Update- it's cancer

[Kerry]

hey everyone. just an update. my fiance was told today that he has small cell carcinoma, which is an extremely aggressive form of lung cancer. he's still waiting to be scheduled for ct scans to see if it has metastisized thruout his body. all of his symptoms indicates that it has. he's a very sick man. I am going to see about being written out of work so I can fly down to be with him. I'm seeing my doc next week (earliest appt). he now has to talk to his female roommate (some of you know she hates me for absolutely no reason) and either get her to stay the hell away or pack her crap and get the hell out. it's so funny... he sees her maybe once or twice a month for less than 10 minutes. she spends no nights there and only goes there to pick something up infrequently. yet she finds out from him that I'm coming and she acts all psycho. we don't need her crap anymore. my fiance has very little time on this earth and we don't need her sh*t. we need to concentrate on what is the best thing that he needs. I hope his ex-wife stops being her usual b*tch self and allows him to see his kids. she barely allows it now. knowing her she'd keep them away to hurt him. let's hope that doesn't happen.

I don't know how often I'll stop by here but just know I thank you for your prayers and I hope you're all enjoying your LDR's. if I could give one piece of advice to anyone who's engaged to be married and waiting for that "perfect time" to get married (the right dress, venue, season, etc.). please don't wait. if you love your SO and can get married- do it. I only wish I married mine when we started talking about it (we knew we already wanted to). you just never know how much time you're gonna have together. my fiance and I thought we'd have 40 years.. we might not even have thru next month.

[Black_Halloween]

I'm so sorry to hear that, i'll be sending lots of good vibes!

[Moon]

Kerry, I'm so incredibly sorry. I've been in the position as caregiver before, and I just want to let you know that you will need support yourself in the caregiver role. Please check with the American Cancer Society for resources in his area for yourself, it's very important. Having that support will make you a better comfort for him, and can help keep you sane during a horrible time. If you need to vent, don't be afraid to do it here, and my pm is always open. Take care, sweetie, you're both in my thoughts.

[dragonlady]

i hope that you have some beautiful time together, and i will pray, it never can hurt
dont know what the rules are for marriage over there, but you can still do it
i wish you strenght!

[marbear31]

Oh my gosh, this post absolutely broke my heart! I'm praying for you, and please, if you need to talk at all, my PM box is open. Stay strong, sweetie; you're so beautiful, and your fiance is incredibly lucky to have you, whether it's for a month or forty years.

[floridaellen]

I'm so sorry Please know you have the support of all of us. *hugs*

[loveknowsnodistance27]

I am so sorry to hear this Kerry. We are all here for you. *big hugs*

[kteire]

I'm so sorry Kerry, you're in my thoughts

[Irina_Linn]

Kerry i'm so so sorry that happened.shall be praying for you and i so much hope you will have as much time together as possible in the situation.take care,dont give up,give your man all the support he needs and feel free tp pm if you feel like.hugs all of us here support you!

[MissButterfly]

I'm so sorry to hear this and I admire you for being so strong.. I really hope you get to be with your fiancé soon and I'll keep you both in my prayers! *hugs*

[AABRCL05]

So sorry to hear that...will be thinking and praying for you guys.

[Xanahtas]

I'm so so sorry to hear this I cant even imagine how your feeling right now... Your both in my thoughts. *hugs*

[digitalfever]

I'm so sorry to hear this! Stay strong and hopefully you can go be with him

[Tanja]

He is very lucky to have you supporting and caring for him. I'm really sorry for you both. Do what Moon suggested and seek support for YOU as well.

I hope the time you have left will be something very special <3 <3 <3

[ST25]

I really am sorry about what's happening. Just focus on spending as much time with him as you can. Each moment is precious.