I've been with my GF for 7 months now. WE'RE BOTH 22.
The past 4 months i noticed that I'm always the one initiating contact and physical affection. It may not seem like a big deal, but if I'm the one traveling 400 miles to see her, so she should be all over me right? In bed, we started talking about our relationship, and I asked how what she thinks about our relationship. She said, "its okayyyy." just like that. As if she doesn't want to talk about the relationship, or even tell her parents that she's with me. Of course, she tends to take a very very long time to respond to my texts/calls. The reason I titled this thread "one sided?" is because I'm still unsure what's going on with my relationship. In fact, for valentines day, she asked what I wanted, and I told her i'd like a love letter. and she replied "ahh.. but i suck at writing letters." like she won't even try to write one even though it would mean a lot to me (ive written her two letters)
Breakdown:
SHE:
Hasn't told her parents about us
Is unable to visit me, because she claims she can't miss a day of work (family owned), and her family wouldn't take her to the bus station.
Usually takes FOREVER my calls/texts
Hardly initiates physical affection
Always asks the same routine questions: how are you? what are u doing? what did u eat?
I wish that somehow I can get her to invest more. I've already talked to her about her lack of communcation in persion and on the phone, she just says "sorrrrrry sorrry sorrrry."
When we see each other, she does smile, laugh, and talk a lot. but because i'm new to relationships in general, i don't know if this is going right direction or not.. I've already asked her about the relationship, and she just kinda drifts away from the topic.
I try, i try, i ask, i think, i think, and i'm still confused on the health of my relationship. anyone see where I'm coming from?
(and yes, we have sex.. not very good though)
The past 4 months i noticed that I'm always the one initiating contact and physical affection. It may not seem like a big deal, but if I'm the one traveling 400 miles to see her, so she should be all over me right? In bed, we started talking about our relationship, and I asked how what she thinks about our relationship. She said, "its okayyyy." just like that. As if she doesn't want to talk about the relationship, or even tell her parents that she's with me. Of course, she tends to take a very very long time to respond to my texts/calls. The reason I titled this thread "one sided?" is because I'm still unsure what's going on with my relationship. In fact, for valentines day, she asked what I wanted, and I told her i'd like a love letter. and she replied "ahh.. but i suck at writing letters." like she won't even try to write one even though it would mean a lot to me (ive written her two letters)
Breakdown:
SHE:
Hasn't told her parents about us
Is unable to visit me, because she claims she can't miss a day of work (family owned), and her family wouldn't take her to the bus station.
Usually takes FOREVER my calls/texts
Hardly initiates physical affection
Always asks the same routine questions: how are you? what are u doing? what did u eat?
I wish that somehow I can get her to invest more. I've already talked to her about her lack of communcation in persion and on the phone, she just says "sorrrrrry sorrry sorrrry."
When we see each other, she does smile, laugh, and talk a lot. but because i'm new to relationships in general, i don't know if this is going right direction or not.. I've already asked her about the relationship, and she just kinda drifts away from the topic.
I try, i try, i ask, i think, i think, and i'm still confused on the health of my relationship. anyone see where I'm coming from?
(and yes, we have sex.. not very good though)
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