OKay, so my SO and I were thinking of meeting for the first time next weekend. My mom is very opinionated and pretty much hates I even started an LDR. I really dont want to have tell them hes coming, but I cant wait any longer to meet him. My SO thinks I should call my dad and tell him hes on his way after being at his grandparents in SC. I know either way my mom will be furious and I dont really care anymore if shes mad, its my relationship. Any advice for us please? Im 23.
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I would give her the heads up. Calmly talk to her and tell her that you need her support, even if she doesn't always agree with your decisions. Tell her you really need to try this out because your feelings are so strong and that you want her to accept this. Not in a pleading, asking way but in a friendly informative way as "this is how it is and I'm not going to change my mind".
I hope your mum will come to accept it. And yay for you being able to meet your SO
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Originally posted by katiecat08 View PostI know either way my mom will be furious and I dont really care anymore if shes mad, its my relationship.
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Originally posted by katiecat08 View PostI know either way my mom will be furious and I dont really care anymore if shes mad, its my relationship.Originally posted by Brieasaurus View PostThere you go. It doesn't matter how you break the news so just tell her that he's coming, end of story. I'm assuming you still live with your parents and that's why you're worried? If that's the case then and she disapproves, you're royally screwed. If not then I hope you have everything situated already in terms of where your SO is staying/getting around/etc. Hopefully you've been together for a while and skyped and all that.
In the end she deserves to know, at least SOMEONE should know where you are for your own safety.. and you probably should get her to meet your SO too, it might give her a chance to see that it is real.
Just tell her, if you don't want to ask her just be straight up and honest, if she starts to give you her opinion then say "I am doing this for me, you deserved to know and I respect you and that's why I'm telling you, but I don't want to hear negative views' .. or something along those lines.
Good luck.Met Online: February 2009
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First met in person: 4 April - 16 April 2011
Officially together since: 4th of April 2011
Second visit: 29 June - 1 August 2011
Third visit: 28 September - 15 October 2011
Fourth visit: 19 January - 25 February 2012
Fifth visit: 24 March - 12 April 2012
Sixth visit: 2 June - 7 July 2012
Engaged: 1st of July 2012
Seventh visit: 27 August - 23 September
Visa lodged: 5th of November 2012
Eighth visit: 8 December 2012 - 12 January 2013
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You dont have to ask their permission so long as you are looking for him to stay in their house. "I just wanted to let you know that he is coming for a visit. he will be staying _____ and I will be spending time with him. i would like for you both to meet him, but if you dont want to that is your choice"
If you are looking to have him stay in their house, then that is a whole nother story that would require their prior approvaleverything happens for a reason. We may never find out what that reason is/was, but there is a reason.
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Here's the thing, he will be staying at a hotel. I live with my sister. But I'm completely terrified to tell my parents. Well meet in a public place in daylight. He thinks I should tell my dad the day he arrives here so they wont have a choice but to accept it. I'm desperately wanting to be with him and I know my mom will be furious.
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Originally posted by katiecat08 View PostHere's the thing, he will be staying at a hotel. I live with my sister. But I'm completely terrified to tell my parents. Well meet in a public place in daylight. He thinks I should tell my dad the day he arrives here so they wont have a choice but to accept it. I'm desperately wanting to be with him and I know my mom will be furious.Met Online: February 2009
Feelings grew: January 2011
First met in person: 4 April - 16 April 2011
Officially together since: 4th of April 2011
Second visit: 29 June - 1 August 2011
Third visit: 28 September - 15 October 2011
Fourth visit: 19 January - 25 February 2012
Fifth visit: 24 March - 12 April 2012
Sixth visit: 2 June - 7 July 2012
Engaged: 1st of July 2012
Seventh visit: 27 August - 23 September
Visa lodged: 5th of November 2012
Eighth visit: 8 December 2012 - 12 January 2013
Visa granted: 8th of May 2013
Hawaii: 19 May - 2 June 2013
Closed the distance: 16th of July 2013
Married my Englishman on the 4th of October 2013
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