Many of you have heard me being rather anxious or ranty about his three female best friends.
Well, I finally got to meet them all and I thought I would talk a bit about them--I would be interested in your opinions on the meetings.
L was the first. She is the one he says he feels like a big brother toward. I met her as the same time as his music professor, who was very nice but gave me a grilling about most everything (including my work situation, which made me feel kind of depressed...but at least she seemed to grill everyone). I think that lunch went well, overall. I found L to be either a little stand-offish or shy, but that is understandable for a first meeting. I appreciated that she had done cute things like reminding him to bring me lots of water (since it was so hot) and making sure that he got me flowers from a nice place. She even suggested that he compose a song that I dance to for his final composition recital in the fall--that would be entirely romantic, but his reaction was kind of hard to read...so I am not sure if that will actually happen. Body-language-wise, I was a bit surprised to find that she was really competing for his eye contact and making lots of goo goo eyes at him; that annoyed me a bit, but I didn't actually feel too insecure about it, because of how he says he feels towards her (that said she looks a little like Alexis Bledel, who is his celebrity crush. XP). The only part that really bothered me (and this is where some of you might step in) is that when we were leaving outside, she faced entirely towards him and was going on and on about how they had to play tennis together and implying that they should do it while I was there (good gracious, I was only visiting for ten days! The sport of tennis won't expire before then). After a good while, she kind of looked sideways at me and said "I guess you two could play me."
Thanks? I remembered, though, that she had asked us to play doubles with her and her bf (whom she had broken up with just before I got there) and I had thought otherwise for a first meeting, since I am nowhere near as competitive as they are.
B is his best friend. We met up with her and her long-time bf at a fancy restaurant. All four of us turned out to really hit it off and it was awesome! The only chemistry I detected between them was that of great friends, so that made me feel good. I could see us going on lots of couples dates if I lived there. Oh and...best thing ever...B's bf asked if I had met G yet and went on about how annoying and loud she is and B even gave her a bit of a razz! It was fantastic!
G....*shudders* (She was the one I was dreading meeting). So, here's the thing...HE made the plan to meet up with her on our last night together. Bad idea, yeah? The restaurant turned out to be really nice and they played live jazz music. She dragged along her latest flavour in boyfriends. Anyway, I found the conversation rather awkward and stilted, compared to meeting up with his other friends. He forgot to give me an "I want to escape" signal, like we had previously agreed on, but it turned out to be not that bad. He was really affectionate during the meal, though and made sure I knew he was there for me. That night, he asked several times how I thought it went. He said "well"...though we both agreed that her bf was really hard to get to talk. I also couldn't resist saying "I found G to be rather snippy, just saying" and he just gave me a pregnant pause and a glower...but I decided to change the subject and suggest we go out to do some other things, so as not to spoil our last night together. Is it possible, after all these feelings of weirdness and jealousy towards her before meeting, that after meeting I can be justified in disliking her as a person and expressing that to him? I found that she really excluded her boyfriend, who was rather shy. Then, the one and only time I misheard my SO and he was teasing me about it, she jumped on it and was bragging about how she had heard him properly and how strange it was that I had heard the wrong thing (I heard grandfather, instead of grandmother...seriously not a huge deal). The second most annoying thing was that she was semi-interested in what we had been doing and was a little competitive with what her and her bf had been doing (that wasn't the annoying part), so she somehow translated that into saying, throughout the entire meal, how very LONG I had been there (I had no idea 10 days was an eternity). Finally, the most annoying thing, which I think everyone at the table noticed and called her on a bit (thankfully...although my SO seemed to forget about that later), was when she said to my SO something like "those two will be gone by Tuesday, so you can come over to the place I am house-sitting and we can have some fun/ you can entertain me"--SERIOUSLY???
Well, I finally got to meet them all and I thought I would talk a bit about them--I would be interested in your opinions on the meetings.
L was the first. She is the one he says he feels like a big brother toward. I met her as the same time as his music professor, who was very nice but gave me a grilling about most everything (including my work situation, which made me feel kind of depressed...but at least she seemed to grill everyone). I think that lunch went well, overall. I found L to be either a little stand-offish or shy, but that is understandable for a first meeting. I appreciated that she had done cute things like reminding him to bring me lots of water (since it was so hot) and making sure that he got me flowers from a nice place. She even suggested that he compose a song that I dance to for his final composition recital in the fall--that would be entirely romantic, but his reaction was kind of hard to read...so I am not sure if that will actually happen. Body-language-wise, I was a bit surprised to find that she was really competing for his eye contact and making lots of goo goo eyes at him; that annoyed me a bit, but I didn't actually feel too insecure about it, because of how he says he feels towards her (that said she looks a little like Alexis Bledel, who is his celebrity crush. XP). The only part that really bothered me (and this is where some of you might step in) is that when we were leaving outside, she faced entirely towards him and was going on and on about how they had to play tennis together and implying that they should do it while I was there (good gracious, I was only visiting for ten days! The sport of tennis won't expire before then). After a good while, she kind of looked sideways at me and said "I guess you two could play me."
Thanks? I remembered, though, that she had asked us to play doubles with her and her bf (whom she had broken up with just before I got there) and I had thought otherwise for a first meeting, since I am nowhere near as competitive as they are.B is his best friend. We met up with her and her long-time bf at a fancy restaurant. All four of us turned out to really hit it off and it was awesome! The only chemistry I detected between them was that of great friends, so that made me feel good. I could see us going on lots of couples dates if I lived there. Oh and...best thing ever...B's bf asked if I had met G yet and went on about how annoying and loud she is and B even gave her a bit of a razz! It was fantastic!
G....*shudders* (She was the one I was dreading meeting). So, here's the thing...HE made the plan to meet up with her on our last night together. Bad idea, yeah? The restaurant turned out to be really nice and they played live jazz music. She dragged along her latest flavour in boyfriends. Anyway, I found the conversation rather awkward and stilted, compared to meeting up with his other friends. He forgot to give me an "I want to escape" signal, like we had previously agreed on, but it turned out to be not that bad. He was really affectionate during the meal, though and made sure I knew he was there for me. That night, he asked several times how I thought it went. He said "well"...though we both agreed that her bf was really hard to get to talk. I also couldn't resist saying "I found G to be rather snippy, just saying" and he just gave me a pregnant pause and a glower...but I decided to change the subject and suggest we go out to do some other things, so as not to spoil our last night together. Is it possible, after all these feelings of weirdness and jealousy towards her before meeting, that after meeting I can be justified in disliking her as a person and expressing that to him? I found that she really excluded her boyfriend, who was rather shy. Then, the one and only time I misheard my SO and he was teasing me about it, she jumped on it and was bragging about how she had heard him properly and how strange it was that I had heard the wrong thing (I heard grandfather, instead of grandmother...seriously not a huge deal). The second most annoying thing was that she was semi-interested in what we had been doing and was a little competitive with what her and her bf had been doing (that wasn't the annoying part), so she somehow translated that into saying, throughout the entire meal, how very LONG I had been there (I had no idea 10 days was an eternity). Finally, the most annoying thing, which I think everyone at the table noticed and called her on a bit (thankfully...although my SO seemed to forget about that later), was when she said to my SO something like "those two will be gone by Tuesday, so you can come over to the place I am house-sitting and we can have some fun/ you can entertain me"--SERIOUSLY???
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