He and I met in March 2009. My sister was killed and I moved across the country to care for my mother and re-join my family.
He was my neighbor, became my friend, then my lover. Not that quick either. But I did fall in love with him deeply. He displayed the same affections and we had amazing chemistry.
He told me to close my eyes and fall, he made me feel so safe. he told me that HE was the rock and that I no longer needed to keep up my wall. So I tore it down, and fell.
For the first time in years i honestly trusted and REALLY loved.
In late April his job moved him 500 miles away. he told me nothing would change. Nothing. He said he loved me and that we would have to sacrifice, but all would be fine.
He went to visit family in June and returned to only have alot of grief from his job and the coworkers. His pressure mounted. Everytime i would try to chime in and offer help he would only get frustrated and annoyed, which I tried to understand. he's always been receptive to my help or suggestions before, but I could tell that i was only ADDING to what he was already experiencing. So I backed off. i only listen rather than comment.
Then he began to call less and less.Which is Something he told me that his ex did to him when they became LDR. It was her way of getting easy, hoping that he would either get the hint or break up.
I am to visit this weekend, yet havent heard from him in two days, sooo...im feeling something coming down the pike for me. I sense loss. And if anyone would know that feeling it should be me, my little sister was just killed, and Im feeling it again.
I am feeling as if he's waiting for the weekend to roll around so he could drop the ax on me, and therefore, in order to keep my sanity, I think maybe being in my position of high sensitivity, maybe it's best for me to break it off before he shreds me up by doing it first, even though it's not what I want to do, but it feels like he may be thinking this way. His distance has been quite radical. He even didnt return the "I love you" during a conversation last week saying 'if you say it too much, it takes the meaning out of it'. I was kinda stunned by that, but it made me aware.
i seriously need input, I hope that I havent rambled and scattered around, if I have, ask me anything you want if I havent been clear...And thank you!
He was my neighbor, became my friend, then my lover. Not that quick either. But I did fall in love with him deeply. He displayed the same affections and we had amazing chemistry.
He told me to close my eyes and fall, he made me feel so safe. he told me that HE was the rock and that I no longer needed to keep up my wall. So I tore it down, and fell.
For the first time in years i honestly trusted and REALLY loved.
In late April his job moved him 500 miles away. he told me nothing would change. Nothing. He said he loved me and that we would have to sacrifice, but all would be fine.
He went to visit family in June and returned to only have alot of grief from his job and the coworkers. His pressure mounted. Everytime i would try to chime in and offer help he would only get frustrated and annoyed, which I tried to understand. he's always been receptive to my help or suggestions before, but I could tell that i was only ADDING to what he was already experiencing. So I backed off. i only listen rather than comment.
Then he began to call less and less.Which is Something he told me that his ex did to him when they became LDR. It was her way of getting easy, hoping that he would either get the hint or break up.
I am to visit this weekend, yet havent heard from him in two days, sooo...im feeling something coming down the pike for me. I sense loss. And if anyone would know that feeling it should be me, my little sister was just killed, and Im feeling it again.
I am feeling as if he's waiting for the weekend to roll around so he could drop the ax on me, and therefore, in order to keep my sanity, I think maybe being in my position of high sensitivity, maybe it's best for me to break it off before he shreds me up by doing it first, even though it's not what I want to do, but it feels like he may be thinking this way. His distance has been quite radical. He even didnt return the "I love you" during a conversation last week saying 'if you say it too much, it takes the meaning out of it'. I was kinda stunned by that, but it made me aware.
i seriously need input, I hope that I havent rambled and scattered around, if I have, ask me anything you want if I havent been clear...And thank you!
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