So this is not precisely a problem, it's only annoying at times, at most. I get this strange feeling with my SO when we talk about some topics, I feel like he thinks I know nothing about the world. Why? It is actually simple. I'm a virgin, I've never experienced economic struggles, my family appears normal, I've always been in private school, and at my nearly 21 years of age I've never gotten drunk or have smoked anything. SO sees me as a princess who's just gotten out of her bubble.
I admit my SO may have lived more, since he's been in 3 cities while I've lived here all my life, he had 5 gf's before me and he's my first bf. I also think he likes seeing me as someone who needs protection, since he LOVES the "strong knight and fragile princess" roles, and it is cute actually, but... I don't know, it is just this little itchy annoying feeling.
I know I'm not that experienced but I still don't like that he supposes that I've lived nothing just because I appear all "pure and naive", as some people describe me. He tends to suppose this with people who look innocent and happy. He thought the same thing about someone (I'll call him R), who is his friend and my cousin. "R is a rich boy who has never had a problem in his life"... but what R doesn't tell him is that his a brother with schizophrenia and his sister was close to death with leukemia.
Same goes with me, I've had experiences myself but I just don't go bragging on "oh I've lived so much, my life has been hard and that makes me wise". OK, I'm not wise, but I really don't feel that unexperienced. Then my SO has this friend at the place he lives, and he always tells me how experienced she is and how she has lived so many things, he even speaks with some admiration. This girl who has openly had sex with over 35 men. I wonder if that's what I have to for him to stop seeing me like the little princess who has just peered out the window of her castle for the first time.
I wonder if I should tell him about all I've lived, like actually brag. No, I haven't been drunk, and no, I haven't had sex. But there are lots of things I've seen with close people that have marked me. Things that are related to family violence in my best friend's house, death, extreme poverty on a side of the family, mental disorders, autism... etc.
It's so annoying!!! I do not like him having this image of me. Should I tell him about this or should I just get over it? I mean perhaps it is not that important and I am whining about nothing :P what do you think? Should I do something about this?
I admit my SO may have lived more, since he's been in 3 cities while I've lived here all my life, he had 5 gf's before me and he's my first bf. I also think he likes seeing me as someone who needs protection, since he LOVES the "strong knight and fragile princess" roles, and it is cute actually, but... I don't know, it is just this little itchy annoying feeling.
I know I'm not that experienced but I still don't like that he supposes that I've lived nothing just because I appear all "pure and naive", as some people describe me. He tends to suppose this with people who look innocent and happy. He thought the same thing about someone (I'll call him R), who is his friend and my cousin. "R is a rich boy who has never had a problem in his life"... but what R doesn't tell him is that his a brother with schizophrenia and his sister was close to death with leukemia.
Same goes with me, I've had experiences myself but I just don't go bragging on "oh I've lived so much, my life has been hard and that makes me wise". OK, I'm not wise, but I really don't feel that unexperienced. Then my SO has this friend at the place he lives, and he always tells me how experienced she is and how she has lived so many things, he even speaks with some admiration. This girl who has openly had sex with over 35 men. I wonder if that's what I have to for him to stop seeing me like the little princess who has just peered out the window of her castle for the first time.
I wonder if I should tell him about all I've lived, like actually brag. No, I haven't been drunk, and no, I haven't had sex. But there are lots of things I've seen with close people that have marked me. Things that are related to family violence in my best friend's house, death, extreme poverty on a side of the family, mental disorders, autism... etc.
It's so annoying!!! I do not like him having this image of me. Should I tell him about this or should I just get over it? I mean perhaps it is not that important and I am whining about nothing :P what do you think? Should I do something about this?
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