I've already done several searches around the forum but can't find anything that really matches what I'm looking for, so thought I'd make a new thread and see what happens!
Now, me and my SO have a plan of him coming over here in June, and then stay here over the summer. This is no problem, my parents know about it and he's been here several times before and such. However, we are planning for me to go back to Argentina with him in July/August and then live there together (with me travelling back home for Christmas, and then back again after New Year). We aren't really calling it "closing the distance" because we need to start the visa processes and all that first, but more of an extended vacation and a chance to live together for longer than 2 months (which was the duration of our longest visit.
The problem is, that I don't really think my parents understand my plans, and I haven't really told them straight out that it's what's going to happen either. I've hinted that "I want to go back there for a while" and such, but they've only made a slight comment on it and then nothing more, so I don't think they're taking it seriously - but then again I haven't told them seriously that I'll be moving out either. Now, I'm turning 19 and since you're considered an adult at 18 they can't really do anything to stop me legally, however there are emotional problems of concern. I love my parents and I know my mum really hates the thought of me going away, as do my siblings (especially my younger sister who started crying and telling me I can never move out and leave her when I brought it up a couple of months ago with her, playing around with the idea) and I hate the idea of hurting them by leaving, but I love my SO and I just want to be with him after these two years of not being able to just have a normal life together.
I just don't really know how to tell them, honestly and seriously, that I will be going away after the summer. It seems so strange to be at the dinner table for instance and just go "Hey guys, you know what, I'm moving away to the other side of the earth this summer!"....
Then on the other hand, if it wasn't for my SO coming in to my life and me wanting to move in with him, I would still move to another country after graduation as an au pair/for work/travels because I've always said that's what I want to do, so it shouldn't be that much of a suprise, but still...
God, this became rambly xD Anyway, my basic question is just - how do I tell them I'm moving? How do I bring it up? Any of you guys have any good arguments that I can use when their arguments of "but you have your life here", "there's free education", "it will break our hearts" comes up? I'd really appreciate any comments or ideas on the subject!
Cheers
Now, me and my SO have a plan of him coming over here in June, and then stay here over the summer. This is no problem, my parents know about it and he's been here several times before and such. However, we are planning for me to go back to Argentina with him in July/August and then live there together (with me travelling back home for Christmas, and then back again after New Year). We aren't really calling it "closing the distance" because we need to start the visa processes and all that first, but more of an extended vacation and a chance to live together for longer than 2 months (which was the duration of our longest visit.
The problem is, that I don't really think my parents understand my plans, and I haven't really told them straight out that it's what's going to happen either. I've hinted that "I want to go back there for a while" and such, but they've only made a slight comment on it and then nothing more, so I don't think they're taking it seriously - but then again I haven't told them seriously that I'll be moving out either. Now, I'm turning 19 and since you're considered an adult at 18 they can't really do anything to stop me legally, however there are emotional problems of concern. I love my parents and I know my mum really hates the thought of me going away, as do my siblings (especially my younger sister who started crying and telling me I can never move out and leave her when I brought it up a couple of months ago with her, playing around with the idea) and I hate the idea of hurting them by leaving, but I love my SO and I just want to be with him after these two years of not being able to just have a normal life together.
I just don't really know how to tell them, honestly and seriously, that I will be going away after the summer. It seems so strange to be at the dinner table for instance and just go "Hey guys, you know what, I'm moving away to the other side of the earth this summer!"....
Then on the other hand, if it wasn't for my SO coming in to my life and me wanting to move in with him, I would still move to another country after graduation as an au pair/for work/travels because I've always said that's what I want to do, so it shouldn't be that much of a suprise, but still...
God, this became rambly xD Anyway, my basic question is just - how do I tell them I'm moving? How do I bring it up? Any of you guys have any good arguments that I can use when their arguments of "but you have your life here", "there's free education", "it will break our hearts" comes up? I'd really appreciate any comments or ideas on the subject!
Cheers
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