accept, then it is very hard to keep the relationship necessarily "healthy". Especially when the couple are so young, the parent will view the young couple as too unserious for a long-term relationship. The parent will view the seventeen year old male as the average hyperlibido adolescent due to a preconceived judgement. Making it even worse, the parent will postulate that the SO is a total weirdo, because, come on now, we all know everyone on the Internet is a total weirdo. Having these judgements as a parent is fatal towards the relationship.
Age
The age is honestly one of the most major predicaments in a long-distance relationship. Due to age, being under twenty (20) the couple has a very difficult time closing the distance, even for a visit; due to financial reasons. It is hard for the couple to obtain the money to get to each other, to find cheap accommodation and it is also hard for the couple to find the time; due to school. So to at least attempt to fix the financial problem, they have to take out time. Then to get time they have to cease the paychecks temporarily. As you can see it is a very complex situation. Age is a sidekick of distance. While age difference is a sidekick of parents. You see how the complexity meter just seems to rise exponentially? The age difference of three years in adolescence years is apparently "a lot". That's understandable though for the average adolescent couple. Although only does that couple know the seriousness in the relationship.
This is the situation that we are in. All three, plus the sub problem. Distance, parents, age and age difference. Please help us, thank you so much for those who actually took their time just to read what we wrote or those who attempt to help us. Thank you.
Comment