Not good enough for Mom?
So my Mom really does like my boyfriend. She thinks as a person, he is absolutely wonderful. She has a great relationship with him and they really get along great, and I love seeing them get along so well.
The issue is though...I'm in college and he's not and my Mom really wishes that he was. Schooling is a BIG thing to my Mom, and even though she really likes my boyfriend and gets along with him, she really wants him to go back to school and get his degree. He is not against the idea whatsoever, it's just not where he wants to be at this exact point in his life, he wants to become the highest ranking captain he can, which does require schooling and experience but the kind she is looking for. And when I tell her that he is going to school (for captains courses and licenses/endorsements) she says: "that's good and I like his goals but he really should go back to school"--or something along those lines. I know she means well with it but sometimes I just don't know what to say and at times I get really irritated with her when she says stuff like that.
He and I have already had the college talk, for the most part... We had an argument early in our relationship because he called himself "stupid" because he wasn't going to college like me. I got really mad at him because I do not think he is stupid at all, and it's not like he's not going places in life, he has goals and he has the means and credentials he needs to meet them so I don't think he should be called stupid by him or anyone else because he does have a goal, and maybe one day he'll decide to go back to school. But my Mom thinks that it should be right at this very moment. She doesn't think what he's doing now will make him much money (even though it will).
I don't know how to get my Mom to accept my boyfriends goals and I don't know how to share this with my boyfriend without him feeling like he isn't good enough for me.
Help?
The issue is though...I'm in college and he's not and my Mom really wishes that he was. Schooling is a BIG thing to my Mom, and even though she really likes my boyfriend and gets along with him, she really wants him to go back to school and get his degree. He is not against the idea whatsoever, it's just not where he wants to be at this exact point in his life, he wants to become the highest ranking captain he can, which does require schooling and experience but the kind she is looking for. And when I tell her that he is going to school (for captains courses and licenses/endorsements) she says: "that's good and I like his goals but he really should go back to school"--or something along those lines. I know she means well with it but sometimes I just don't know what to say and at times I get really irritated with her when she says stuff like that.
He and I have already had the college talk, for the most part... We had an argument early in our relationship because he called himself "stupid" because he wasn't going to college like me. I got really mad at him because I do not think he is stupid at all, and it's not like he's not going places in life, he has goals and he has the means and credentials he needs to meet them so I don't think he should be called stupid by him or anyone else because he does have a goal, and maybe one day he'll decide to go back to school. But my Mom thinks that it should be right at this very moment. She doesn't think what he's doing now will make him much money (even though it will).
I don't know how to get my Mom to accept my boyfriends goals and I don't know how to share this with my boyfriend without him feeling like he isn't good enough for me.
Help?
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