My SO broke up with me about 3 months ago because he said he stopped loving me. He finally admitted that after making up a reason for leaving me, which was he cheated on me 3 times. For some reason he thought that would hurt me less than the real reason. We had been together for 1 year. We stayed friends afterwards. We talked about his girlfriend and my boyfriend. Everything seemed ok. Him and his girlfriend broke up and I comforted him like I would have any friend. He told me I was sweet and went to bed. Last night, we started talking again on facebook IM and all of a sudden he started comparing things from now, to how they were when we dated. Like I like ice cream now, but I didn't when we dated. I talk more often, when I was pretty quiet when we dated. Just little pointless stuff that people notice, but don't really talk about. After about an hour, he told me he still has feelings for me and those feelings will NEVER go away. I told him he still means everything to me too. He got mad at the fact that I have a boyfriend and signed off. I texted him and asked him to listen to me for once without it turning into a fight. Then I said
"When you left me, I knew I had to distract myself cuz I have that "depression" thing and I knew I would probably cap myself if I just sat around thinking about you. So I got a "boyfriend." I've always had feelings for you...I could never tell you cuz I didn't wanna come between you and that girl. I just wanted you to be happy even if it meant leaving you alone"
He asked me why I was so perfect and he said he misses me more than anything and he'd do anything for me. I told him I miss him too and I went to bed because it was getting too confusing and hurtful for me.
My question is should I take him back if he ever asks? I love him more than anything, but when he told me he just stopped loving me, it really hurt. It broke me for a few months. I'm still hurting about it. I would take him back in a heartbeat, but I don't want that to happen to me again. I wouldn't be able to handle it twice. Plus, I can't be completely sure he really feels the way he says he does. He could just be feeling down on himself because of what happened with his girlfriend, and I'm the first sweet girl to come along and comfort him. I don't want him to be my boyfriend if he's going to leave me as soon as his ex shows interest in him again...
"When you left me, I knew I had to distract myself cuz I have that "depression" thing and I knew I would probably cap myself if I just sat around thinking about you. So I got a "boyfriend." I've always had feelings for you...I could never tell you cuz I didn't wanna come between you and that girl. I just wanted you to be happy even if it meant leaving you alone"
He asked me why I was so perfect and he said he misses me more than anything and he'd do anything for me. I told him I miss him too and I went to bed because it was getting too confusing and hurtful for me.
My question is should I take him back if he ever asks? I love him more than anything, but when he told me he just stopped loving me, it really hurt. It broke me for a few months. I'm still hurting about it. I would take him back in a heartbeat, but I don't want that to happen to me again. I wouldn't be able to handle it twice. Plus, I can't be completely sure he really feels the way he says he does. He could just be feeling down on himself because of what happened with his girlfriend, and I'm the first sweet girl to come along and comfort him. I don't want him to be my boyfriend if he's going to leave me as soon as his ex shows interest in him again...
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