I Think He's Mad at Me...

[TriniCherryPrincess]

Because I wrecked my car on my way home from school in a snow storm Monday night, my plan to go see him at the start of my spring break (this Friday) is unlikely. I'm still unsure at this time, anyway. When I called him about it Monday night we had an argument but he expressed genuine concern and regret that he couldn't physically be there for me. When I talked to him tonight there was no follow up really and he was interrogating me about my visit. It just was unpleasant. I feel unsupported and confused. Not much I can do until I call my insurance company in a few hours. I'm awake right now cuz I'm in pain and feeling bothered by my SO.

[Rugger]

Um what? I'm sorry he's in the wrong here. He's allowed to be disappointed, but angry at you because you crashed your car and could have been seriously injured? That's really messed up.

You need to talk to him about how you are feeling. I know he's disappointed but his main concern should be your safety and well being. So you can't visit this one time. You could be dead or in the hospital. He really needs to sot out his priorities.

[Oldblighty]

I don't understand why on earth he would be mad at you, I think he was more disappointed than anything and reacted the wrong way. You having this accident means your meeting looks like it will be cancelled which is unfortunate & he's obviously peed off about this. At the end of the day you could of been seriously hurt and thank god you weren't. So he should take a step back & be thankful...albeit sad your visit might not happen too....

[Alsfia]

He might just not know how to express his feelings. He'a most likely shaken and worried about you as well as disappointed about the visit, and he might just not know how to handle it. I know that I would most likely react with anger if my SO crashed, because I would most likely feel so helpless and worried that I wouldn't be able to handle all emotions individually...

[TriniCherryPrincess]

Yeah, I assumed that he is having a hard time with emotions right now but it has me feeling like not talking to him. Last night I got off the phone pretty quickly. I really don't feel like reaching out again. I have all these other things to deal with and dealing with that too is not something I want to do.

[Dutchie]

I wouldn't think too much of it, guys are usually pretty straightforward (although you would know him best of course ) so unless he says he's angry I'd assume he isn't I agree with what the others said, that he might just be worried, disappointed about the uncertainty of your visit and frustrated that he can't be there for you. Frustration can sound a lot like anger but I'm pretty sure it's not directed at you..

[Dutchie]

Oh, and if you want to be certain whether or not he's mad at you, don't be afraid to just ask him. If he says he is, you can at least have an adult discussion about it, and if he says he isn't you'll feel much better. You could possibly also discuss how he feels about the situation, how that affected the way he reacted and how that made you feel, that way you'll both learn and grow in this relationship

[Zantanada]

Frustration can sound a lot like anger but I'm pretty sure it's not directed at you..

This, this, this a thousand times over. Us dudes aren't always....transparent with our emotions. All you've gotta do is ask really...

[TriniCherryPrincess]

Thank you. If he still sounds the same way the next time we speak I may ask him about it.

[TriniCherryPrincess]

Update: We've spoken and since I've acquired a temporary rental car I will be going to see him tomorrow for a few days. He was able to get things off his chest when we spoke (I gave him the chance) and it pretty much like what was said here. Thanks all!